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Hi girls I want to go out and socialise and go out with my friend but I find this hard because I feel I might not be able to relax and sit down and chat I'm anxious about it..is anyone have any tips people say you have to push through it but it's hard I'm in doors pacing the floor when I sit down my mind is about meno and I think about how I'm feeling so annoying when your trying to feel normal and get on..the summer coming and beening hot with no sleep ain't going to be nice for me..fed up with it all.

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    Hi Maria 

    I’m the same it’s my daughters 21 today and I was  so anxious as to wheather I would ruin her day by not feeling well , we had a family meal on Saturday at a lovely restaurant and the whole time I never relaxed, was constantly thinking I don’t feel well . It’s jsut awful being like this 

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      I feel just the same, if I’m asked out for tea or coffee I’m anxious the whole time thinking I don’t feel well and want to leave.  It’s got to the point I feel it’s just not worth going out. I can’t understand it as the lovely little tea room is in my village and it’s my sisters I’m with but I still feel the same, they don’t know this as I pretend to be ok as they wouldn’t understand and as iv been like this since 2012 they really don’t want to know anymore they think I’m better now.  I just don’t have a social life anymore as I’m so nauseas too so ratings a nightmare.  Sorry I’m feeling sorry for myself today as had a bad day yesterday xx
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      Hi Clare, thank you for answering me back yes..it's all over whelming are you peri or post I'm post hoping soon to feel better...do you know.of anyone that got better..just have to keep going I don't sleep very well either

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      Hi Clare, thank you for answering me back yes..it's all over whelming are you peri or post I'm post hoping soon to feel better...do you know.of anyone that got better..just have to keep going I don't sleep very well either

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      Hi Clare I had the same problem as u my daughter birthday meal a few weeks back was horrendous for me so loud and busy restaurant, I couldn't even eat properly I was so anxious I just wanted to run home and cry x

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      Hi Maria ... just been reading your post. I am post meno the Anxiety I found so bad .. that's how it gets you not wanting to socialise or go out anywhere, to be honest the only thing that has helped me is HRT. Going thru meno I did gets lots symptoms, But post is by far the worst in my experience. I had to stop it twice the anxiety came back awful.

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      i know I shouldn't but this actually made me smile and shake my head, because I have felt like you felt on Saturday at every single event, gathering, outing, anything! for so long and just wanted to leave.  I've stopped doing most things, which I shouldn't, but how are you supposed to enjoy anything in this state.  I'm glad you are all here to read similar stories..  and yes, it is awful being like this.

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      That's me too, currently in bed as it's the safest place for me😁

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      Wow!!! I have the exact same symtems you describe. Started August 2017. I have had MRI, CAT scans, halter monitor for 30 days and have had all my levels checked I’ve been told all is good. I have seriously been thinking about taking medication prescribed by my pychiatrist (Zoloft) I just don’t want to get any worse. I never know from day to day if I’ll be a mess or just mildly sick. I’m so sorry you have gone through this for so long. Please tell me it has gotten somewhat better. Sincerely Lisa
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    I’m Peri hopefully someone can answer your question . “ when will this end “ . 

    It’s good to have people in the position as us that can hopefully answer all our questions . 

    One day we will be on here helping others and telling them there is light at the end of the tunnel 

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    Hi Maria yes I'm the same as you, don't wanna go out and socialise as I'm too anxious which is not like me at all I just don't make many plans I'm in peri and know I've got a long road ahead so I'm trying to force myself not to become a prisoner iny own home x

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    You have to push through it by not fighting the feelings but going with it and going out have a distraction phrase to remind yourself you are ok .or. a word or whatever you say to yourself to refocus .you will surprise yourself but little steps just go out for a short time to start.
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    Try Spirulina!!!  I've been really anxious not wanting to do things especially when it comes to holidays or big parties, kid sporting events.. Unable to feel myself like I do at home.   So about a week ago I started taking this for other reasons (my hair) BUT low and behold I was actually CALM the days before Easter!  I couldn't believe it because usually I absolutely dread going to these things.  I was a little anxious during our family meal but not like before. I have a few things going on this weekend and I'm not remotely concerned.  It's like a 'go with the flow' type attitude.

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