Suicidal
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Need permission to die. Please?.......Anyone?
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Posted , 10 users are following.
Need permission to die. Please?.......Anyone?
2 likes, 61 replies
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mami5
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Why won't anyone grant me my wish, and allow me to die?
Cupar2514 mami5
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You have opened the trap doors to your past and they have been closed for a very long time. Once upon a time, there were monsters down there, but now they are memories of monsters, as insubstantial as pictures on a screen.
You have a CPN and a psychologist helping you. You may also need the help of the Crisis and Home Treatment Team to support you whilst you are going through what will be the hardest part of your treatment, yes, this bit is the hardest and it will last a while, but stick at it and it will get easier, and I'm sure you've been told this before and it seems difficult to believe. However, it is true. It will stay difficult for a while, how long depends on many things which I am not party to, but it will get better and easier. It will be a bumpy ride for you, but lets face it, hasn't it been bumpy for a long time, and you are still here? In this case (as in most) death is not really a valid way out. I can't imagine you particularly wish your psychiatric team going through Coroner's Court after waiting up to a year in limbo-land. Believe me, that is truly traumatic. Nor do imagine you want the b*stards who made your life so unpleasant (I'm guessing that this is an understatement and a half) to win, what right have they got to do that? What right do they have to make you take your own life, or even feel that way? None, none what-so-ever.
Instead of asking for permission to die, ask for advice on how to live, on how to get through each day whilst you are going through this difficult period. When you remember the past - you can't stop the memories any more than you can make water flow uphill - remember you were much younger, with little if any control. It is absolutely normal to feel guilty for not standing up to these things, for not preventing them. But this is putting an adult's head on the body of the child. That's not how it was. A child and a young person is relatively powerless, and made to feel more so. I know, I have worked professionally with perpetrators for 12 years now as well as victims.
Ask your CPN about respite care, not an admission, an acute admission is usually avoided if possible. Opening an episode for youunder the Crisis Assessment and Home Treatment Team may be the best option. Look again at your CPA Care Plan, ask for a review of your CPA Care Plan and risk assessment.
The point is, you need to let others help you, but you must take their advice and try it, not merely to prove them wrong, but in the hope that they are right (which they usually are). As a Mental Health Nurse and former CPN of 7 years experience, I can say with a lot of confidence that you can trust their judgment. Ring the Crisis Team tonight, it's what they are paid to do. It's a damn sight better than another OD or lots of conflicting advice.
You can get through this and if you choose to do so, you will succeed, but that choice is yours and no-one elses.
Post an update when you have done this, okay?
All the best
Cupar2514
mami5 Cupar2514
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angela91633 mami5
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patricia44773 mami5
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mami5 patricia44773
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patricia44773 mami5
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Pat.
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dysthymicguy mami5
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I know that this might sound agaist everything that everyone else offers here, but if you give in to that thought of dying completely, you should get some relief, or at least some idea, or insight. Pushing impossible change never works. Acceptance sometimes does. Definitely, don't attempt suicide as that is never a good idea. And let me know how it went.
mami5 dysthymicguy
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As for crying, I've not been able to for over three years. There's no relief there.
Mami
patricia44773 mami5
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You have no idea about the next life....if you have you know a lot more than the most celebrated scientists.
You miss your dog....I have so many animals that I mourn and miss. Rescue another dog or a cat, do something wonderful whilst you are in this bloody awful world. You are here for a reason, to make your mark on the world, however small that may be. Perhaps you have already done that, but you can always do more.
I fight my depression by helping to relieve the suffering of animals, who are far, far worse off than us. You were born free to live your life as you chose.....fight for the thousands of animals who are born to suffer. Fight for something, someone, anything that is less fortunate than you. Be a saviour to something/someone....give your life meaning, when you eventually DO die, be able to say "I wasn't happy with my time on earth, but I was able to do some good".
You can't cry for yourself, but you can cry for some other needy person or animal.
This is how I get through my time here. I am not being judgemental, I promise you, I am just trying to help. Forgive me if I have overstepped the mark, I just so wanted to help you. You sound so desperately sad.
Pat xxx
dysthymicguy mami5
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If nothing works, try clenching your fists. That suppose to release endorphins, which kills emotional pain.
p.s. maybe a stupid question, but are you taking antidepressants?
mami5 patricia44773
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I don't need to rescue an animal as I already have a dog and cat. Thank you for the thought.
I have started doing DBT recently and it is releasing horrendous memories from my past which I find very difficult to cope with. I don't wish to go into details on here but they are really bad from more than one traumatic event.
Mami xx
mami5 dysthymicguy
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I am on antidepressants, have been for over a year.
Mami xx
patricia44773 mami5
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Please don't let it be the reason for you to make any hasty decisions about taking your life though, please.
You sound to have had some really terrible times in your life, I am so sorry that you have suffered so much. Forgive me if I sounded "holier-than-thou" in my last post, I shouldn't have spouted off. It was my way of trying to help, but I can see that you didn't need that kind of advice.
Anyway, I hope the DBT helps and I wish you peace. I wish I could do more to help you, but I can't.
Pat.
dysthymicguy
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mami5 dysthymicguy
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Mami
patricia44773 mami5
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Why is the dog you mentioned that you see with your Dad so important to you? I presume you have had many animals in your life. You don't have to tell me, I was just interested.
Please tell me if you would rather I didn't ask questions, I would hate to intrude.
PatXX
mami5 patricia44773
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My second husband was also abusive, towards me and my eldest 2 children.
The dog that's with my Dad is my first dog. We had as a puppy and I used to play with him when very young. As I grew he kept all my secrets. He was a fantastic dog. The best. Reminds me of my childhood when I was happy.
I have suffered trauma and depression for 30 odd years off and on. It's my birthday today, and I still wish to die. Sorry.
Mami xx
patricia44773 mami5
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Wish I could give you a big hug and a cake with candles that you could blow out and make a wish. I wish I could give you a present....and it would be happiness all wrapped up in a parcel with a bow.
Don't die please, I want you to stay here.
I can't stand to not know if you are still alive....and that is what would happen .....I would never know and that thought is making me cry. You have no idea how reading your posts and interacting with you has helped me.....I know you didn't intend to help me, but you put my life into perspective, my heart goes out to you.
Don't go.
Pat xxx
mami5 patricia44773
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Please ;look after yourself
Mami xx
justbeingme2 mami5
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mami5 justbeingme2
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Feeling very emotional today, but still unable to cry.
Mami
dysthymicguy mami5
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