Starting a new job tomorrow after almost 2 years of extreme depression and anxiety

Hey 

First thing don’t worry dépression is a difficult to deal with but you know what 

It’s beatable 

You need to stand strong and tell yourself one day at a time 

First day will be difficult but the second day will be even easier

Be confident you have two choices one curl in a ball and let it beat you sounds you have done that before so stand strong tell yourself you are worthy of this great new opportunity and how by nailing this you are going to make people you care about proud of you 

I suffer from anxiety and negative thinking for 30 years but I manage it because I have taught myself techniques to manage

Stay strong and good luck  

Hey there!

I think the biggest issue is that you put too much pressure on yourself because you don't want to disappoint your father. And that is causing you anxiety and makes you feel like you are failing him and he isn't proud of you. I'm sure he is very proud of you for even trying to get a job and get help. It isn't easy to cope with issues like depression and anxiety and most people nowadays are luckily more informed and understanding of such situations. Relax and take a big breath. What is the worst that can happen? You can't work at the moment. Can you cope with it? Of course you can. There are plenty of other jobs out there and you can get a new one any time. You haven't disappointed anyone. On the contrary you are doing a very very good job in an extremely difficult situation. No one would expect you to be top fit and go to work if you had cancer or some other physical disease. It's exactly the same situation. Just give it your best and be proud of yourself for all the progress you are doing

Relax S & S,

You sound like I was 40 years ago. You're being too hard on yourself. I went out in the world with almost no confidence just like you and I finally learned to believe in myself. And here I am today, a 63 year old professional working in a field I love and getting ready to retire in 2-3 years.

Forget about your Dad, you don't need to impress anyone but yourself. And you have the capability to do that. If I found a way to believe in myself-and I had ZERO confidence at one time-you certainly can. You just have to believe that God doesn't create any mistakes, he created you for a reason-and that reason is not to fail at a job that you seem to be custom made for.

You'll have many jobs over the rest of your life and many more challenge and I believe you'll meet them all. From one guy who once had no confidence in himself to another-I believe in you. Go grab this job and start out the rest of your life with your first good step!

I understand...  I need a new job but scared to try.  But once I get I'm sure I'll be fine.

Congrats on the new position!!  : )   The first day is usually the toughest and this is for everyone not just you!!  Just take a few deep breaths and smile.  Think back on something that you have accomplished and go back to that moment.  It helps me to go back to the positives no matter how small.  That usually eases my mind bit so I can move forward!!  You can do this.. Best of luck tomorrow and please let us know how it went. 

 

The best part about this forum is to see that we’re not alone.  Reading your concerns made me realize that I’m not the only one who pressures themselves when they don’t need to.  This is a great opportunity to fulfill your goal of the kind of work you’ve been wanting, but try not to approach it as an all or nothing scenario.  Maybe it seems easy to say, looking from the outside, but I don’t believe this is your ONLY opportunity.  I just don’t want you to feel like you’re backed into a corner.   My therapist always encouraged me to consider multiple options, to give my brain space for positive outcomes:  “What if this job is something I really like?  What if it feels difficult at first, but then I learn things to apply to my next job?  Maybe my experience will provide me with more reasons to feel competent and confident in my my abilities.”

Man, I need to take my own advice!!

I hope you feel supported by everyone in here, we’re cheering for you.