Telling a new partner I have genital HSV1
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I was diagnosed with genital HSV1 five months ago and haven't told anyone about it because I haven't needed to. Now I'm talking to a guy I used to see a few months before I was diagosed. If it all carries on going well and comes to the point where he wants to have sex, I'm gonna have to tell him that since last time, I've got this virus. How the hell do I even approach the subject without him freaking out? I'm so worried about it and it's all I can think about. Does anyone have any tips on how to bring it up? I really like him but I'm worried he won't understand - I myself knew nothing about it until I caught it, and I'd be so gutted to lose him over this.
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feelbroken natasha28787
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I ran into an old flame a couple months ago and he was wanting to start stuff back up and was wanting sex and I broke down in tears and said that if you knew what I had, you wouldn't want me. He immediately registered that and asked if I had herpes and I said yes and he didn't even blink. He said he didn't care and still felt no different about me and we'll just use condoms. I just couldn't put Jim at risk.. That bothered me more than anything, plus he's crazy.. So I never got back w him. I didn't trust he wouldn't hold it over my head. Of they're worth a d*man and care about you, he will look past it
natasha28787 feelbroken
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I know I'm just gonna have to go for it, and see what he says. You're right though, if he's serious enough about me, then I have to have hope that he will be accepting of it. Sounds like you made the right decision! Have you disclosed to anyone else before? SUCH a hard thing for a person to do.
feelbroken natasha28787
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teresa51341 natasha28787
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feelbroken teresa51341
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How long have you been seeing this new guy?
teresa51341 feelbroken
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feelbroken teresa51341
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I would definitely wait until you have the talk about where you guys are and decide to make this a relationship. I am going to be taking the same approach as you. I've dated two guys since I got it and was fretting from the first moment I went out w them, about telling them. I also think it contributed subconsciously to my self sabotaging ways, because deep down I didn't think they'd accept it. One I knew w out a doubt, he wouldn't, but the fact is, I sat there wasting all my time fretting over telling them and the right way too and ended up not liking them as I got to know them better or them not liking me. So I need to wait until it is certain that a relationship is what it is, before I risk putting myself through that humiliating discussion. I would broach the topic about where does he see this going and see what happens. If he makes it a relationship, then decide then is a good time or if some other time is. Don't wait when you're all heated up