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STRESS CAUSES FLARE UPS!

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jane87655
jane87655

I have been on pred for over a year started on 20 mg. reduced down to 5 then alt of family problems it's flared up again. Got down to 2.5 mg and feeling great then the cold weather and getting my business prepped meaning a lot of outside inside cleaning in the cold weather plus getting over a cold and broken nights from a new puppy! But what triggered it yesterday was a very bitter jealous grumpy 80 old member of the family turning up and being negative to me straight away, got me down and last night I was in agony, could barely move. Stress is definitely a trigger. I am not seeng her anymore she is not good for me so today I am upping my dose to 5 mg and will see what happens. It's so annoying and my husband has been a rock! This all originally started when I went no contact with my mother! The crap I had to put up with the smear campaign all took its toll so I think / know STRESS is a trigger. CHILL :-)

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  • jeanne333
    jeanne333 jane87655

    Posted

    You have the right attitude you just need to adopt a new motto .. you can borrow mine .. "I'm not going to let someone so petty, stress me out, upset me or kill me" I've learned to feel pity for someone that unhappy .. but I still avoid them cuz they arn't worth my time or thoughts ..
  • maid_mariane
    maid_mariane jane87655

    Posted

    I swear stress was a major trigger in bring on pmr however any stress aches my muscles. It could be a comment or just driving in crazy Toronto heavy traffic, so I avoid at all costs. As for disabily income I have been fighting with my work one and am in appeals. I wanted to retire and was close but nit yet ready so it is a bit of a burden and instead of helping they make it worse.

    I have enough problems explaining the fatigue, brain fog and the list goes on to my sps. and my stubbornness to do things so I'm not a burden but I crash and he can't understand when I may have done it earlier in the day.

    We need at all cost be stress free, at least for me. Good luck to all of us with insurance companies and unsupportive family, hang in there.

  • LayneTX
    LayneTX jane87655

    Posted

    Thank you Jane for being willing to post this!! I had asked others before what might have caused flare ups.  So far, no flares (knock on wood).

    PMR has really, really helped me to change my life.  I've always been more sensitive than others, I thought it was good because I was more compassionate and aware. But, then learned the hard way that all my fears, my trying to solve problems that seem so heart renching, letting people push me around, trying to control them, I figure if one is friendly and happy to someone they will or should be the same way back, seems it never or rarely happens. I just can't be responsible for their unhappy ways.

    Fortunely my Bowen gal is very intuitive and has opened my eyes to how I could be causing more pain for myself. I can finally meditate and deal better with physical pains and emotional. I'm finding what's MORE important in life are truly the simple things, because with PMR, doing some things has been very, very difficult and I felt like a failure.  I was learning to be an artist, but can not and FINALLY figured out its because healing is what is in my heart. Healing my body. Releasing the tension.  It's taken me a long time to learn how and I still struggle sometimes, but as long as I return to my new thinking, "chose joy", "all things will pass", "nothing is permanent", open my heart, and yes... I must avoid some people because I'm not yet strong enough to be stress free around them, but in small doses I'm learning "it's NOT worth being upset about ... ".  I'm trying to learn about the good energy, healing energy.   If you've ever had Bowen technique and tuned in to your body you will have felt that total relaxed, joyous energy feeling.

    So, hate to say it, ha, but PMR is helping to change my life for better. THOUGH I DO want to gain my muscles back and HOPE my stomach heals after or before I'm done with Prednisone! smile

  • karen28161
    karen28161 jane87655

    Posted

    Hi Jane , with you on this one STRESS defo makes my PMR worse ,I am going through hell with my wonderful dad at the moment ,neglect medically fron his nursing home ,resulted in amputation so I am going through lots and lots of stress helping the hospital with my dad find a quality nurse home ......I fell I am back to square one,lots of pain ,sleepless nights ,tummy upsets ,so like you Jane I am trying to chill xx
    • LayneTX
      LayneTX karen28161

      Posted

      Oh gosh Karen, that is aweful. My original PMR came on due to my father too, though he is the one making bad decisions. I'm so sorry your father is not getting good care. TRY, TRY to take care of the situation, but do not let it eat you. Try extra hard to know you can help without stressing you self. Ha, easier said I know. But in between do things that are beautiful, or find something to laugh at, now days when I do something stupid or something not working right, I giggle. I never want to have those sleepless nights or worry and trying to solve things beyond my control and wishing bad people would go away.  It just eats us alive.  

      Bless you and take care. 

    • EileenH
      EileenH LayneTX

      Posted

      After my husband had cancer we visited a colleague in Rochester, NY, who gave me a book - darned if I could remember the title or author now but it was Peace, Love and Healing by Bernie Siegel MD (isn't google a wonderful thing!).

      I can't remember it all but in it he spoke about how people could be poisonous to the stage of causing illness in someone else, I was a bit sceptical and my husband refused to read it at all, but one day I realised that my husband started to recover from the cancer the day his mother died. She was totally self-centred, thinking only how other people's problems would impinge on her, and her other son detested her to his core - as I was to find a few years later. David, as the younger son and only 8 at the time, had obviously missed something in the relationship when his beloved father had also died of cancer that his brother was all too aware of. In retrospect I think she had been the root cause of both husbands' deaths and was heading that way with her son. Her other son didn't escape - because the bitterness he felt, that David didn't, seemed to continue to eat away at him. She dragged me down too but not so badly - and I said no to her, the first person to do so since her first husband I suspect. 

      Bad people can be so bad for us - and it is often close family who are the most poisonous.

  • erika59785
    erika59785 jane87655

    Posted

    Yes, stress can cause flare ups and pain....almost right away.  I noticed it yesterday when I had to endure an unpleasant conversation with a person.

     

    • maid_mariane
      maid_mariane erika59785

      Posted

      Since pmr i to avoid people who cause pain. I ran into a poisonous old acquaintance and neighbor and i was overly polite and i walked out of the store in total pain. Since then i avoid at all cost, and all neighbors avoid them.

      I swear it was a poisonious boss who put me here. She lost a grievance against her regarding harassment to a staff and they still kept her. Leopards never change their spots.

      I also believe there is 1 in every family, my husband has a sibling that no one talks to, also toxic, so we all have them no sham in it just avoid it.

      Happy Easter to us all. Mariane

    • jane87655
      jane87655 erika59785

      Posted

      Messed up people try to mess your own life up! I wish I had a delete button! 
    • erika59785
      erika59785 maid_mariane

      Posted

      A good friend of mine said......there are people who tend to be contribulators to our life.....and then there are  contamiators, who we should avoid if possible.

       

    • maid_mariane
      maid_mariane erika59785

      Posted

      Smart friend.

      9 yrs ago in a matter of 7 months I lost my husband, father and my favorite job to corporate take over and best friend that I didn't get a chance to say good by. My Dr couldn't believe I did it or coped drug free but it was all due to great friends. I learned yrs prior in loosing another friend taken by MS at age 54 that life is very short and precious and there is no room for toxic individuals or pompous ones. Since PMR this holds true ten fold

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      Take care all and bless this forum.

    • erika59785
      erika59785 maid_mariane

      Posted

      You went through a lot.  My heart goes out to you.  PMR  causes us to be more sensitive to toxic and pompous individuals like you said.  We need to stay away, and use caution or we are going to hurt.  Bad stress is the worst for our condition.

      I wish you the best.

       

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