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gina56272
gina56272

I was told today that I have HSV 2. I have had no symptoms but the doctor found ulcers on my cervix and I did a blood test and it came back positive. I am sad, anxious and already suffer from depression and this has set me right back. I am so sad that this has happened. I feel disgusting and just horrible. My doctor has given me famvir to take as this is my first outbreak but I want to take Valtrex everyday for the rest of my life but my doctor has said it is not necessary. I want to know if I will ever be able to have sexual intercourse again and have heard that if you take Valtrex and use a condom that the chances of passing this on is very unlikely if you don't have an outbreak. I have read so many websites but now I just need support. Please help

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  • liz25016
    liz25016 gina56272

    Posted

    Gina56272, I understand you completely.  I too have HSV2 and only had 1 OB so understand the 1 or no OB symptoms. I dont take any meds at the moment b/c no OB and no serious relationship at the moment .

    I have disclosed my HSV2 last month to a guy, who chose not to have a relationship with me b/c of H but since then I have gone  on to date and found many other reasons why guys have passed on a relationship with me and its not b/c of H, which has made me much stronger.

    So look at it as a positive, b/c you deserve that :-) There is nothing wrong with you, you are the same person, believe that and live does go ON! I love my life, I lhave learned from it and dont regret it.

    Write me anytime, always here. xoxoxo

  • feelbroken
    feelbroken gina56272

    Posted

    Well first off, breathe. Everyone has a strong reaction to being diagnosed. Be blessed that you don't experience painful symptoms like some of us.

    If you're not experiencing symptoms that are unpleasant, no reason to be on meds. W that said, it does help to inform someone that you are willing to take meds to be in a relationship and lower the risk. I have 7 gfs and herpes and all are married w kids, but one and they met their partners post herpes.

    The transmission rates are as follows.

    Sex 3xs a week for a year, abstaining during symptoms, female to male transmission are:

    - w no condoms or meds: 4%

    - w condoms or meds: 2%

    - w both: 1%

    Please Google H Opportunity and sign up. It is like a social support forum for the people w H. The creator and moderators all have herpes and are the most knowledgeable and up to date, working w one of the tip herpes researchers in the US. A lot of misinformation is online, even on WebMD.. Stay away.

    You will read many success stories on there as well.

    Hang in there, it is not the end if the world.

    • rob1980
      rob1980 feelbroken

      Posted

      Thank you for your post, I too am in the same boat as Gina right now. I suffer from depression also and haven't been able to sleep since I got diagnosed. I feel like its the end of the world rolleyes
    • feelbroken
      feelbroken rob1980

      Posted

      I understand how you feel.. Don't worry, this will pass... Go to that site I recommend. You will get great support on there.
    • rob1980
      rob1980 feelbroken

      Posted

      Thank you, I did go to that site and tried to join and it won't let me for some reason rolleyes
    • feelbroken
      feelbroken rob1980

      Posted

      You have to sign up, give the reason for you joining and then wait for approval. It will then send the log on info to your email.
    • feelbroken
      feelbroken

      Posted

      Took me 3 days to get an account.
    • rob1980
      rob1980

      Posted

      Sorry, just saw your reply. Thank you
    • feelbroken
      feelbroken rob1980

      Posted

      The guy running it does this on his own really and has to make sure that people aren't on there to troll or sell products. So he has to go through all the submissions.
    • rob1980
      rob1980 feelbroken

      Posted

      Oh okay, that's cool.. Seemed.like a good helpful site!
  • ND28498
    ND28498 gina56272

    Posted

    Hey Gina56272, you are not alone, i was diagnosed with genital herpes 2 weeks ago and feel miserable. You can not expose no one to genital herpes if you use protection. Only if you have an outbreak you can surely diagnose someone. My ex boyfriend and i had sex and i knew he had genital herpes, i still had sex with him and i caught genital herpes, but we always used condoms. I was also seeing a married man and did not have a condom with him so i dont know who given me this but i blame my ex because he has it which i shouldnt do because we always used condoms and he never exposed me. Now i just stay home pray and ask god to forgive me. But you're not alone i feel depressed and sad everyday until i came on here and see people are going through the sane thing as me
    • feelbroken
      feelbroken ND28498

      Posted

      ND, this is not true. Condoms do not cover the entire anogenital region, which is where herpes can have asymptomatic shedding. It is also not true that you can only spread this during an OB. Over 80% of those w genital herpes are unaware of their condition, because they are asymptomatic and over 70% of new herpes cases, are believed to come from those who are unaware of their status for this very reason. I'm not sure who told you this information, but is is not true.

      Condoms lower your risk, but the risk is still there. Condom use when abstaining during symptoms male to female transmission is 5%, so the risk is still there, although still small.

      Sorry to hear of your new diagnosis, just hang in there, it gets better.

  • mb0420
    mb0420 gina56272

    Posted

    hey gina, i got genital HSV-1 from my gf when we started dating a year ago. she didn't know she gave it to me, and she didn't have an outbreak til after we had been having sex a few weeks. i got one shortly after. we got tested and didn't have any results come back saying we had an std as most std testing doesn't include HSV1 or 2 but she knew something was wrong so we got tested for HSV1 & 2 specifically. although it has proved inconvenient a couple times, one year later we are still together, and i love her very much. you aren't your herpes, you are a normal human being with a skin condition. society makes it so taboo when really, a large percentage of people have it and jsut don't know and are too scared to get tested.

    you will definitely have sex again, and you can definitley fall in love and find someone who either looks past it or will level with you about it. also, having HSV doesn't mean you'll even transmit it to someone else. i just want you to know that you are are not dirty or ruined or anything like that. not to say that it is unavoidable, but even if you took all the right precautions, you could have still gotten it. it's going to be important for you psychologically to be able to separate yourself from the HSV and not let it rule you...easier said than done, and it takes time, but you'll get there. i promise you. keep your head up!

    Herpes has not affected how i feel about my girlfriend. i don't regret having sex with her or falling in love with her or being with her. at all. that's not because love transcends all these things even though it does but because at the end of the day, you're the same person regardless of what skin condition you have. just be the best you and take life a day at a time. things will fall into place

    • feelbroken
      feelbroken mb0420

      Posted

      Thay was so sweet of you mb to say that to her. Well put, I love everything you said, makes me proud to hear someone w H recognize that about yourself.

      You are a male right? We really could use another male on the H Opportunity forum to help w the males on there. They always take note of how there's like no males on there and would like to hear from other males. Please create an account in there. Thanks

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