Starting to feel frightened

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Im peri menopausal 48 and im now beiginning to feel scared on how im feeling. My anxiety and feelings of isolation are through the roof. At times im fine but when tbese feelings start im overwhelmed by them and feel almost out of control and unable to breath or cope with how unbalanced i feel. Ive been having suicidal thoughts though want to make it very clear i dont want to die, i just become so overwhelmed and consumed by these awful feelings and emotions i start to have the darkest thoughts. The thought of spending much longer feeling like this fills me with despair and cant see any light at the moment as i have years of this to go yet Im on hrt as well so am receiving help of some sort Im terrified to tell my gp how im feeling as have had a awful experience of mental health doctors with another family member . Ive typed this today as its another morning of these overwhelming feelings and im really really struggling to cope. I just want to pack a bag and disappear except this s**t feeling will

just come along with me. I really feel i need help

and dont know what to do any longer

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    Good morning Samantha, I'm sorry that you are feeling this way today. I know exactly how you feel. It will get better! One thing that you need to do is get your mind busy on doing something. Whenever you feel that way. The things that helped me through the most difficult times was praying, watching only comedy or light movies, going on walks, crying if need be, napping, reading post on here and posting. Be good to yourself. You are hormonal normal..although you feel so far from normal right now. I still feel frazzled in all of this at times but nothing like before. Please take it easy and know that things will change for the better for you. If you need to talk we are all here for you. Take care!

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    Hang in there Samantha... Better days are ahead, keep reminding yourself of that! And I know easier said than done, but when super scared and low, try a walk a funny movie a hot bath, a puzzle, anything to try and take the mind off of how your feeling and how long you'll be going thru this! Just know mornings seem to be the worst, and symptoms do cycle themselves monthly, so write down exactly how you feel every single day and date it, and look forward to that symptom ending on that certain day every month, these feeling will come and go...

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    Oh bless you.... Please dont despair, I really feel for you. I have had many days where you feel your truly on the edge and gripping onto your sanity. And trying to deal with the whole host of horrible anxiety and panic symptoms. Some of which you wouldn't even exist because so wonderfully bizarre. And I'm still trying to figure it all out and understand it all myself. But some symptoms can be extremely terrifying and don't think some doctors even realise half of the symptoms unless their a specialist. But I have learnt anxiety, panic attacks, panic disorder can bring some horrible st!!! 😢😵😱

    But one thing that does help is finding someone to talk to, and express your worries and feelings. I know it's easy to isolate yourself in fear of sounding mad, but find someone you trust. Or even on here talking can help immensely just to know your not alone, and there are many other women suffering in the exact same way, been true warriors!!!! 💪💪💪

    You will find the strength to get through this so please don't feel alone... 🙏♥️

    Try and read positive things to uplift yourself, keep busy and try to get out of your head. Exercise I find helps and just reading, articles that help or give advice. Doing anything that makes you happy and uplifts you. It's a time for you to love yourself and not feel guilty for doing nice things for yourself. Surround yourself with friends and try not to isolate yourself as this can make it worse with anxiety disorders. As more time for your head to think up horrible st again.

    Big healing hugs to you!!!! And remember you will get through this, and your not mad and not alone. Take a day at a time if you can...

    ♥️♥️😊

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    hello sweetheart, i am having a dreadful time with symptoms at the moment so you are not alone, i'm just so constantly overwhelmed with the moods, nausea, and lack sleep its hard to focus on anything else - its just unrelenting at the moment and i just need to feel normal for a while, but its just not happening, so i'm taking it one day at a time, trying to keep busy, forcing myself to eat - surviving basically but its what we have to do right now, i just remind myself that there is no rainbow without rain and this will pass, hang in there x

