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I was told today that I have HSV 2. I have had no symptoms but the doctor found ulcers on my cervix and I did a blood test and it came back positive. I am sad, anxious and already suffer from depression and this has set me right back. I am so sad that this has happened. I feel disgusting and just horrible. My doctor has given me famvir to take as this is my first outbreak but I want to take Valtrex everyday for the rest of my life but my doctor has said it is not necessary. I want to know if I will ever be able to have sexual intercourse again and have heard that if you take Valtrex and use a condom that the chances of passing this on is very unlikely if you don't have an outbreak. I have read so many websites but now I just need support. Please help
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liz25016 gina56272
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I have disclosed my HSV2 last month to a guy, who chose not to have a relationship with me b/c of H but since then I have gone on to date and found many other reasons why guys have passed on a relationship with me and its not b/c of H, which has made me much stronger.
So look at it as a positive, b/c you deserve that :-) There is nothing wrong with you, you are the same person, believe that and live does go ON! I love my life, I lhave learned from it and dont regret it.
Write me anytime, always here. xoxoxo
feelbroken gina56272
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If you're not experiencing symptoms that are unpleasant, no reason to be on meds. W that said, it does help to inform someone that you are willing to take meds to be in a relationship and lower the risk. I have 7 gfs and herpes and all are married w kids, but one and they met their partners post herpes.
The transmission rates are as follows.
Sex 3xs a week for a year, abstaining during symptoms, female to male transmission are:
- w no condoms or meds: 4%
- w condoms or meds: 2%
- w both: 1%
Please Google H Opportunity and sign up. It is like a social support forum for the people w H. The creator and moderators all have herpes and are the most knowledgeable and up to date, working w one of the tip herpes researchers in the US. A lot of misinformation is online, even on WebMD.. Stay away.
You will read many success stories on there as well.
Hang in there, it is not the end if the world.
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ND28498 gina56272
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Condoms lower your risk, but the risk is still there. Condom use when abstaining during symptoms male to female transmission is 5%, so the risk is still there, although still small.
Sorry to hear of your new diagnosis, just hang in there, it gets better.
mb0420 gina56272
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you will definitely have sex again, and you can definitley fall in love and find someone who either looks past it or will level with you about it. also, having HSV doesn't mean you'll even transmit it to someone else. i just want you to know that you are are not dirty or ruined or anything like that. not to say that it is unavoidable, but even if you took all the right precautions, you could have still gotten it. it's going to be important for you psychologically to be able to separate yourself from the HSV and not let it rule you...easier said than done, and it takes time, but you'll get there. i promise you. keep your head up!
Herpes has not affected how i feel about my girlfriend. i don't regret having sex with her or falling in love with her or being with her. at all. that's not because love transcends all these things even though it does but because at the end of the day, you're the same person regardless of what skin condition you have. just be the best you and take life a day at a time. things will fall into place
feelbroken mb0420
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You are a male right? We really could use another male on the H Opportunity forum to help w the males on there. They always take note of how there's like no males on there and would like to hear from other males. Please create an account in there. Thanks