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Son isn't happy with school

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toni07149
toni07149

so after a year of my son being neglected at school it has taken me 6 months to finally get my son into another school that is willing to cater to his needs problem is he was happy doing the half days extremely unhappy about doing full days all week he has spat at his sister hit his siblings told me he hates me and that he doesn't want to go to school and that he hate school he's tried sneaking toys into school for Comfort but they won't allow him to keep it they won't allow him to keep it with him or in school at all he keeps saying he's nervous about going in I've asked the teacher to speak to him to try and make him understand that he needs to go to school but he really isn't happy and I was just wondering is there anything I can do to help him adjust and be more happy about going in?

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  • louise21984
    louise21984 toni07149

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    So sad for you. Has your son been seen by child psychologist? Is he suffering from separation anxiety? Sneaking in toys = connection with home. Shame he wasn't allowed to keep one with him - is the school aware of his 'needs problem' and how to best help him with it?

    • toni07149
      toni07149 louise21984

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      no he hasn't and the school are fully aware of all of his problems and put a SEN plan back in place for him but just can't get through to him about him having to go to school and he is getting very upset every morning and soon as he comes out of school he says he doesn't want to go back in in the morning and I don't no how to help him through this because of his conuacation problems

    • louise21984
      louise21984 toni07149

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      How do you get through to him on other things?

      A child psychologist might be able to help. Though you'd probably have to wait a long time for an appointment.

      My grandson had separation anxiety when he was little. Some days we'd have to carry him out to the car like a stiff little board. Very tough, very upsetting. In this case, we were able to encourage L by having his best friend over to play with him as much as we could. Gradually it wore off.

      I hope other Mums respond with their experiences - something that helps.

    • toni07149
      toni07149 louise21984

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      with great difficulty there's a lot of things that he struggles to understand for example safety and eating. his understanding of situations is very limited even with keeping his room clean and putting rubbish in the bin the only thing he really understands is when you tell him he's making you sad because of the way he behaves or what he has done

    • louise21984
      louise21984 toni07149

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      It's good that he recognises the effect he has on you. Hope it's the same when he's done something that makes you happy!

      I'm a cognitive behavioural therapist, and it looks that you could do with some professional help right where you are. Are there support groups for parents of children with difficulties like your son? Can your GP refer you to a group or an agency that can give advice, or help? I'm sure you're trawling for information and advice. And I do hope that other mums respond to your post, too.

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