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    hi Samantha, I totally get where you're at. that was me 2 years ago. I'm 3 yrs post meno now and so much better...not 100% like i was, still anxiety lurking especially in work situations. but so much better. i agree with all the coping strategies written by the ladies here. i had cbt and wrote a daily diary noting anxiety/10 and circumstances, to establish triggers. not only that, i could clearly see that over the weeks and months, i was having fewer anxiety episodes. i did take anti anxiety meds tho, and am still on 1/3 of original dose. side effects were awful to start with but once that had subsided, i started to get my life back. are you on any meds? i didnt want to take them but i was so bad i couldnt do it without them. i reckon id coped with increasing anxiety for a couple of years during peri, til it went through the roof and i resorted to meds. so i guess it was increasing from 45, through the roof at 47 when periods stopped suddenly, meds got me feeling relatively good by 47.5, at 48 i started decreasing the dose, im now 50 on 1/3 of the dose, am generally good, back working, but some situations bring the panic back. so 5 years, reached an awful peak when periods stopped, 6 -8 bad months then progress with every passing month. on the one hand its been an awful experience, on the other its forced me to make some drastic changes...r/ships, one sided 'friendships', total career change. more travel abroad to the sun! for once ive met a decent man as well who is supportive, after years of making bad choices! its like i finally realised what's good for me! lol suppose what I'm saying is, meno is rotten, ive never felt so ill, so anxious and fearful. but out of it has come amazing changes for the better! sertaline and betablockers helped, this forum helped, cbt with a therapist helped to an extent. these things got me out of my own head and habitual anxious thinking from waking up. once that vicious cycle was broken, i was able to set my own goals to move forward (not to go back!) i accept that i wont be the same person...i'll be better! life will be better! it already IS and I've still got targets and ambitions to get to where i want to be. i hope this helps, to know that not only will you get through this rough patch, you'll come out stronger and happier than before. believe it and it'll happen 😃

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    Dear Samantha

    Anxiety is the worst of all synptoms. I know because I'm anxious every day - worst in the mornings.

    I worry about the future, if this will ever end, if I'm seriously ill and so on...

    But... There IS a light ahead. I tell myself every day and I start to believe it. I have been peri for at least 3 years and right now anxiety peaks. And a peak is followed by decline 😃

    I wish you all the best - you are definately not alone in this f* peri...

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    You are not alone... I feel anxious often as well. I can get overwhelmed with all that I'm going thru and feel alone mostly. I do feel s****y most of the time.. Just tired which the weather is not helping at all. What I do is TRY to put myself first. If I need a nap or to sleep longer, I do! If I need to stay inside for a few days, I do. And on the days that I feel half-way decent, I do get out- errands, swim, or even walk with a friend. I just started seeing a therapist and it does help to talk. I try to eat healthy and drink water. I just read an article about how protein and veggies helps with many things-- mood, depression, anxiety. Just be kind to yourself, listen to your needs and take one day at a time.

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    ive had and have these feelings . it first started for me at 41 then got better now its come again at 52. you just have to use power of mind and get through this ! only you can do it .

    try to ignore the feelings i know its easier said than done and yes my mornings are like a horror story i feel so bad and weird .

    hang in there ... its just hormones .. you control 'it' dont let 'it' control you !

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    Hi Samantha,

    Just one day at a time. You can do this. This is my worst symptom as well. I'll repeat one another already said, get busy. Go for a walk. I have a yard and I go out and rake or pull weeds. Not everyones thing to do, I'm just giving you an example. Watch a movie. I always go to the same movie that helps me get through it. I hand quilt. Just make a list of things to do to keep you busy. When your anxiety strikes then refer to the list. It will get better. There are good days to come. You matter!

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    Thank you everyone for your lovely kind replies. Im feeling much better today after a horrendous week of feeling like that. Ive returned to my gp yesterday and hes changed one of my hrt tablets to patches as he explained the oestrogen can take much longer to absorb into the body by tablet form so hoping the patch will make a difference. Heres hoping. I do excercise by doing very long dog walks which helps so much when im so low, but its when im at work that i really struggle when im feeling like this I work on my own as im a one to one dementia carer so its very hard to try and escape myself when this happens while im working. Does anyone have any tips of how to help myself while im working when this happens please

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      I guess the unpredictability of your work/clients doesn't help your anxiety. I'm doing adult tuition...I went in today feeling confident and well prepared, 2 of the class were negative before we'd started, then talking while I'm trying to help them, I've come home feeling quite stressed. and I had 2 mg of diazepam before I went to work! think I need to up my dose of prozac or go back on sertaline. for me its the unpredictability of people that sets me off and negativity! difficult to work with this condition but can't afford not to.

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