Surgery looming and wedding 9 weeks later...
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hi ladies I have seen a private consultant who after some euro dynamic testing, said I needed surgery. It was a bit of a blur but I remember him saying he will be rebuilding my walls and something about mesh. I'm petrified and anxious about surgery so close to my wedding. In your opinion is it enough time to recover? My dress is very fitted and I've lost 3.5 stone to fit into it, so swelling is a big worry! I'm seeing him on 24 March so he can run through the op, but I'd like honest opinions from someone that's been through this. Many thanks,!
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chey317 emma8911
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Are you normally active?
Do you normally heal fast or get over things fast like being sick and stuff?
This was my first operation ever, so I didn't know what to compare it to, but I've always been really healthy, I weigh a little too much for my height (I weigh 155 and I am 5'2)
I do strongly believe that my doctor was less invasive than most. I didn't have any internal pain, and the only thing that has actually hurt was the stitches on my labia. I do have a heavy ache feeling in my rectum from time to time when I am up too long, but that is it. I am just trying to give you an idea of what it feels like after so you will be able to assess whether or not you want to be healing and planning your wedding all at once, because that is a lot of work, and you are supposed to take it easy. If you are young or heal fast and your doctor does is really good, you may be fine. Where are you? I am in the US in Indiana.
Marina_Dee emma8911
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barb89646 emma8911
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debi53024 emma8911
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I had TVT bladder repair last year with anterior repair and I would say that 9 weeks is nowhere near enough time to recover. Organising a wedding is very stressful and I was bloated for a good number of weeks after surgery and was very sore too. I am wondering if you are in the UK as mesh has been banned in Scotland but not England and Wales. I had a little mesh when I had the bladder repair but I would think seriously about having anymore down with the issues that there have been. I think you should speak to your consultant and have him explain very clearly what procedures he is planning on doing so you then have a better idea before making a final decision.
ruth_85033 emma8911
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I had a hystectomy last year and bladder prolapse repair. sadly the prolapse came back and now also rectal prolapse. I was referred to a more specialist NHS hosp- Liverpool womens hospital. The Dr was very nice. She told me that the mesh surgery is not guaranteed to work (after 5 years 40% of patients will have had problems). I am only 55 and still sexually active but am going to try and carry on with the pessary which is holding things up. also try to lose more weight my BMI is 31. She will see me again and reassess but said the longer i could live with my symptoms the better.
Try and get as much information as possible i think some of the surgeons rush into things. In hind sight i wish i had not had my hysterectomy ( which was for fibroids) and bladder repair as i think there may have been better ways to treat my symptoms.
emma8911
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im 42 with a 3 yr old and 15 month old. My initial problem occurred after a forceps delivery with my daughter. I have had quite bad stress incontinence since, and have been seeing the physio dept for the past 6 months which has made no difference.
the euro dynamic testing showed my bladder had dropped and I think the mesh was to push that back, he also wants to repair my walls.
im really thinking about postponing the op after reading your comments, it's such a worry!
ruth_85033 emma8911
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try and do anything you can so as not to have the op. can you feel a bulge? or discomfort when walking?
debi53024 emma8911
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I am 42 and that is exactly why i had the operation for stress incontinence. It was a TVT repair with mesh which was just over a year ago. I too attended the physio department but without success. The only thing I would say is that my bladder prolapsed again after 6 months and I now have a small bowel prolapse. I do not want anymore surgery and my surgeon agrees as he is limited in what he can do. My stress incontinence is 100% cured but have two prolapses now. Seriously consider before doing anything. My kids are 18 and 15..............thats how long i put up with it for.
patsybythesea emma8911
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wow, havent you cut yourself a huge piece of pie to deal with!
Firstly, congratulations on your impending nuptials girl, how lovely xx
Ok,
Just purely from a wedding perspective, it's not 9 weeks really is it, unless you've delegated all of your preparation to other people who are totally in your corner. Or are you cool giving it all to someone else to organise?
Are you just planning on turning up on the day?
I'm just speaking from my own perspective, as one who likes to sort it all herself, and hearing that on here many of the women have felt frustrated because they *can't* have things, simple things like housework done, the way they like it, so it's your big day. From a logistics position, will this be possible without it significantly affecting your health?
This procedure takes a lot out of the fittest women here, its exhausting and it can create emotional drain too.
Could you have your surgery after your honeymoon?
tlee emma8911
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