Social anxiety is ruining my relationships how do I make it stop?
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I started dating someone and things were going well. I decided to be brave and arrange a date myself. Everything is going wrong now, I wish I hadn't bothered and just kept myself locked away in my room free from this terror I feel. He said he would come and see me tomorrow night and I asked him to confirm details today e.g. Time. I have had no reply from him yet, I feel sick and humiliated. I will never get the courage to ask anyone again. I've taken propranolol to steady my heart palpitations down but I still feel bad. My friends think I have lost it because he always replies and has been in touch with me everyday for two months now and they see no reason why he would change all of a sudden. They don't understand what it's like to have anxiety though. My anxiety makes me doubt everyone, I always expect people to do the worst things possible. What can I do?
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borderriever bella72575
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Calm yourself, you will not get that far by worying and looking for the bad side of someone you like. I can understand how Anxious you must be feeling and it is not doing you any good.
When I was in my early days I always looked for the bad in people and in many instances I was right and my life was one big lack of trust. Eventually I moved away from people like that and made some very positive changes. Although give this person a chance it is all His loss
BOB
bella72575 borderriever
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Thanks Bob, luckily he has come back to me and is staying true to his word. I still feel vulnerable about it still like I am forcing him to do something he doesn't want.
As much as I hate this feeling. I just know that if I don't try I will end up all alone one day. I think I need to expect the worst so when it happens from time to time it doesn't hurt me as much. I need someone to give me a reason to trust them so I can learn to trust more people.
Jay84 bella72575
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Aww please do not beat yourself up, there could be lots of reasons why he hasn't been in touch. It's hard for anyone to put them self out there, and particularly hard if you struggle with anxiety but unless you do these things you will never become comfortable with them. I think that dealing with some knock backs (and I'm not saying that this is one here) helps you to learn that actually you are more than capable of dealing with them and in the long run can help you to become more confident in yourself and in your own skin. Hopefully he gets in touch with you buy if not you will cope and something better will come along!!
bella72575 Jay84
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He has replied luckily!! I have had so many set backs in life I need someone to give me a reason to believe and trust again. I think it's the only escape from anxiety when it's a social based anxiety. It's why I keep forcing myself to do these things which make me feel vulnerable.