Syphilis
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Hi, I wondered if anybody could help me? I'm 33+3 weeks pregnant and I was diagnosed with syphilis at 31 weeks but I was negative at the beginning of pregnancy. ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years and I've not had another sexual partner.
In February my boyfriend developed a rash on the tip of his penis, the doctor gave him cream for a fungal infection. It cleared up and we had sex, a few days later I develpoed a sore on my vulva which initially was painless but then became very painful. (Around the same time I started bleeding and was told I had an erosion on my cervix, could this also be the syphilis? I've had 5 bleeds since each time getting worse) My boyfriend developed another rash and lumps on his penis and groin, he had strange spots on his tongue and was feeling unwell. The doctor said he had thrush and gave him cream. He went to the GUM clinic for a blood test which (he said) came back negative. He's recently been for another blood test and we're waiting on the results.
My relationship has broken down because of this and I'm just looking for some answers as to when he might of been infected? Is having sex the only way of getting it? Could he have had it for longer than 3 months and not passed it on to me until now? He won't go to the GUM clinic together to get both medical records up which makes me think he's hiding something. I've asked him all the questions, has he cheated etc but he denies it.
Any help on this would be greatly appreciated as I'm devastated.
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Newuser89 claire56769
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feelbroken claire56769
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no there is no other way to contract syphilis, other than through sex.
I have found in my experience since being infected w herpes and being on the forums, that when the women confront the person who infected them and request they go get tested, they refuse to and say they're clean and/or will not provide test results. This is a sign of someone lying to you.
I hope yiu have veenbtested for HIV as well and you need to protect your baby right now, so you need to abstain from ant sexual relations w this man. He clearly has no conscious to put you and your babies health at risk.
I will ask Archemedes to comment further, as he is a retired doctor and would know more than I. I am just highly versed in herpes.
agbokenneth feelbroken
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Thanks
archemedes claire56769
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Syphilis is a serious, highly contigeous bacterial infection (Treponema Pallidum) that can be contracted in a number of ways, it is usually either passed through sexual relations, (including kissing an infected person), or in it's congentital form because it was present in utero at birth.
There have also been instances of individuals being infected through sharing a needle when injecting recreational drugs, and very rare occasions of this bacteria being passed via an infected blood transfusion, but this is less common today.
It is just possible that your partner was completely unaware that he had this disease because it can lay in latency for many years.
I am not prepared to comment how you may have been infected, but I would say that is it is absolutely essential for all the parties concerned to be tested to check their status, and if there is a positive result then immediate treatment is essential.
Irrespective of what your partner does, in your case the commencement of treatment is urgent and must not be delayed particularly as you are pregnant.
The most important things for you to know are (a) that you can be cured is you seek and receive treatment now, and (b) until such time as the original cause of the infection is isolated you should refrain from any intimate relations with your partner, which is what you should do anyway with anyone, until such time as you are known to be free of the infection.
Please pm me if you have any further questions.
There may be a slight delay in replying to you until early next week as I am away until then.
claire56769 archemedes
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I've read everything online about it. I guess my question is, because he is denying any sexual relations with anyone else. Is the only way I have it by having sex with my boyfriend? And have I caught it because he's had sex with someone else? The consultant said I've caught it from week 12 of pregnancy as I was negative when I was tested at the beginning of pregnancy. If my partner had the rash symptoms in February when would he have caught it?
archemedes claire56769
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The symptoms of syphilis normally make an appearance between 10 and 90 days after the initial infection.
As to how or from where you contracted Syphilis, you may well have contracted it from him, but it does not follow that he had a sexual relationship with anyone else.
For example, you do not state if he (or you) have ever taken recreational drugs via intravenus injection. Because if either of you had done so and used an infected needle, that would be another possible explanation.
Or has either of you required a blood transfusion (or given blood) during this period, or had a medical examination when surgical gloves were not used.
Another possibility is if either of you has kissed another party or maybe been involved in foreplay with another party who was infected - then that could be a reason.
I'm afraid that this is a case where only you and your partner can possibly know the true answer.
claire56769 archemedes
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I've never used recreational drugs through a needle, never had a blood transfusion or had a medical examination without surgical gloves.
I personally have not kissed or had any sexual contact with anyone since we began our relationship 3 years ago so I guess that leaves some sort of sexual contact from my partner with someone else who is infected.
Thank you again for your time
feelbroken claire56769
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I wish you the best and I hope you find the strength to do the right thing.
Syphilis sores can be in the mouth, so it is possible to get syphilis from deep kissing. But it is not a common way for syphilis to be passed. Sexually transmitted infections (STI) like gonorrhea and Human papillomavirus (HPV) can also be passed with deep kissing, but they are also not commonly passed this way.
feelbroken claire56769
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I wish you the best and I hope you find the strength to do the right thing.
Syphilis sores can be in the mouth, so it is possible to get syphilis from deep kissing. But it is not a common way for syphilis to be passed. Sexually transmitted infections (STI) like gonorrhea and Human papillomavirus (HPV) can also be passed with deep kissing, but they are also not commonly passed this way.
archemedes claire56769
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I only say this because you have mentioned Herpes, which for some strange reason is not normally covered by a standard STI test, and does need to be included within his tests.
If he accepts treatment he may well be cured from the Syphilis infection but he will not be cured from the Herpes infection, because as I said previously there is no cure at the present time.
This carries certain ramifications, the greatest of which is if he continues to have sexual relationships in the future with anyone, without telling the other party, then they could well find themselves infected with the Herpes virus which is a far from an ideal situation.
Claire12345 archemedes
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The medical professionals I've seen also don't want to put the blame anywhere which I understand but when your in disbelief you just want a straight answer.
Claire12345 feelbroken
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I've been researching the Internet too and coming into a forum was my last form of finding out if anyone had been misdiagnosed or there was another reason apart from what I've read on the Internet.
I understand the complications and seriousness of syphilis and I've been treated straight away. My (ex) partner is also being seen to to stop any further infections to anybody else.
Thanks for your replys
Claire12345 archemedes
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The medical professionals I've seen also don't want to put the blame anywhere which I understand but when your in disbelief you just want a straight answer.
Claire12345
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I've been researching the Internet too and coming into a forum was my last form of finding out if anyone had been misdiagnosed or there was another reason apart from what I've read on the Internet.
I understand the complications and seriousness of syphilis and I've been treated straight away. My (ex) partner is also being seen to to stop any further infections to anybody else.
Thanks for your replys
feelbroken Claire12345
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At the end of the day, you are a woman and our intuition never fails us if we are really listening to it and not silencing it. I know that you know deep down, all women know deep down... Not always at the beginning, but we eventually find out. I know I did. :-(
What were your sores from? From syphilis? Make sure you get a blood test for herpes, if a sore is not swabbed w in 48hrs of coming out, you will have a high risk of a false negative. I hope you got a blood test done and I'd take another in 3 months to be sure too. You do not want to risk going off a false negative swab and give vaginal birth when you may possibly have herpes. Better to be safe than sorry!
I'm so sorry you're going through all this, I hope you have a good support system at home and people to help out. Feel free to pm me anytime. <3 hugz>