Still cant tell the truth about my drinking

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Writing this very hungover, emotional and anxious. Started drinking Saturday afternoon and drank all day (3 bottles of wine) felt so rough yesterday morning I got up and took a full bottle of wine back to bed, drank all day yesterday (wine and rum) and sat in my car drinking wine this morning in Tescos car park before getting to work. This kind of binge is getting more and more frequent. I really dont understand why I do it. I can drink normally when Im with my husband or family, but seem to loose all control when Im on my own. Ive been to Dr's twice to ask for help, but they keep suggesting anti depressants and AA meetings. I just need to tell someone how much Im consuming, does anyone else drink this much? Should I be asking for anti alcohol medicine?

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    Hi BopaT , alcoholism is a progresive disease, if as you say these binges are getting more frequent you may need to consider giving up alcohol- i'm an alcoholic i used to drink in the morning to restore the alcohol levels so i could function - i lived like this for several years before i managed to quit - i did try AA but did not find it any help - though many do find it a great help - i went to an addiction counsellor and started to deal with the underlying issues that i was hiding from- everybody is different in how they react to alcohol and how they quit- if they decide that they need to quit- i would be very worried about the morning drinking and the binge drinking on your own - these are not good signs - perhaps you might check out if there is an addiction clinic near you and speak to someone who would be able to offer you proper guidance and help - many DR's have very little  expertise when it comes to addiction - all the best -
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      Thank you for taking the time to reply to me,it means a lot. I know the morning drinking is a very slippery slope, one which I feel im losing my grip on. I really cant get my head around why I do it, I cant stand the shame and guilt, and the feeling that the floor beneath you is giving way. Very happy for you to have turned your corner, it gives me a bit of hope at lease.
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      It drives me mad that people are made to feel guilty for a problem they have because of a physiological problem. Since the 1930s, people have been standing up in meetings admitting their shame and guilt and blaming themselves.

      The feelings of guilt and shame make alcohol problems a LOT worse for people who suffer them. It is a physical illness. Every person who has an alcohol problem knows people who originally drank as much as them and didn't get into trouble. The problem drinker has a different physiological reaction to alcohol and THAT is what causes the problem. NOT a desire to self-destruct or to upset their family.

       

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    Hi bopa t,.....I am so sorry to hear that you are struggling so much....you must go back to your GP and make him LISTEN AND REALIZE...just how much this is affecting you both physically and as Importantly emotionally......ask him to prescribe antidepressants depressants, ( they really do help ) and to refer you a COMMUNITY ALCOHOL SERVICE NURSE ...

    You can actually just turn up at their clinics and ask for help yourself.....

    They are an amazing, amazing, amazing support, they can give you a home detox if needed, but more than help they will give you back your self. Esteem....I was a very bad alcoholic for very many years, but they helped me an incredible amount....try not to worry too much, you really can come through this... ( I was sectioned four times ) you can get your life back, you are not a bad or weak person, you just, like many others...have a problem.....never give up..go back to your GP time and time again until they really listen to you... I wish you health and happiness, in my thought...DEIRDRE xxl

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      Thank you Dierdre, I forget im not the only one going through or having gone through this. I will definately ask about the comunity alcohol nurse, would rather that than the anti depressants. Im happy youve conquered your demonds, it sounds like you had an awfull time x
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    Hi I have only just signed up for this site so I don't know if I can be of help to you.

    Silly really but you know its getting worse by the day, the doctors offer tablets, would they help you? Are you depressed ? Maybe you are looking for someone to dicuss

    this drinking situation with.

    I have no idea what anti alcohol medicine is or how it works sorry.

