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Still feeling depressed...

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ag1194
ag1194

Hi Everyone,

First of all I would just like to say how grateful I am for this website, it is the only thing that reminds me that I am not the only one struggling with this horrible virus.

I started seeing someone a few months prior to my diagnosis, it took me a long time to open up to him until we eventually slept together. Two weeks afterwards I found one sore, I knew straight away I knew what is was, but I went to get tested anyway. I sat in the chair, and the nurse told me that she was 90% sure I had herpes- I have never sobbed so much in my life!! A month later by test results came back positive for HSV1. I couldnt even imagine the thought of having to tell someone, so I ended things with him very quickly. 

Over the last few months I have tried to tell myself that it is ONLY a skin disease, it only lasts for a few days, it really isnt the end of the world. But I then had another o/b two weeks ago- it just made me go back to feeling down and depressed! I have always been so careful, used condoms, had regular screenings- why me? 

There isnt a day that goes by where I do not think about my status. I have been asked to be taken out a few times since, but i'm too scared to get involved as I am terrified of disclosing. At 20 years old its such a difficult thing for people to understand.

I would just like to know how people try to cope with it, and how people attempt to tell new partners? I don't want to feel depressed forever! sad

 

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  • kaya38189
    kaya38189 ag1194

    Posted

    Hey girl. I felt the same exact way. I was sad & depressed, thought i couldn't date any more or have children. But my nurse told me one thing I will never forget. She said "if he Dosent accept it, that's his fault not yours". So the way I go about it, I don't tell them right upfront. You know you meet people but it Dosent work out. But if you like someone and the feelings mutual I would tell those types of guys. You can't let it control your lifE. It honestly isn't that bad.

    I hope this some what helps

    • ag1194
      ag1194 kaya38189

      Posted

      Thank you so much for the reply.

      Yeah, I know that it really isn't that bad... But other people don't! And everyone assumes its a disgusting thing to have. Just makes me feel horrible sad

    • kaya38189
      kaya38189 ag1194

      Posted

      Yeah. You can't live life worrying about what other people think of you. And it's something your going to have forever. It's a part of you now. Your not a part of it.

      you know the truth. If they want to call you names and say bad things about you/it. Let them, don't let it bring you down.

  • michelle92584
    michelle92584 ag1194

    Posted

    First Im sorry your through this .. I believe once you feel comfortable dating again if you find a great guy who Loves you he will understand and also not sure are there dating websites for people in the same situation? keep your head up!! hugs
  • Star1765
    Star1765 ag1194

    Posted

    Once you accept this and realize it's not life threatening, and manageable you will be more comfortable with yourself. Life is full of challenges! Your young and your gonna deal with a lot more as life goes on! You need to take care of yourself physically, emotionally and spiritually! You will meet that special someone who will love you no matter what! The person you meet is gonna have to be someone you really trust and ends up being your best friend , lover and hopefully partner in life! And that's how it should be anyway!! Be patient...😉
  • rj21813
    rj21813 ag1194

    Posted

    I look at it this way, life is already way to short why sit there and worry about it? Get out there and enjoy your life. You will find the right guy and he will understand and love you for you. Yah it sucks but until a cure is found there is nothing we can do but take care of our bodies, take our pills and keep calm and carry on. Worrying about it leads to stress, stress leads to outbreaks and outbreaks lead to being miserable. So take your pick. But me I accepted it and try to lead a stress free life. So its up to you on how to handle it. Hope this helps.
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