Success on Citalopram😁

Hi Nicola,

Sorry that your having a rough week! I know how you feel about the feeling of futility and you can't see yourself ever being happy again. This is all just part of your journey and I promise that neither of those things are true, Even when your feeling low and teary, try to engage in gentle activities to help pass the time, please remember that things will get better with time. Your worries about never having a boyfriend are definetly being exagerated by your anxiety, I find that when in an anxious or low mood I can dwell on anything If it pops into my head - have faith that things will fall into place eventually. Do you have a good support network who are aware of how you are feeling? 

Try and make the most out of your day today!

Thanks. I know my thinking about it is making it worse. I just feel like an absolute freak.

When you feel better and the anxiety has gone life will look a lot differant. Get out and about. Join a gym. Lookfor meditation and mindful classes. The NHS in some areas run their own 7/8 week classes. They will back up the dark times and help you rationalise things better

I'm feeling really stange now. I had periods of feeling OK last week but I feel worse this week. I think cos I'm thinking about the relationship thing again. I don't feel like myself, a bit tearful again. I get this weird cold feeling behind the front of my shoulders and in my chest and feel fearful. 

Sorry to go on and on.

Hi Nicola, just read your posts and it sounds like you are in a bad place at the moment, but remember it is just a moment in your life.  It will not be forever.  Things change from one day to the next and one minute you can be single and a couple of years down the line in a relationship with kids, believe me that's what it was like for my sister.  

You look so pretty on your profile picture you should surely have no difficulty finding a boyfriend - it must just be a confidence thing.

Stay positive - i'm 46 yrs old and so many times in my life I've thought things will never change or get better and so many times they have.  My sister was just like you and now she's married with 2 kids. xx

Thank you. I don't understand why it hasn't happened yet, I've had so much rejection. But I think I give off the wrong vibes. I don't know how to change it.

I feel quite tearful at the moment. I'm at work but I'll probably go home and cry.

Stay strong - you just haven't met the right one yet. When you get yourself in a better place with the help of the Citalopram and your confidence improves everything will fall into place.  Things can seem desolate at times but it doesn't last forever.  I bet you that in 6 mnths time you will look back and think I really needn't have worried. xx 

Hi Nicola

Sorry to butt in on your conversation with everyone, but wanted to say that my son had a breakdown just over 2 years ago because he's not good at socialising and had a bad relationship which made him ill.  He started meds too, was very ill and couldn't work for 4 months - his doctor said to step outside his comfort zone a little.  I got him interested in music (African drumming and guitar ... not together mind ) and slowly he felt able to go to the groups alone.  He also joined badminton and slowly he began to heal.  It took him 9 months to recover and is now back to normal.  Going out to social groups he met a lovely girl and they're still together and he still continues to play music.  He'll never be a social butterfly, as still struggles in some company, but he's going out and next week they're off to Italy for a holiday.

Joining something will find friends first ...... and who knows what will follow.  I worked with my husband for 2 years before we got together ..... again we were friends first.  Sometimes that special person is right under your nose and you don't realise it 

K xx

I have tried things like that but nothing yet.

I just feel so low and crying again, I can't see any hope or point.

I'm seeing the dr on friday again but i'm scared she'll up my dose and the hunger problems I had before will come back.

You're not in the right place at the moment.  You need to look after yourself first ..... joining some groups (maybe something completely different to what you'd ever think of doing) should be for yourself first.  This will help you to heal too.  The meds will kick in and you'll feel in a much better place.  That person will come along some day.

Many years ago when I was recovering I started dance classes.  What a way to build confidence!!  16 years later I'm now a dance teacher and I love watching how new students grow with confidence - all shapes and sizes (my best dancer is over 20 stone ...... such an amazing woman).  They do something for themselves and become absorbed in the music and movement.  I have one shy student in her 30's who's been internet dating, still looking 'for the one', but says dancing has made her feel different about herself 

Recovery on these meds is slow - it often gets worse before it gets better, so I'm not surprised you'll feel at an all time low at the moment.  It really does get better.

Your doctor can suggest you increase your dose, but at the end of the day its your body and completely your choice.  They can only advise.

K x

Thanks for Sharing how I'll your son was but most of all his success story that's great

Hi Nicola

Before I started Citalopram my confidence and self esteem had been shattered with being bullied by 2 girls where I worked I was in a right mess. I've been single for 3 years but once the meds got into my system everything else started to get better and I made still single but I know I will meet someone one day and so will you but like people have said you need to get yourself better first and it will all fall into place 🙂

I was better for ages and it didn't fall in to place. So I'm not that confident it will. I now you're trying to help but when it's never happened for you you can't imagine it ever will.

Yes I know you must feel sad but honestly once you start feeling better and socialisi g etc you will get more confidence it just takes time and you have a lot of support in here anytime so do t ever suffer alone x