Struggling socially and physically

Posted , 3 users are following.

I'm 51 and been off from work with WRS, anxiety and depression. After 4 months I am about to go back to work. However, despite a regular fitness regime I am still struggling physically with domestic multi-tasking chores.

My husband has also just had a thrombosis health scare and that incident was understandably very stressful.

I have a 13 year old son who leads a busy life and needs driving to his various events. I find the socialising aspect (parents events) very difficult. I used to lead a very active social life in amateur dramatics but although still a social member I go to events but I'm inwardly screaming to get out of there.

Is this a sign that I'm just not over my depression? How will I cope back at work as a teacher?

1 like, 8 replies

Report / Delete

8 Replies

  • Posted

    have you tried therapy? i ve been battling depression and severe anxiety for the past two years! i dont take meds, i am completely against psychotropic meds, so im doing it on my own. i took up yoga and meditation. im seeing a therapist and joined some workshops reccommended by my therapist. and yes, those are all signs of anxiety! Breathing exercises are a great tool also, you can find them on youtube! good luck!

    Report / Delete Reply
  • Posted

    hi sally, i think i may have commented om here before. if you work as a teacher haven't they taken steps for you to go back slowly? if not i'd be asking to see what steps they've taken. going back full time (or part time for that matter) , you may need time to adjust stil

    don't feel pushed. you need to remember why you're going back, maybe that will be your motivation. i wish you. you are a brave person.🙂

    Report / Delete Reply
    • Posted

      Thanks for that Sam. I'm not feeling brave at all. Have an upset stomach but don't know if its anxiety or a bug. Feel awful. I'm only going back because my family needs my income. I have agreed a very gradual phased return however, it is as if a light switch inside has been turned off. Not one aspect of the job is driving me to return.

      Report / Delete Reply
    • Posted

      oh gosh, i don't know what to say. it',s sounds like a dreadful situation. i left work reluctantly 7/8 years back because either i saw my dad die from distance or i spent as much time with him as i good. i was a t.a in a school but if i go back the kids will be my drive to do so. nothing else. can you not work elsewhere? think about it money or happiness? you have to what's right for you, i am only going back because of the money and the kids. i have no children, so that bit hurts, my mum says go work in retail but that definitely isn't right for me. when do you go back? let people come to you and for your stomach it's probably churned up. you'll if it's a bug - maybe check this out at your doctors 1st. i wish you masses of luck. think only of your kids, nobody else. it will be immensely tough but the same for me. we hope we both do ok. p.m if you want.

      Report / Delete Reply
    • Posted

      Hi Sam. If I exercise in the morning it does help control my anxiety but I am really struggling with going back to teaching. As the date gets closer the more convinced I am that it is wrong. Some things have been put in place to limit the bullying I experienced but that was only part of my problem. How do I return to a place that caused me so much mental harm. Of course it may not be as bad as I fear but I am finding it really really tough. If only I didn't have to financially.

      Report / Delete Reply
    • Posted

      Hi Sally, what I have read is what happened to me over 7/8 years back which is the main reason I pulled out of my job. I worked in a school as a t.a and this time the management picked off every weak member of staff to have the school streamlined they wanted. I left in the end due to ill health and tried to go back at the start of this year to but something happened beyond my control and I was forced to resign, which I was personally quite saddened about. I have now discovered for all those years I didn't work that I have had an unknown, misdiagnosed health condition that forced me out of work. It's something I can heal from but slowly but it gives me a chance to go out and work part-time. I am looking to work back in a school because it's something that I proved I could do when I worked part-time this year. I will support you if you support me, I am quite scared because if my health goes wrong again it could stop me working again. I know what schools are like - bullying is rife. Think only of you, the children you are supporting and see it as a test and temporary thing thinking what other field could I go in to? That may help you. Oh and also think the bullies may get their comeuppance quicker than you, so ha ha shame on them. If they start again your union will still be on your side and so will I. I loathe bullying and have seen what work place bullying does. It caused me to self harm. Not any more, I won't be working NEAR the school where I was, so won't see their horrid faces again!

      Report / Delete Reply

Join this discussion or start a new one?

New discussion Reply

Report or request deletion

Thanks for your help!

We want the forums to be a useful resource for our users but it is important to remember that the forums are not moderated or reviewed by doctors and so you should not rely on opinions or advice given by other users in respect of any healthcare matters. Always speak to your doctor before acting and in cases of emergency seek appropriate medical assistance immediately. Use of the forums is subject to our Terms of Use and Privacy Policy and steps will be taken to remove posts identified as being in breach of those terms.

newnav-down newnav-up