Stress of having to tell the family
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Do I have to tell my in-laws why I am being a bit strange and slow and in a need to hide away from time to time?
We are visiting family this week. I was dreading it as this is my first face to face contact with them since being diagnosed with depression and anxiety.
At lunch the delicate subject of my leaving my job has popped up and I had to be very vague about it.
The reason is my depression and how awful everything has been in my all so perfect life.
Anyway, I'm so anxious now. Don't feel I can trust anyone here to be open and honest. I fear they will not understand. My mother-in-law is very judgemental.
I've been doing so well recently. And today I feel so anxious. Need to go now, put my cheerful mask on - it's exhausting. The pretending.
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rich98378 jellyJo
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georgeGG rich98378
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jellyJo georgeGG
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I'd rather be at home, in my safe little bubble.
But I'm here now, at the moment hiding away in a bedroom using an excuse of putting my youngest to bed.
I have 7 days of that to come.
Good job I packed my running shoes. Another good excuse to leave them all to it.
Thanks for your comments
anne240 jellyJo
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Put on those running shoes, and run. The exercise should help a bit. I know how exhausting it is pretending everything is OK, when inside you want to collapse and be alone.
If you have the support of your husband, he wiull be able to get you through this week. He will know how to handle the situation. It is a shame you cannot confide in your inlaws, and I do understand.
Take care, and let us know how you get on.
How many children have you got?
hypercat jellyJo
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You don't have to tell anyone you don't want to but how about saying you are tired (this is common with children) and feeling a bit down at the moment. You haven't got to go into details or even mention the word depression do you?
With your hubbys help you will find a way round it and maybe he and the kids could go out with his parents and leave you at home a couple of times? That would help wouldn't it?
I do think you should go though - it is not good for you to hide yourself away and think how proud you will feel when you come back a survivor. x