Struggling with herpes diagnosis

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I was diagnosed with HSV2 a few months ago. It has completely devastated me. I have never even had a one night stand. I got it from my partner who contracted it when he was 19 from his long term girlfriend. When he was diagnosed, his dr gave him a whole bunch of misinformation so he didn't even know what it was until I was diagnosed. His dr didn't even do a swab on his sores. I feel completely worthless as a woman. I was on holiday when I was diagnosed and when I went to see my regular dr, I couldn't even bring myself to tell her. I just handed her my test results. I just don't know how to accept this and be ok with myself. I am completely disgusted with myself. It has killed my sex drive and I can't stand to look at myself. My partner adores me and feels like s**t for what's happened. I just feel that outside this relationship, as a person in my own right, I'm nothing. How do I move on from feeling like this?

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    Keep your head up. Theres so much more to life than this diagnosis. I was once here, feeling as you are feeling but do some research. The best thing you can do for yourself right now is take care of yourself. If you need to talk, I'm here. Get better❤

  • Posted

    Don't let having herpes define who you are. You are obviously a lot more than that. The WHO (World Health Organization) released a pretty recent report where they estimate that two-thirds of the world's population between the ages of 14-50 have HSV-1, which is usually the oral type, but it can infect and affect the genitals, too. It's a very common thing with still a lot of really backwards stigma around it. Forget the stigma, try to push that you have this virus out of your mind, and live your life. It's short enough as it is without burning days being depressed about a virus which is relatively harmless, just occasionally incredibly annoying for a week or two. Anti-virals help a lot with many people to really shorten duration of outbreaks. You can also take anti-virals daily as suppression therapy if you wish, and if you can afford. Go see your doctor and talk about it and see what she/he thinks.

  • Posted

    i feel the exact same way & my partner of 14 yrs that gave it too me , left me . now i feel like ill nvr have sex again but worst. ill nvr fall in love again. ppl suck .

    • Posted

      I'm truly sorry to hear what happened. Keep your heart open. There ARE still good people out there.

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