Surgery and living alone
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Please, I really need some help. First, I would like to apologize for my bad English, I am not a native English speaker.
So, I live alone, I am 30 years old and I will have an open surgery to treat an inguinal hernia and also to remove an hernia mesh that was put in a surgery I had two years ago.
That surgery was a laparascopic one, so I could handled by myself.
But what about this next one? Since it will be an open surgery, will I be able to deal with it alone? Will I be able to shower and get dress?
For the love of God, anyone can give me some advice?
Thank you!
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alexis18213 tamara82049
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Hi Tamara,
First of all, your English seems perfect, so no need to apologise.
I've never had this kind of surgery (touching wood) but I think you need to raise your concerns with your doctor or with the nurses of your surgery. They'll know better. If you do need help then I'm sure the NHS can arrange something.
You seem to be under a lot of stress. Try and keep it easy!
tamara82049
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I am in Brazil and here there isn't this kind of service. They will discharge me a day or two after the surgery with no help whatsoever. But I really apreciate your help. Thank you
Guest tamara82049
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I just had open inguinal surgery 7 weeks ago and still am in pain. I needed help the first two days, even on pain killers. I could barely walk to the bathroom.
Now lets talk about mesh removal. You should really do a lot of research before you go through with it. I could not find many success stories. Many people end up worse off. Plus, there are only a handful of surgeons in the world that know how to do it. Please start joining hernia mesh forums online and talking to people. There is a good hernia mesh victim group on facebook called Mesh Removal Patients.
tamara82049 Guest
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Thank you so much Dan. I had no idea that Mesh removal was that serious. My doctor just said that if it hurt for over a year then we need to remove it.
I am concern about what you said. I don't know what to do. I'll ask to the doctor if I can stay in the hospital for two more days but I am pretty sure she will say no.
Guest tamara82049
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There are other things you need to try before mesh removal. For instance, radiofrequency nerve ablation. Mesh removal should be your last option in that it could make you worse.
lesley73033 tamara82049
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I live alone and my surgeon removed mesh from an old hernia repair while he was repairing another one close by. I wasn't expecting this, although I knew that it would be open surgery as all my hernia repairs have been. Apparently the mesh had become tangled.
I have had 6 open surgery hernia repairs, going home the same day as the surgery and this one was particularly painful. However, I have managed by myself ok after all of them. The main problem is that they don't like you being alone for the 24 hours following a general anaesthetic. Also, get plenty of frozen ready meals in and plenty of food in general if you have nobody to shop for you. I tootled to the corner shop a week after surgery but you absolutely cannot carry anything heavy or you could damage the repair. So no ironing or hoovering.
You'll be fine as long as you rest and don't do too much. And keep on top of your painkillers
Guest lesley73033
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It is great to hear a mesh removal success. Was it inguinal?
lesley73033 Guest
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Yes it was and although it was painful for the 1st week (especially when I first woke from the anaesthetic), everything turned out ok
Guest lesley73033
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Who was your mesh removal surgeon? I need to get mine out. I had it put in 7 weeks ago and still in a lot of pain.
tamara82049 lesley73033
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Thanks for share your experience. I am really torn between the options. I really didn't know it would be this way. Now that I am searching about the complications of the hernia mesh I see the trouble I got myself into. Doctors just didn't inform me enough. Now I have to choose between the risks of the surgery or living in pain for the rest of my life.
Some people say that I can't go through the post operative alone. Maybe because I am quite small and skinny and my health is not so good.
My appointment is in 5 hours and I didn't decide what to do yet.
lesley73033 Guest
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Mr Bergin. He was based at the RVI in Newcastle, UK. I don't know if he is still there as this was 5-6 years ago. He has a good reputation but I don't know if mesh removal is his usual type of surgery or if he just did it because it was necessary at the time
Guest lesley73033
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THNX
Guest tamara82049
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Did you get the mesh removed yet?
tamara82049 Guest
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Not yet. i just had an appointment with my doctor. We talked about it and decided not to remove the mesh yet. It seems like I am going to live with this for a long time. I feel like my life just ends. Having pain 24/7 and not being able to do physical activities is the hell on earth.
I wish you guys the best. Thanks for helping me
Guest tamara82049
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Have you tried radiofrequency nerve ablation?
tamara82049 Guest
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I actually never heard of it. Is it a treatment specific to this kind of problem? Do you know anyone who had success with this procedure?
Guest tamara82049
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I have read some success stories. Yes, it is for your type of problem. Is is normally tried before surgery.
Guest tamara82049
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If you have facebook there are a few good hernia mesh support groups with a lot of info.
tamara82049 Guest
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Thank you a lot. I sure will join.
Guest tamara82049
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I am getting my mesh out this month. I will keep you updated on how it went.
tamara82049 Guest
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I wish you a good surgery and also an excellent recovery. I am sure everything is going to be fine. Thank you for let me know about you. I am all alone and having someone to talk, share experiences and learn is very important to me. (Please, forgive my poor english, I am still trying to learn...)