Struggling to fully comprehend my genital herpes

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So I was diagnosed yesterday with genital herpes, something I got from my partner (who's only ever had colesores) however, my partner and I aren't dating. We've just been seeing each other for the past few month (but been friends for 2 years) so I feel like he won't want to continue anything with me now that he knows I have it and I feel like no other person in general will want anything to do with me. I feel like I'm now going to die alone and never have kids or anything. Help

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    Know the feeling !!! But if he really cares he will be there for you . The guy who gave it to me we were off and on for 7 years. He will not even talk to me after I was diagnosed positive he know he was all ready but didn't do or say anything just You will make it. Has he been tested you may have gotten it from him take care

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      I am doing good. Just taking it one day at a time. I think that is all any of us can do . How are you ?
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      Chances it's from my current partner are high because he has HSV- 1 (oral) and I knew that but I didn't think anything would happen or anything especially since he hasn't had a cold sore in years. But I found put that HSV-1 can give you HSV-2. I've convinced him to still go get tested even if it's on fill that he has type 1. Thankfully he hasn't been an ass about it but I'm still do concerned that if he comes back negative for hsv2 he won't want to continue seeing me nor will anybody else.

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    It’s easy better said than done ! Rachel you will get through this and you will make it and have beautiful life with a beautiful family! You still the same person before you was diagnosed with this virus ! Trust me you are not alone ! My friend always told me , I am NOT my situation and  you get through this , I promise better days are going to come ! I have a partner as well , I never had any symptoms until I started talking to him , November will make a year that we have been dealing and he haven’t had any symptoms. I’m still working on telling him that I have Genital herpes , I have not had sex with since I been diagnosed . I honestly don’t know if I have hsv2 because my scores from the Igg test were low but my score for hsv1 was very high which I expect . So I’m talking one day at a time & praying that this doesn’t come out one day with him . I honestly think this will definitely come between us . I’m dreading the day slowly for me to tell him. Iim honestly waiting till the time is right bc I just don’t want to put myself out there.. you know? So I know how you feeling . All you have to do is remind yourself that you will be okay and everything is just going to be just fine ! So many carry this virus with out even knowing !!!!!

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      Thanks! I definitely get where you're struggling with telling him. I told my guy once I left the hospital but I know I'll be a mess for any future partners and will avoid telling them and avoid sexual activity. I'm already freaking out around my house by cleaning the tub with bleach before and after the bath, not letting my mother touch my dirty clothes or anything because I'm so scared I'll pass it to them.

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      I had no problem telling him because he know !!!# Didn't care that he knew and not say anything then be MAD at me.... I don't think you have to worry about your clothes or bath tub I told my doctor about things I was told to do and she said some were really crazy She told me the main thing was washing your hands,no one use your personal items, not to let anyone drink out of your cup or glass, really just what you would do if you had something contagious. We will make it . Keep the faith and let me know how you are doing

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