Surviving the first day : Herpes
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I have herpes and this is my first day.
I'm 27 years old ... And I just got the dreaded phone call from my gyno today. " Herpes: Type 2" Needless to say I spent all day bursting into tears and sobbing. It didn't help that I was stuck at work.
Every year I do my due diligence and go for my annual check and do the full work. Thus far, always ending with a squeaky clean record. Sometime after a full year of celibacy , I crossed paths with an old college ex and friendship led to dating which led to a relationship.
I recall telling him that I wanted to wait until he checked himself before I got on birth control and the condoms went out the window. Of course, a month went by and condoms were out but no tests were done ... And now find myself here. With him clueless as to how he could have given me something without knowing he had it.
In less than 7 hours I've gone thru all stages of grief. I now find myself staring into space and thinking . " I have herpes. I am herpes positive . "
All I want to do is call a friend; unload, vent and just let it all out. Yet feeling so alone and insecure; unable to confess to anyone about what I'm going through.
The thought of living with this everyday... Has me spiraling into a depression that I don't know how to crawl out of. Where do I go from here? How will this affect my relationship. How will I go about dating in the future if we break up?
I have herpes and this is my first day.
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ashhwaay mel_ectric07
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fiona53249 mel_ectric07
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The best thing you can do is speak to whoever you are closest to about it. Keeping bottled up makes things worse, the people that love you will be understanding and help you through this.
As for dating, the way I've got my head round it is, who ever I'm going to be with should like me enough to understand and not care that iv e caught this stupid disease , and if they don't then i shouldn't be with them anyway .
Hepres is a lot more common than people think and its made out to be so much worse than it is , keep your chin up and get passed the next few weeks and ull comento terms with it.
Hope this has helped xxx
Guest mel_ectric07
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It can be depressing for sure and I went through that when I first found out, feeling like I was now a horrible person and my bf would leave me and everything else. Its nothing to be ashamed of. Just do some reading so you understand what is going on and how it will affect you in the future. I was surprised at how little impact it will really have- aside from just making sure your current/future partner knows about it.
Good luck
courtney66568 mel_ectric07
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subrina82802 mel_ectric07
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angelpiece mel_ectric07
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I have herpes type 1, but its genital and I have had big outbreaks in the past.
Ive found that worrying about it and stressing, all the emotional damage that it does is so much worse than actually having it. and Ive told this to everyone ive confided in, the stigma about herpes is worse than having it.
At first I called my best friend, cried and told her about it. I found having one person to tell in the beginning was really helpful, she was supportive but didnt know everything about it and I could feel some stigma even then. I later went on to telling my sister, my mum and then some other close friends.
Some of them understood and felt for me, others saw it as something to be stigmatised and kept making assumptions without doing any research on it at all. But I got through it slowly, but surely. Its definitely hard, really emotionally rocky, can plumet your self confidence but I found the best way to deal with it was,
Reading! lots and lots of reading about it. everything, type 1 and two, how it works, where in the body it can be, symptoms, other peoples stories, statistics, vitamin supplements for suppression, just everything I could possibly find that could give me some insight and more knowledge about it.
You come to discover, with knowledge and time, that you can survive, you can go on and live a completely normal life like you did before.
There is SSOO much stigma about herpes and it is so unneccessary.
People dont stigmatise about any other virus' or diseases, only sexually transmitted ones, and if you have an std of any kind, youre 'dirty' or a 'slut' but that is so not true. I read about a guy who had a coldsore outbreak, licked his hand for masterbation and gave himself genital hsv1. hooray for that unlucky guy.. but thats life. shit happens to people and having herpes is almost like a tap on the shoulder to be more careful next time! it could be a lot worse, even if herpes is incurable, it cant actually damage your body (apart from your eyes, dont touch them unless theyre 100% washed and clean)
Youll be okay
good luck
leigh62988 mel_ectric07
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