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TAH on 11th August, feeling scared and overwhelmed!

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nirvanagurlie
nirvanagurlie

Hiya everyone, I'm Andi, and I'm 31. I had surgery in 2004 to remove a very large borderline ovarian tumour. They also took the affected ovary and fallopian tube. Now 11 years later, after visiting the gp in May with stomach problems, I have what is thought to be another borderline tumour on my remaining ovary. This time is has taken over my ovary so it needs to be removed and due to this I am booked in for a tah, with removal of the remaining ovary and omentum etc.. to check for any nasty cells. I am very lucky and have two healthy beautiful children conceived with just one I ovary, but having this operation has filled me with dread and heart ache. I always wanted another baby with my partner, I know deep down he did too. I can deal with not having any more children but losing all of these organs that are part of what makes me a woman and facing menopause at 31 is so God **** scary!

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  • claire35272
    claire35272 nirvanagurlie

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    Hi

    It is normal to feel like you do as it sounds as if it was very unexpected and you are young. I had a TAH in May, I had put it off for over 5 years as we were still trying to concieve a much wanted child. Unfortunately after a massive bleed which saw me admitted to hospital I had to make a heartbreaking choice to have a hysterectomy. However I can say that since the op I have found that I only have the odd day when I am sad that I had it done. Most of the time I am just happy to be healthy and getting on with

    living.My husband has been really understanding and we have come to

    terms with never having children. You have 2 lovely children and a great partner you need to be healthy for them. Talking about it will help you to deal with this, you will still be the same person, still a woman who is loved for who she is. I found having a good cry helps.

    Good luck for tomorrow the waiting is the worst.

    X

  • Mumbolian
    Mumbolian nirvanagurlie

    Posted

    It is daunting op at any age I think! It is a big operation but not just the effect of the surgery, all the upheaval with your hormones too. Please be kind to yourself, it is normal to feel as you do. I have two children and also went through the thoughts of not being complete any more or a real woman. But it hasn't changed a lot of things and in the long run I am sure it will make my life much better as no more fibroids or endometriosis. I think hormones have a large part to play in all the odd feelings after the op, and all the moods etc. but like childbirth, women go through the menopause too and survive! I don't suppose it's easy for men to understand all the hormonal stuff or the feelings of loss but hopefully your husband will be supportive and that's a bonus! I hope all goes well for you and be patient , give yourself plenty of recovery time. Do come back here afterwards, there are lots of lovely ladies who will help if they can. I would often be on here late at night when couldn't sleep. You are not alone. Take care.xx
  • VauxhallGirl
    VauxhallGirl nirvanagurlie

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    Hi Nirvanagurlie.

    How did you get on with your Hysterectomy? Hope it all went well, and you are now home and taking it easy.

    You are young to be having a TAH. So sorry this has happened to you. Nature can be cruel sometimes.

    I wish you a speedy recovery. Just don't do too much too soon! xx

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