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So over perimenopause

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barbara4093
barbara4093

I'm so over this perimenopause , i will feel fine one minute then the next ill feel like i have a pair of vice scripts on my head and I'll get nauseas or my throat will start hurting but not hurt when I swallow and ill have a headache , feeling like I have the flu and it comes and goes whenever it wants , and searching Google I either have a horrible std or I'm dying but all my Dr's visit tell me im fine and make me feel like I'm crazy when I mention menopause they act like they've never heard the symptoms on here or the ones I'm having , so why is it they don't know anything about these symptoms or do they and they just don't want to treat it correctly so they can keep pocketing money by miss diagnosing people instead of treating the real cause , I've not had a period in 6 months or longer but this month I've been spotting and had some blood show that would made me think I was starting to just go back to the bathroom and nothing , I feel like I'm going crazy , because I feel so horrible at times and I'm so tired of feeling bad , I'm going to the obgyn on Feb the 8th to see about hormones and to a ent on Feb 16 because I'm tired of the way my throat feels , I freak out when I read google , even went and bought a rapid test from Google freaking me out , I've had to deactivate my chart because if I see anything low or high on any of my blood work I freak out , idk what happened to my faith in God and why I'm allowing this to freak me out so badly , but having chest pains that come and go , and my left underarm pit hurting , and the middle of my back and sometimes my lower rib , I feel like I'm falling apart , I want to break down and cry , I feel like I'm falling God because I should lean more on him , I'm just so overwhelmed with this and since losing my husband in 2016 I feel alone since my boys are grown and have their own lives , I'm the one that has always been stronger for everyone but now I feel as if I'm falling apart . anyone else feel the same ?

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  • crystals51917
    crystals51917 barbara4093

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    I'm sitting here reading your post and I thought of myself about 3 years ago when I was feeling almost the same but worst. I had all 66 symptoms plus some and I felt like I was falling apart as well. It was a doom, depressing feeling as I would get up and think to myself, "not another day like this". It was a very uncomfortable, concerning feeling that made me cry almost daily. The doctors do seem to make us feel like were crazy and to them "it's just menopause" . Well to US "it's just menopause feels like the end. I have had all types of test, made my doctor repeat some test and all my test were great, Thank God. I tried everything in the book including the expensive magnet that lots of women were talking about here on this forum. The only thing that helped me manage and get through was first, Lots of Prayer, my family understanding and going through with me, taking supplements such as vitamin d3 & C, magnesium, omega 3, flax seed and a few more that my natural path prescribed for me...Oh Yeah! ONLY the Natural Path Dr was helpful. Every now and then I come back here to this forum just to check on the ladies who are going through what I went through to offer some hope. I'm not saying am out but I AM CERTAINLY a lot better! A whole lot better but that came with time. I still have days where I feel familiar symptoms and I pray and say God, please don't let it come back. As I'm typing my hand is numb and I remember that being one of the symptoms as well but I promise you, It does get better and YOU WILL MAKE IT THROUGH! I met an amazing lady on here over 3 years ago as we all were in the heat at the same time... who I am best friends with who guided me through during those hard, hard times. Keep your faith, continue to pray, find a good friend who understands to talk to and consider some supplements to assist with some of those symptoms. Remember our bodies are changing and we are losing things in our body that would normally replenish itself. Now we have to assist in that process. You WIll Make It and You're Not Crazy! Menopause is real. Menopause is a beast, but we WIN!! Hugs and Prayers sent your way.

    • barbara4093
      barbara4093 crystals51917

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      thanks i really appreciate it , its just i feel so horrible at times im like God am i dying is there something wrong with me their missing , I tried caffeine to see if it made a difference and it did lord it made me have worse symptoms so I won't be doing that anymore , and I've noticed dairy and sweets , kick it in worse so I'm cutting all that out , I'm going to a obgyn on the 8 th and ent on the 16 th and I will continue to pray and ty for the kind words , I just feel like I'm going crazy at times ...

    • crystals51917
      crystals51917 barbara4093

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      I know exactly how you feel. My eyes are so blurred as I write you and it seems that this is another symptom. I've made an appointment but all the test and appointments will make you feel that they are missing something.Any phase of menopause is RUFF but we have each other and Jesus Christ to see us through. I will continue to keep you in my prayers. You're going to get through this! Hang in there!

  • kat1996
    kat1996 barbara4093

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    Hi, I hope you are feeling better. So many things you mentioned I could have written myself. especially, about the deactivating my chart. I can’t look at a single blood test either. And after seeing the doctor, waiting for the results to be posted is agonizing. it’s the up and downs of this roller coaster that is really getting to me. I never know what kind of day its going to be when I wake up. I too am alone and my son is grown and on his own. I have always been the one to take care of everybody else, but I just can’t seem to cope with anything anymore. I have even turned in my retirement papers because I cannot handle my job although I don’t know if I can handle future finances but I know I cannot cope with work anymore.. i’m so tired of the anxiety, depression, not feeling well and just not being myself! I wish I would have know about this monster called perimenopause! i’ve probably been in it for several years and not a single doctor has ever mentioned anything. So thankful I found this forum!

  • ann19034
    ann19034 barbara4093

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    BARBARA,

    i feel so like you ,its a constant battle this peri menopause i tell you.

    im feelin so alone,redundant ,like im just existing .

    im living for my bed ,if i dont need to go out i dont n i stay in my pjs .

    • kat1996
      kat1996 ann19034

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      ann19034,

      Ditto on feeling like I'm just existing...staying in pjs and living for bed. I want the old me back!!!!

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