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Terrified of doctors, probably should go. What should I do?

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hannah42306
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So I'm a 19 year old female. The last time I've had an actual just normal physical was about 4 years ago. (I'm not counting a school physical, it was pretty brief and just filling out a couple of forms.)

For maybe the past year or so, I've experienced headaches. Some are minor, some are pretty painful. I almost always get them when I am stressed, so I just sort of brushed them off. Recently, I've been experiencing them more and more and they hurt more. I have a family history of brain issues so I think I should get checked out, but I'm too scared. I feel so stupid. I know people who are somewhat anxious about doctor's but I am TERRIFIED.

My mom doesn't understand and thinks I just "don't like going". Obviously, I don't, but that's not why I avoid going.

I don't have that great of experiences with doctors. I just remember when I was 4 one day, my mom told me I had an appointment and I just completely freaked out. Then after that, it was always something. My mom never told us until the day of that we had an appointment. The doctor was nice enough I guess but I just didn't really care for her. She just kinda brushed off my symptoms and anxiety imho and wasn't too much of a help, but my mom swore by her and made me keep going. The wait was forever too, honestly, for an appointment I'd be there at least an hour and fifteen minutes and probably about fifteen of those minutes were the actual appointment. I don't know if that's a normal thing but it's too nerve wracking. I start panicking.

There's other factors too. Since my father and uncle died, I don't have much of a trust for doctor's . I know it's stupid but I can't help it... And another time I went to my first gynecologist appointment and she just shoved the speculum thing inside me without warning, I jumped, and she told me I need to "calm down" and wouldn't take it out. Plus I am afraid of what health issues I may have. I have a family history of heart, brain, and anemia problems and I'm a former bulimic and afraid of what will happen.

My fiance still has his mom go with him (kinda weird, I know) but my mom is kind of insensitive and not very empathetic so I know she wouldn't go, or she'd just b***h about it the whole time.

I know this is long and I probably sound pathetic, but I really don't know what to do. People tell me "just find a new doctor, call, and make an appointment" but it's not that easy for me and I feel pathetic that I'm an adult and so scared over something so dumb. Please help???

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  • marleen85993
    marleen85993 hannah42306

    Posted

    Hi Hannah you obviously have a phobia of doctors .I would say a lot of people have.I know they can't be avoided for ever so it is a fear you have to face.Can your fiance or a friend not go with you.l would say health wise you are fine but just go and get yourself checked out.

  • richard89308
    richard89308 hannah42306

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    you could be working your mind too much hence the extra worrying and head aches.  Some Drs do not have a good bedside manner and you were unlucky at some of your appointments. headaches can be caused by anxiety and  overcomplicating issues.  Hope  you  feel better soon.
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