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angela98372
angela98372

I know this is really long but please read and help me out. My boyfriend and I have a fairly new relationship. We've known each other for about 2 years however. About 2-3 weeks agago while fooling around we got caught in the moment and had sex without talking about stds none. Later that night we did it agagain, however he took of the condom without telling me because he wanted to come quickly. A few days later while cleaning his room I came across two prescription medicine that I didn't pay much attention to.

Three days after our initial sex, while doing it the condom pop, he asked me to keep going and I agreed(stupid I know). And again another few days again unprotected. I asked him after our first sex if he had any stds specifically herpes and he said no. I told him I would like for both of us to get tested if we were going to have unprotected sex. 3 days ago while folding his clothes something prompted me to check the names of those prescription drugs since he changed the topic real quick the first time I asked him. I noticed one of them was missing and the other read "acyclovir". I googled it and it said its used to treat herpes.

After asking him again to tell me the truth about his std his immediate response was I have "gonorhea". I asked him to stop lying and he took long breathes said he loves me before admitting he has herpes. He got it 2 years ago and his most recent outbreak was in March 2015. He hasn't had any since then. He has never told a single soul and felt like I would leave him if he said something. He felt like the timing wasn't right because I have a medical internship and he didn't want me to be distracted while at the program. He apologized and we both sobbed uncontrollably. He got it from an ex Gf he was with for almost 2 years because she cheated.

Thing is, since the first time we had unprotected sex it's been 2 weeks going on three. It's been 8 days since our last unprotected sex. I noticed a small rash that was very pain to touch but after rubbing it , it went down and disappeared. I get a weird tingling/itching sensation every hour or soul. I haven't had any open sores or blisters. He has both type 1 and 2, it's been 2 months since we first kiss and I haven't had cold sores on my lips either. Am I just too attuned to my body now? I also get this weird soreness/cramping in my vagina as if my period is about to start. I get my period next week? Are these signs of herpes? When should I get tested? I'm having a hard time emotionally because I have only slept with 2 guys my entire life. Will this prevent me from getting into med school? I gave him another chance for lying straight to my face but I don't know if I'm making the right choice.

He also takes vigamox for a bacteria infection in his left eye that causes it to get so red. He is such a wonderful guy to me but it seems like all the odds are against us. It seems like he has so many health issues. How do I deal with this?

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  • newcase
    newcase angela98372

    Posted

    You must be going through a hard time and I can imagine how anxious you must feel to know if you have it or not.

    Herpes symptoms vary from person to person its hard t know if what you are feeling is herpes related or just pms.

    I recommend you take a blood test an igg  elisa test, unfortunately it could take up to 12-16 weeks to show the antibodies in your blood. Mine took 9 weeks post-encounter to be positive.

    I suggest you keep calm until you can take the blood test, focus on yous studies,if he is a good guy try to understand what he did (even if it was wrong) talk and work it out together.

  • summer39928
    summer39928 angela98372

    Posted

    You are such a good girlfriend to still be with him it was his fault that his unfaithful ex girlfriend wanted to run the streets while he wasnt doing anything I mean it is always a good thing to use protection but we are human we make mistake exspecially when it come to love you should go and get a check up as soon as possible if you are having some of those types of symptoms hopefully he did not pass it on and you will still be okay but if he did you have every right to be mad at him at first because he should have told you when u guys decided to start have unprotected sex but its not the end of the world it could be something worser i was told yesterday by a provider that I have gential herpes I cried and cried but this website as really comfront me if you know he really loves you and would not do anything to hurt you and you feel the same way then dont let this stop you guys realtionship its a VERY COMMON std you will be fine sweety just go get your check up and go on from there I wish the best to you guys smile
    • summer39928
      summer39928

      Posted

      I meant to say it wasnt his fault lol I need to do better spelling punctuation next time lol 
  • foxyloxy5
    foxyloxy5 angela98372

    Posted

    Yes, please go get tested for herpes as well as ALL other STDs as well as pregnancy. I had a guy take off his condom without telling me as well. That was 3 years ago, and I'm still having HIV tests because it can sometimes take years for it to manifest.

    think very, very carefully about continuing a relationship with this guy. He may be wonderful in a lot of ways, but he is a confirmed liar and has zero respect for you to put you in harm's way like that. What you do know for sure about him is that he cannot be trusted and has violated you in a terrible way. 

    Think about your future and your own self-respect. You may already have gotten a life-long illness (herpes). It will not prevent you from getting into medical school or doing anything you want to in life. But, think about this, if you are to be a person of integrity, you will have to tell any potential partner in the future about the herpes if you have it. It is a sex crime in many states to know you have herpes and not tell your partner. 

    I'm sorry if I sound harsh and preachy, but this is your life, and you are the one who has to stand up and protect yourself. Oh, and you can get pregnant from having unprotected sex just one time, even if he pulls out. Take care of yourself, and kick this guy to the curb!

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