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So sad today...

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michaelbra63653
michaelbra63653

Can't get over the blues. Tested negative today 7dp5dt. I tried telling myself it's too early, but that statement just feels like empty words right now. IVF and infertility sucks.

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  • metz74384
    metz74384 michaelbra63653

    Posted

    I’m sorry. You’re not out yet. But I know how it feels to be disappointed over a BFN. I was there just a few weeks ago. Hang in there. Try to occupy your mind and here’s hoping that your beta tells a different story.

  • maliard86469
    maliard86469 michaelbra63653

    Posted

    It is perfectly natural to feel the way you do but you are not out until AF shows up. It is still a bit early to test. HCG hormone doesn’t appear until implantation has occurred and that takes an average of 9 days. Hang in there!! Hoping for the best for you!

  • jojojo72338
    jojojo72338 michaelbra63653

    Posted

    I am so sorry. How many IVFs did you have? Just don’t give up, I hope your next try will be a successful one! I know how easy it is to fall apart and just drown in your sorrow. I was so depressed during my last IVFs… It took the whole year to put up with the thought that IVF wouldn’t work for me. I could have spent all these years differently, I could have enjoyed my life! I felt like a disappointed child, scared, and lost…

    I am sorry for such a long message. I’d like to put down one of the best lessons I learned during my infertility journey: not to concentrate TOO MUCH on fertility problems and be open to new options. It’s worth to try all the additional procedures like embryo glue, maybe some genetic tests. My case was the most difficult, I think because we had to turn to surrogacy. Anyway, I am so grateful there is always a solution to any problem. One just has to be ready to choose this option. Good luck with your future attempts!!!

    I'm very sorry for your loss and I know exactly what will be going through your mind right now sending you hugs if you need a chat I'm here xx p.s. seeing a psychologist is also a good idea!!!

    • michaelbra63653
      michaelbra63653 jojojo72338

      Posted

      Thank you 🙏

      I can feel how much your struggles have affected you. You are so strong

      It was my 4th attempt, and I am founding myself thinking about surrogacy from time to time… But I don’t think we have enough money for this…

    • jojojo72338
      jojojo72338 michaelbra63653

      Posted

      I can recommend you going abroad. I’ve heard of a possibility to try IVF a few times (I don’t remember the exact number) and in case of failures, there is an option to switch to surrogacy. I am talking about my Ukrainian clinic, but I am sure there are a few more countries with good conditions. You can freely pm me for any questions

      Hoping for the best for you! x

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