tearing in vaginal and anal area
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hi everyone im 19 and have been recently suffering from this issue for about 8 months now. i had pain free sex before but now i tear at the fourchette area everytime i attempt sex. as well as sometimes after bowel movements my anal area is covered with splits that heal in hours. i have had 3 std panels by blood and ive been swabbed 4 times. tested negative for everything (bacterial, viral, yeast). i went to a vulva specialist twice and he said i was suffering from Vulvodynia and vulvar vestibulitis. he believes the tears are a chronic allergy and gave me a list of things to avoid but no relief. anyone deal with tears in these areas? it feels like my skin lost all ability to stretch and its scary since im only 19. however i do have hypothroidism. thank you ladies
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Guest
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and by the way. they are TRUE tears. not blisters, ulcers, nothing like that. they heal very quickly and i have not had a moment where this issue hasnt ruined my day. feels like a mystery condition that no one can diagnose.
Suki_girl Guest
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When i had vulvodynia my skin tore easily. i think it is something to do with the inflammation in the tissues. Do you have vulvodynia? I cant believe you do because you certainly wouldn't be able to have sex - it would be agony, if not during but certainly after (which is often the case).
Guest Suki_girl
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yes i can attempt sex. doesnt mean i enjoy it however. even sitting with my legs cross creates a horrible pain. sex feels like im being torn (which i am). i was diagnosed by a specialist. and it was confirmed by another.
Guest Suki_girl
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some women with vulvodynia can still have sex. everyone is different on how they feel pain and the tolerance they have
Suki_girl Guest
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yes, but if you continue to have sex while you have vulvodynia you will never be pain free. The only way to cure yourself is to stop anything that aggravates the nerves - the nerves need a chance to calm down. My consultant told me that the horror stories you read on the internet about women having vulvodynia for 20 odd years it is because those women didn't stop doing those things that aggravate the nerves. Vulvodynia is neuroceptive pain which is notoriously difficult to get rid of. Only once you have stopped doing everything that aggravates the nerves (e.g. sex, sitting, exercise) can you start treatments to cure it.
Also, with the skin splitting issue, the more often the skin splits in the same place the weaker it becomes in that place. My GP told me that i had to give the splits a chance to heal properly. So, no sex until they have healed, then massage my skin with nourishing oil (e.g. coconut oil, vit e oil) to stretch it. Then use vaginal dilators and gradually build up.
I speak from experience. It took me 1.5 years of no sex, no pressure (donut cushion), no exercise, plus various treatments to be cured of vulvodynia and another 6 months before i could have sex again. I have also helped several other women to become pain free. The ones i have been helping but are not pain free are, frustratingly, the ones that give in and have sex, putting themselves back to square one. If you are interested in the details of how i did it, click on my name and see my post "how i cured my vulvodynia".
Guest Suki_girl
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i am also experiencing the same thing around my anal area. its like my skin lost all ability to stretch. my specialist prescribed an estrogen cream for the weak area that splits in my vaginal opening. hopefully it works. i am also using all cotton underwear and no soap. and coconut oil.
Suki_girl Guest
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i now use estriol cream (vaginal dryness and splitting due to menopause), it has worked really well for me. Within 2 weeks my vag was moist, plump, looking much younger and sex was wonderful again. Do you use it on your anal area? I still occasionally get splits there, but vag fine now.