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elena56762
elena56762

Hello everyone Im 38 years old married for 10 years and hes a great man but sometimes i think he is my anxiety trigger every morning i take a.heart med and nothing for anxiety but yet i can feel it building up in my chest sharp pain all over my back shoulders neck num to my face and its always after i say the smallest things like hey bay i got invited to go eat breakfast with my bff he goes in this attitude thats uncalled for im always with him everday i need a break it will be sad if he is my trigger cause at the end of the day i pray for strength and if walking away from my marriage is what it takes to feel normal saf but i want out i love him but i have so many panics attack and anxiety that runs all over my body any advise

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  • lee12629
    lee12629 elena56762

    Posted

    I have a husband that can be extremely moody and yes I believe that causes me much stress,walking on egg shells so to speak.I have even told him at times hes making me sick.He kind of laughs it off,but im serious.If he has mood swings or is controlling,he most definitely can be causing anxiety.
    • elena56762
      elena56762 lee12629

      Posted

      Hes great with our son he cooks cleans pays the bills since i been off work cause of this anxiety illness but he gets mad for everything i miss myself already and my bff he hates her but my chest hurts every morning and i dont know how to tell him
    • deirdre._03652
      deirdre._03652 elena56762

      Posted

      Hi elena..what a lovely name, xxx

      Can you sit down with and explain calmly and HONESTLY. ..just how much pain you are in....you may break down, buts that's okay, you really, really need to open up to him....you must ensure up totally. ..he may surprise you. ...but you cannot keep this bottled up any longer...NO matter how he reacts at first....you need to be at ease every single day...when you get stressed and tense?as you will know. Your muscles hurt more...as discussed your brain is in turmoil that you cannot get rid of it ,,,or switch off,. So please tell him today, my heart aches for you lovey. ...keeping strong...it will not beat you....sleep tight lovey..huge. warm hugs for you...bless you...dee xxxx xxxx

    • elena56762
      elena56762 deirdre._03652

      Posted

      I did talk to him he saids whatever makes u happy he will do but then worries how do i pay my bills i cant work till i get all this undedercontrol its a big mess i pray every night for strength but ty
    • lee12629
      lee12629 elena56762

      Posted

      Yes money alone causes alot of stress Main thing is to really express just how much all this is affecting you to your doctor so you get some proper medication to help.
  • deirdre._03652
    deirdre._03652 elena56762

    Posted

    Hi again lovely lady..he listened to you...that is a brilliant start...I know however. Just what a worry financial problems.....even small. can be....is there any way at all...that you could work from home...or at work....do three or four days with longer hours ?

    Illness can be so unfair...it has an effect on your family and every part of your everyday life......

    Can you apply for benefits such as.....disability living allowance....I qualified for it as I have got other physical conditions...I got it first for my mental health problems....severe depression....you willknow that....and my physical problems.....it would be a big weight off your mind...and you can rest your body as well....give it a go....you have medical evidence from your GP and specialist....

    You really need to rest your mind and body

    ...take care lovey...you are in my thoughts and prayers xxxxxxxxxx

    • elena56762
      elena56762 deirdre._03652

      Posted

      yea i go to the doctors on the 17th cant wait hoping to get some meds to help me.sleep
  • deirdre._03652
    deirdre._03652 elena56762

    Posted

    Hi elena.. I do so hope that your doctor app went well. .. are you able to sleep well, and eat a little...rest and total relaxation are vitally important for everyone. ..

    Have you any hobbies that you enjoy..and..or close friends. .where I live we have a very good support group...once a month at a friends house...it is excellent as it covers, many many different things. .it takes is called...support for INVISIBLE ILLNESSES. .it covers..mental health. ..pain,....shyness,..eating disorders.,,disability, in fact every complaint where others tend to say or think....ŹWELL...YOU LOOK OKAY.... it is amazing how well we all get on as friends now....,maybe you could ask on line in your area....we did I truly wish you happy and healthy times lovey...warm hugs dee...remember. .depression is an illness ...not a choice....xxxx

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