Struggling at university
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I'm currently in my first term at university and I'm really struggling with my anxiety. I moved about 2 hours away from home to university so I could have a student experience, but my anxiety means I'm not getting that experience as I can't go on nights out in fear of suffering a panic attack.
I go home every weekend as I'm massively homesick and hate being in halls as they are not homely and I feel so alone. I've tried everything from speaking to student services for support (who are massively overstretched), to joining a sports team and going to the gym.
I really don't know what to do as I'm already taking propranolol, I've received cbt for nearly 5 years and I feel like I'm just getting worse. I really feel like my anxiety is going to cause me to drop out of university but I feel trapped here as I do not want to let my friends and family down and I don't feel like I would be able to cope with a job with how my anxiety is at the moment.
Does anyone have any advice of how to get my anxiety under control?
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javier58333 alicia81671
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alicia81671 javier58333
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When I'm busy and have things to be getting on with (i.e. in the day, my anxiety is generally lower) however, my main issues are with night time and sleep... I find my halls very claustrophobic and start to feel very lonely and my anxiety level rises. My symptoms include an increased breathing rate, tight chest and the inability to think of anything else or clear my mind and relax.
javier58333 alicia81671
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Try going out and meet new people, might be hard if you're not very social but you have to overcome that obstacle. A pet can also help fill up that loneliness, pets really help. Have you discussed with your family about your anxiety?Talk with them or any close friends u may have, you're gonna need help to overcome your anxiety.
leigh21505 alicia81671
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Italia06 alicia81671
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Alicia try to get to the root of your problem...the anxiety is the result of it. Likewise, I used to suffer from panic attacks years ago that came on suddenly and out of nowhere. fortunately they were quick and brief so i would typically do my best and struggle through them if i was out in public, with my friends, etc... they did get so bad at one point where it felt like i could walk or drive...felt dizzy and off balance. anyway, i didn't let it take over my life and rather viewed them as an inconvenience and just dealt with them. i eventually got to the point where i could just will them away mentally. i did focus on trying to get good sleep and believe it or not...jogging 3 days a week if not more helped out quite a bit. many times i'd push so hard while jogging because the fatigue and pain of jogging seemed to eliminate the anxiety and thought of panic attacks. it's a little hard when you're gasping for air and have side-stitch to worry or feel anything else. don't drop out of college or quit. you need to put yourself in those uncomfortable situations, put up a fight. continue on with your life...as horrible as panic attacks are and how they somehow make you believe you're dying as you're having them...eventually you realize that you're fine afterwards. slowly i didn't fear them anymore and when they happened i'd get frustrated and would tell myself, "i don't have time for this right now, hurry up and let's get this over with..." Again, don't avoid situations and just keep telling yourself it's just anxiety and that you're fine physically. And stop worrying about your family and friends when it comes to expectations or disappointing them...you're just creating yourself more stress. Remember at the root of anxiety and depression is worry...so work on not worrying so much. Surely, you have hobbies or things you enjoy...try to focus on that, get some rest and if you're a caffeine fanatic...try to reduce your daily intake...caffeine and anxiety do not mix well. gradually taper though...two cups of coffee daily...reduce to cup and a half for a week or two..then a cup etc...slow taper. anyway, good luck...stop worrying because you'll be fine and do what's best for you don't worry about family and friend expectations.
Anxious_Nick alicia81671
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Hello Alicia. There will naturally be people who disagree with me, but I'd like to offer you some advice. It's important not to have a fear of letting people down. When you're suffering from very bad anxiety, as you clearly are, the first priority should be on yourself and your own health. Try to manage as best you can in your current circumstances. Continue with the CBT and medication, maybe talk with your Dr about finding new medications or a new regimen that will help you more. Try to find social spaces where you feel safe and comfortable. But if you feel you need to go back home, do it. Don't let someone make you feel bad about doing what's best for you. In the long run your health is what matters. Please feel better my friend. I'll be thinking of you - good vibes!