So much pain too much to do. When and how does it end?

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I have been diagnosed as of 2013. My doctors took almost a year to diagnose me. They wound up telling me it was due to a stressful.event. my ex husband committed suicide 2 months after our divorce. It was a horrific experience. Noone I knew had ever done anything like that. Well since then I have been on so many vitamins to help relive the pain and started on celebrex. Well now the medicine doesn't work very long. I work 40 hrs a week as an administrative assistant to 9 radiologists. I sit 9i percent of the time and when I get up. I have so much pain I can hardly walk. When does it evereally get better? I know my loved ones worry about me and I feel so guilty complaining so mich.

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    I am so sorry to hear what you have been through! I can't imagine the stress and anguish you endured. It is no wonder you developed Fibromyalgia!  The body can only deal with so much stress before it begins to rebel. Well my dear, just remember that you are not alone in your struggles. Millions of women all over the world are dealing with this on a daily basis. Obviously you are still dealing with stress since you work a full week. So there are ways you can reduce your stress dear. Are you taking Epsom Salts Bath Soaks? As warm a bath as you can stand. That has magnesium in it. A Magnesium supplement would be good also for the muscle pain. Start a journal Cori, and write down or type out all the things you are worried or stressed about. It really helps to get things into perspective. Talk to a trusted friend. Sometimes just having someone listen can help tremendously. Don't bite off more than you can chew. I like that saying. Know your emotional and physical limitations sweetie. Listen to your body and your frustrations. Learn to say NO to things you feel you just cannot take on. Rest when you can. Even if you need to go to your car on lunch hour and lie down. It makes a difference. Watch a comedy or a movie that makes you feel good. Do simple things that lessen the burdens you put upon yourself. We FM women are usually very hard on ourselves and guilt ridden. Which is counterproductive. Treat yourself as you would your best friend. If one medication is not working for you, talk to your doctor and try something different. Be proactive in taking care of your needs both emotionally and physically. Suicide is a terrible burden left on survivors. The ones who are left often play over and over the 'what if ' scenario. People who commit this act usually are focused on checking out no matter how much others reason with or try to help. Divorce is painful and if that were the main reason for making such a choice, there would be few people left alive. So never blame yourself in anyway sweetie. It is NOT your fault in any shape or form. Keeping a journal of your feelings and worries can help you to reason rationally with yourself. Sometimes emotions need to be put into words. You will learn to cope girl! Have confidence in yourself that what you are dealing with now in your life is nothing compared to what you have been through. And you survived! And you will continue to move forward in your life. One day at a time! xx
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      Magpie- than you for thenkind words. I appreciate your feedback, this site is a helpful tool with all that is happening. I know I am not alone. smile
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    Hi cori91711 I would go back to your gp say what your taking isnt helping for pain relief and can they give you something else. also could you reduce your hours of work. Alot of us have had to finish because of fibro. stress worry dont help our condition it makes it alot worse and causes us more pain. paceing with our condition is so important push ourselves too much. fibro pushes back much harder making our pain worse. and causeing us to feel quiet poorly. Their is no cure for fibro, sometimes you can go into remission where your pain symptoms may go for a while. but it all depends on how fibro affects you. as we are all different fibro affects us all differently. Your gp can refer you to a pain clinic some areas offer free acupuncture for so many weeks, and free hydrotherapy for so many weeks. fibro is trial error its finding what helps you what works for you by trying different things eg massage heat lamps herbal remedies. I would see what help support their is where you live. also some areas have fibro support groups they normally meet once a week. I advise to go back and see your gp they can try you on different pain medications. You have been through alot bless you divorce  then your ex husbands suicide. Hope you find something that works for you take care 
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      Hi Kaz, thank you for your feedback. It means the world to me that others understand.
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    Hi Cori, I can't add much to what Magpie and Kaz have said, other than that I had to give up work just over a year ago, and my life has been much easier to manage since. You say you are sitting for 90% of the time at work, so I would definitely advise  that you ask for an ergonomic chair if you don't already have one. Also, set your alarm on your phone, so that every hour you stand up and stretch, and walk round your office for a minute. That should reduce the difficulty you have when you stand up after sitting for a long time. Your employers have a responsibility to make things as easy as possible to enable you to continue doing your job. Have you seen Occ. Health? You obviously work in a healthcare environment so they should help you. Good luck, let us know how you get on. x
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      Jeanne Great advice. I will try to do exactly that. Take care!

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