Temperament after menopause
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i don't know if anyone can help with this. I've always been a feisty soul. If I felt I was being intimidated or challenged in a situation, I have always managed to stand my ground, and could do that from heated debate right up to full on screaming match. I went through the menopause 2 years ago at 40 and suffered from depression. Now every time I feel I'm being challenged/intimidated etc get very anxious and shaky. I can stand my ground for a bit and when it's over the anxiety kicks in. It's like all my fire has gone. Does that make sense? Has anyone else noticed a big change like that? I know people calm down after the menopause but to this extent???
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marlene21102 Hed1066
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Let any trivial things go over your head .i do .Best advice to anyone Peri or post meno .We get through it by the skin of our teeth as it is .Deep breathing ,and count to 10 .B......y Meno it's the pits and it's dragged out hormones .
Hed1066 marlene21102
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kathyc85 Hed1066
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Let's hope that these will help by making me feel more 'normal' again!
Best wishes, Kathy
marlene21102 kathyc85
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Hed1066 kathyc85
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i have read depression can follow menopause, it's the lack of oestrogen by all accounts.. If your feeling of being down in the dumps doesn't go, maybe try speaking to a doctor. Men have no idea if what we go through!!
loretta63638 Hed1066
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Hed1066 loretta63638
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i had a guy at work snap at me and I got really shaken up. I don't get shaken up, I get mad!! This new gentler side to me is difficult to get used to.
loretta63638 Hed1066
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jayneejay Hed1066
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try 100mg daily of Vit B6
jay xx
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kathyc85 jayneejay
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As Loretta said, I too worry less about what others think, and wish I could have been more like that earlier in my life, but hey ho, life's too short to go to your grave worrying about what others think, I know women who have always had the confidence to be themselves and not worry and no one seems to think any less of them!
Kathy
HotDot7 jayneejay
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kathyc85 Hed1066
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Marlene21102, I will be 59 at Christmas, and have noticed about once in a blue moon, I feel as I used to but think this must be just a fluctuation in hormones. I work in a secondary school, and despite feeling nervous and self conscious about being with a lot of people (more so with people I don't know very well) I sometimes feel as though I could shout and swear at some of the students, while most are sweeties, there are the odd few who just won't toe the line, and my tolerance is gradually getting less and less. The thought of having to still be there for another 7 years before I can afford to think about retiring fills me with dread!
Oh how I wish we could turn back time , getting older feels so wrong as I'm still only about 18 in my head!!
marlene21102 kathyc85
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Those 7 yrs will go by quicker than you think ,blink of an eye there gone .
hope the meno gone completly to ,bit the dust .
jayneejay marlene21102
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i am so grateful my peri started at age 40 ..
i know it was a long old 10 years of symptoms helped with Vits etc
but i am post meno now and age 50 ..
so glad mines done ..
i dont feel bad at all ... my Vits seem to work wonders for me..
HRT not a chance for me, dont fancy replacing declined hormones to come off HRT later and have another peri .. ' good grief' no way.. plus the risks, and family history .. its not an option ..
i however do use the Ovestin Estriol Ovules.. Vaginally but only once a week, ot once every ten days, thats pretty localised and keeps inside moist and plumped..
the Ovestin cream good for the outer bits, but only tiny amounts ..
thats my only complaint, thinning vaginal walls and discomfort, and dryness, but all getting better.. 😃
I actually cut the ovules in half to keep the measure low .. just maintained relief....
Replens MD etc doesnt work as well..
premeno Duo Ovules are very good though, from stress no more site..
they moisturise and help keeping BV and thrush at bay..
have a lovely evening
just getting dark here its almost 7pm, watched the sunset.. so pretty..
' oh the things we put up with'
my other half back at the moment, moaning his flu jab site is sore..
Jeeeez ' they wouldnt cope with this would they..
😄
jay x
marlene21102 jayneejay
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Yea I'd like pair of them to do this survival course .They' ed be up hospital every blooming day with hormones kicking off ,that's blokes for ya .
Think thinning walls big part of my problem past 9 yrs ,had 3 checks ,all I get is Nice an pink ,as it should be .Off I go home again .Not seen a dr since last Feb ,end up just coping and seeing what the ladies suggest ,like your self .wouldn't mind giving that what your on a try ,I've tried 1 dr gave me done nothing .with having BP it's hard to get anything .
Tried Replens that was useless ,even Silk ( Sylk ) ? Another waste of time .
HRT out window ,breast cancer in family ,plus had lump removed in the 70's ,I'd always worry anyway even had I'd been given it ,see how those dr meds and me don't mix ,so got not much faith in anything medical and me .all produce side affects . Right old mess for women ,only got to read there stories ,sad in this day and age. Crying shame I call it women just left to get on with it ,lucky them that get no meno probs wish we were them ,I'd settle for odd headache ,as one local gets ,now't else .
Glad the fellas home .trouble fast as he's back off he trots again .get odd jobs done ,you can't get at .Its dark here at 5pm Jay God Bless xxxxx
Hed1066 jayneejay
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thanks
jayneejay Hed1066
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i live in Spain Hed ..
My Gyno recommended Estriol ( the kinder oestrogen) cream and Ovules ..
i prefer the Ovules ..
jay x
Hed1066 jayneejay
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thanks