Still struggling to come to terms with GH 😔
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Hi everyone,
I was diagnosed in June and I'm still finding it really hard to deal with this. Mostly with the thought of dating and realtionships... When is the right time to tell someone? How should you tell them? What if they react badly? ..... The thought of also never having unprotected sex again with a long term partner is also kinda disappointing and doesn't feel like most men would be ok with using condoms all the time
What about oral sex? Do I have to use a dental dam all the time? It's just awkward and embarrassing!
Does anyone have any advice?
Thank you xx
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FelizCastus jessb1738
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Regarding when to disclose, and how, that's a tricky one, but as for long-term condom usage, you could always say that you don't react well to birth control, so unless they want a baby, they need to wrap up regardless! Believe me, most guys seem more scared about getting a girl pregnant than the prospect of potentially catching something, lol.
As for oral sex, the "good" thing about HSV-2, unlike Type 1, is that it rarely ever results in an oral infection. Nearly 100% of HSV-2 cases are genital. Also, genital HSV-2 protects you from genital HSV-1, so oral sex is not an issue, especially once you have passed the initial outbreak and antibody-building phase (3-6 months), when you are even more contagious (just as an added precaution). If you take suppressive therapy, even better! Of course, I am only talking about oral sex here.
As for myself, I have more or less finished my primary outbreak and am going out this evening with my friend for a girls' night out. Hitting the bars till reasonably late and I might even risk a couple of alcoholic drinks this time! (I already ventured out once last week, but no alcohol.) I'm not letting GH ruin my fun!!
Anyway, try to think positive and don't forget to show GH who's boss! Nearly always here to chat. Take care.
FelizCastus
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jessb1738 FelizCastus
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Ahhhh so glad to hear that! The thought of having to use a dental dam mortified me! I guess that's one positive thing from HSV2 haha.
Hope you enjoy your night out! Take a shot for me ha! I've been drinking every other weekend when I go out and it doesn't seem to bring on any outbreaks or problems .
Thank you for your time and I appreciate your reply 😊
FelizCastus jessb1738
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That's great to hear that going out and drinking doesn't bother you! Since I am only just out of my first outbreak, I am taking baby steps as a precaution. No shots, lol, but I did have a double vodka cranberry last night and was out till 3am. So far, so good! Next time, I'll try two drinks, haha. Take care!
Guest jessb1738
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As far as telling someone, I wouldnt say make it the first conversation but if you think you want to get serious with someone then you need to talk to them before it gets to the serious stage and definetly before having sex. If you find the person you want to marry then you can discuss with them about the unprotected sex and the ramifications of it. I would NOT recommend just telling the guy to use a condom and calling it good with out telling them. Even using a condom you can pass it along.
On the upside if you get the outbreaks under control it is totally possible to not pass it along. My fiance and I talked it over when I got the diagnosis and decided it was worth the risk to have unprotected sex. In the almost 4 years we have been together he is still hsv free.Â
Oral sex is fine to do as long as you arent currently in an outbreak. It is possible to pass hsv 2 to the mouth it usually shows up in the form of cold sores. As long as you are careful with the breakouts and keep clean you should be pretty ok
Hope that helps
FelizCastus Guest
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As for oral sex, have you ever given someone oral HSV-2? Because while possible, the stats for oral HSV-2 are incredibly low and it is very rarely symptomatic. I think if you avoid outbreaks, and especially if you are also on suppressive therapy, the transmission risk via oral sex is pretty much negligible in the case of HSV-2.