Struggling going to work and asking for time off
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i just started feeling depressed and always had aneixty which is making doing job very hard. i want to ask my boss for time off or work less days instead of 5 days cause i get 2 days off a week but sometime there arent consecutive. but my problem is im per diem and feel like they can let me go for no reason. ive been getting more upset stomach and not sleeping through the night.
please any advice or ur experiences?
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jan34534 Drewski55
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nothing is worth ruining your health. And employer can let anybody go regardless if they are Per diem or full time or part time. They don’t have to have a reason. I took time off of my job for the same reason.
it’s not going to hurt anything if you ask for some time off or to work less days. Because if you don’t, you’re just going to continue feeling miserable. Just see what they say. If they say no, then you have to make a decision on whether it’s worth it or not to stay there. But don’t sacrifice your health!
if you really need to, you can find something else. Take care of yourself first.
Drewski55 jan34534
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Thanks Jan, your right. I thought they might be OK with it, I won't know till I ask. I always assume the worst.
secret47800 Drewski55
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I'd just be honest and say that right now you are struggling with your mental health and need a few days to yourself to rest and recover and would it be possible to take a few days holiday? Or could you work maybe a day on and then day off or start later or finish earlier etc obviously whatever they can accommodate to help you. Good luck and take care
Drewski55 secret47800
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Thanks, I thought to be honest and say something like my work is being affected by my personal life. I already called out sick one day cause I was up most of the night from a panic attack.
I also know that you can not be fired for depression and thought maybe to say but feel like then everybody will know my personal problems cause the chef has a big mouth.
secret47800 Drewski55
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Yea they defo can't just sack you for depression! You could say that you feel as tho your work is being affected and you need a few days off. And you could also say you'd appreciate if they kept this private as you are going through a hard enough time as it is without having your colleagues discussing it behind your back. And then if the chef does say anything you can ask your manager why they discussed it with others. Not that that will happen cos it will be okay. Chin up!
Drewski55 secret47800
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Thanks for the advice, I will try that. Cause I dont think I will feel better going through this. Im always thinking Im not fulltime, being per diem they could cut my hours anytime and in a way I hope they do so I can not get stressed from thinking about the job but I guess Im scared they will cut me loose and I feel right now I will have no purpose using this job as a distraction from my depression.
secret47800 Drewski55
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Please try not to worry about loosing your job I genuinely don't think you can just get sacked without a good reason. And depression isn't one of them. Maybe you should try and find a way to distract yourself apart from working because then it will just become a burden going to work. Even some light exercise like stretching might help.
Just speak to your manager and be honest. Last year I went through a very very rough patch and told noone until I had to and my manager was very understanding its mroe common then you think so they might of dealt with a similar situation before.
Maybe look into breathing exercises and meditation for your panic attacks incase it flares up at work and then you can get straight in control.
jan34534 Drewski55
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companies cannot fire you for needing a mental health leave. I’m not sure where you live but in the US that is true. I worked for a health insurance company and you would not believe how many people took a mental health leaves. Including myself. They would get in trouble if they tried to do that. Just take care of yourself and tell them what your needs are. This is something you truly need and don’t try to guess what they are thinking it really doesn’t matter just stick up for yourself and be honest!
enjoy your leave! It’ll be worth it .
Drewski55 jan34534
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Thank you so much for your advice everyone. It has helped so much. I called hr and was able to take at least 7 days of a leave don't know how long I can take and feel like I am hurting my chance of landing a permeant position. but to be honest for the first time I somewhat don't care and it feels good to focus on myself and not stress what others think. I don't think that place was for me. I realize my thoughts and worries are affecting my health.
Drew
Drewski55
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Thanks everyone great advice. I had horrible day because I caused a scene with another coworker. Looking back I was jus being stupid. But luckily he is a very understanding guy and helps take my mind off stuff. I should have used common sense and realize he was.
I even talked with the sous chef and mentioned my concerns of a few minor mistakes I have made. He put me at ease and said that it would most likely come from corporate, something very rare, to be fired. He seemed to have no issue with me and when I bring up these concerns he looked confused. I was even stupid to bring up another co workers name and should have kept my big mouth shut. I should realize Im there to work not to socialize.
I had a chance when I was with him to ask him to work fewer days but chickened out cause Im afraid of his response, he might be like do you even want to be here, I don't know.
I am seeing a therapist, you think he can write a note to take a medical leave? He didnt diagnose me but Ive been told about 7 years ago I have depression.
I live in NY and saw this
New York's Paid Sick Leave Law
Effective September 30, 2020, employers in New York state must provide employees with up to 56 hours of paid sick leave per year. Qualifying reasons for leave include:
the mental or physical illness of an employee or an employee’s family member
dont know if that applies but i shiould look into it.
God I hate this situation I felt my depression messed up my work. And whats funny i think i saw this coming.