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I would appreciate advice please!. My ex and I have been broken up for 3 months. He broke up me out of the blue, but he wants to try to get back together. We've tried to reconcile twice. It hasn't worked because he tends to run away/"stonewall" when I bring up my fears & doubts. I obviously have them because he dumped me randomly. He wants to start fresh & act like nothing happened. He says things like "I know there is an elephant in the room but I was hoping we didn't have to invte him to table." OR "My biggest fear was that things would be so heavy. And that if this ends again, you will be telling me 'I told you so!" His anxiety has been an issue since day 1 but I've been patient & understanding. But when issues arises, he either stops responding or he refuses to meet up in person to talk. If he does talk about issues, it's through texting. He is 32, and I have given him 3 months of space/distance that he has requested. So if he wants to get back with me but refuses to communicate, I see it as him NOT negotiating/compromising my needs. Then he makes me feel like the bad guy by saying "You're making me feel pressured and uneasy. I have the right to say no to talk today." Should I just move on? (PS-he comes from a family that doesnt communicate problems so I know that is where he gets it from.)
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