    Could the AA meetings be what you are looking for? The chance to break the habit, good luck.  Kenny

     

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    It does sound as though you need some help and advice. I'm a binge too and cannot understand why . As said everyone reacts to drink differently. I find my alcohol counsellor helpful. I was referred by my Dr but I think I am lucky and many Dr's do not have much understanding. If yours is not helpful there are other sources. If you look on the Internet you can find what is available in your area. You have made the first step admitting to yourself you're unhappy about your drinking and posting your message on here. That is very positive. I think you will find people very supportive, not just on here but generally. It does take courage even to admit to yourself. I used to feel embarrassed and felt so alone. I was surprised how sympathetic people have been and it feels so good to be able to talk to others who understand. I used to think I was a bad person and was very depressed about it but now I just see it as a problem I have and it doesn't seem so insurmountable. Don't despair this site is full of people who've overcome issues with drink and you can too.
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      Thanks Daisyjo, were all on here because of what drink has done to us, but thank goodness what Im reading has happy endings. I hope I can add my happy ending to this soon x
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    Hello there

    You have taken the first step by sharing your experience , asking for help and being so so honest . Please stay on this site , keep posting and take each day slowly . I know where you are at and understand how you feel re anxiety etc . Its really tough isnt it !! Like we all say , everyone is different ! . From my experience I am at the stage of drinking two glasses everynight and feeling so proud of myself , particularly in the mornings when I can jump out of bed with more energy and congratulate myself smile

    The hard part is that the evenings are long ! I am realising how sad I have been due to life troubles and that I have been hiding my emotion , struggle and boredom within the endless drinking as an escape !!! I tell you one thing though ....I am not going to let that drink monster get me smile I am a fighter and for once I am going to face my issues for real with a clear head and try my very best to make things better .

    I know its so hard somedays and its also really easy to beat yourself up for slipping off course occasionally but just take one day at a time and what is right for you

    Wishing you all the best ! you have support on here and from people who care and understand

    Stay strong xx

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    Certainly, things have to change before you are doing this daily BopaT. The problem will definitely escalate. You have an alcohol problem and you should look at getting some help for it. The most telling sign will be what happens to your body when you DON'T have a drink. Do you get physical withdrawal symptoms? Are you anxious, agitated, shaky, sweaty?

    There are two approaches you can take. One is to do an alcohol detox where you stop drinking totally and take medication to counteract the withdrawal symptoms (the appropriateness of this depends on how your body reacts to you stopping drinking). You could also try and get prescribed Nalmefene, which has been widely discussed in this forum, which allows you to carry on drinking but automatically reduce what you drink by blocking the additional pleasure you get, compared to people who drink in a controlled manner.

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    So, have I understood correctly that you are "skipping" the hangover by making sure that you "stay under the influence" in the morning? If so I would recommend the following - IN ADDITION to seeking help from GP / council nurse / whatever everyone else has already recommmended - FACE THE HANGOVER.

    Sorry, I just use caps to emphasise. Face the hangover. I myself have continued drinking in the morning to avert / postpone the hangover, but almost always while on holiday. If you're just having a "normal" weekend binge, face the hangover on sunday. Welcome the pain and nausea as the "normal" consequence of the binge. Try to limit the binge to once a week. Instead of having wine to "cure" the hangover, try a soup, pop two aspirins, drink water (also whenever you wake up at night). I don't believe in abstinence, but I believe that we can exert a certain measure of self control. Heck I'd even recommend telling your husband, he's supposed to go through thick and thin with you, right? ;-)

    Good luck!

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      Actually Jim0Marat, thats a really good idea. I think the majority of my guilt and shame comes from the morning drinking, and not being tough enough to face a bloody hangover like 'normal' drinkers. I often think to myself when I read things on social media sites like 'good night last night, paying for it today though' how do they do it?!? Why do they do it when they could just start all over again. But I suppose thats whats taken me in this direction. Maybe just face the hell of a hangover next time eh!?!
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      Why do people usually not continue drinking when they wake up?

      Nausea. Our body tries to convince us (our conciousness) that we should discontinue harmful behaviour. Living through the hangover until you feel fine again is basically a detoxification. If you skip the hangover by chuggin a further bottle you will postpone the detox. Postponing the detox ensures that your liver has no break, this behaviour is basically asking for a liver failure. NOT GOOD.

      The hangover is the uncomfortable part of your body healing itself from poison (booze = poison, yes, I like it too).

      You really shouldn't "skip" the hangover by continuing to drink, this is actually quite dangerous if you do it on a regular basis.

      Sorry, there is no elegant way to say this.

      Skipping the hangover too often WILL KILL YOU.

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