The worst day

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Hi all; I feel that I had "got the gist of Fibro"...but today I feel has been the worst day for a very long time....just felt "completely" out of this world....and as we all say "pace ourselves"...but there are times like this, that it's JUST not possible.  I guess it has been building up all week...from GP appt...then to having to drive to get scripts filled....and as I knew hubby was coming home for long weekend, tried to make sure everything was clean and ready for him....and to top off, having the Blinds installed last week, and trying to re-hang curtains one at a time...then the only day the Electrician could come was yesterday morning, and then son-in-law came yesterday afternoon to install some drawers in bedroom (as he didn't want hubby do have to do them when he was only home for a few days),,,,then having to drive to airport last night (which I am finding hard to do, driving is hard enough these days, but night-time is worse, with ALL of the car-lights).....little sleep last night, and then hubby going all day with lawns/garden/washing my car/having his eyes tested etc etc etc...and as kids wanted to catch up their father, three came for dinner.....this I really found difficult to do.....I was just so "out of it"....felt like I was Just coming out of an anaestheic (that's the only way/best way to describe it)....such an effort to even put greens etc into microwave/make the gravy....(felt hubby needed a good home cooked meal, so roasted a leg of pork etc).....it has been such a test, and I have known/told soooo many "not to do" these things, but what/how not to at these times.....and Yes the meds are coming out tonight...sooo need my sleep tonight, and every part of me "hurts"....the back muscles burning, legs/hips/ankles/arms neck muscles...all aching/heavy/sore....I know this not a New Discussion, just the b....Fibro, and a way of Reminding me...but as we all say, we feel that our families' know us and what we are going through, but still the same issues are always there.....no I'm not stressed.....am past that feeling, but sooo wish I knew how to say "sorry, you guys cook dinner"...   and tomorrow the other two girls want to come over with their families to see their dad, so another full day....redface.they know I find it hard, and I know they know, but as it's always been like that, it will always be like that, until I'm in the Nursing Home?????   anyways, just had my whinge, I guess to our forum of people who understand....Thankyou   Bron

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    Hi Bronwyn

    Totally understand, and when it rains it pours!!! You have just had a week packed of everything and unfortuantely it all came at once. I know you want to spend quality time with your hubby. So do it now and enjoy the time and don't worry about the chores, I'm sure your hubby rather see you happy than worn out and in loads of pain.

    Take the next few days enjoying happy moments and deal with your needs to and chillax. We all have days like those that you'd wish it would come to an end sooner. Hey but listen the reason we all do this is for our loved ones and really hope they appreciate all the effort we put ourselves through for them.

    I would like to say WELL DONE on all your hard work NOW please CHILLAX !! wink x

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    Oh! Bronwyn Bronwyn Bronwyn !!!! Have you learnt nothing ?? Instead of enjoying having your husband home your too knackered! He probably would nt have even noticed a bit of dust . And the family are probably so used to you juggling everything they just don't think . When you close the door on them feet up peace and quiet rest ! 
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    Wow...Bron:

    Your kids & family should be jumping to help you out...All I have left is my Dad & does what he can do, but he is in his 80's...How about a GF to help you ? Its so hard & driving can surly Suck ( day or night)...We are All here for you & totally get that you don't want to let anyone down or show you can't do it, but Reality is You Can't do the things you use to...Hang in there & know we are all here to listen & be supportive !!!

    Smiles & Giggles, & please get some rest !!!

    Valerie

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    Aww sad sorry it was a hard day for you. Hang in there, your always such great support, i know some days i look around at what needs to be done around the house and i try to do it all in one day ( to get it over with) and i pay for it the next day. Hope it gets better quick for you. Your a great person !
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    Hi bronwyn 1 of the hardest things to do when you have fibro is learning to pace yourself, easier said than done. when youve been use to rushing around non stop. But we have to pace our selves or we pay the price for over doing it like I did sat. Then today Ive paid the price for it, take care have a rest. 
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    Right behind you browny I started off early this morning having been up since 5.45 but had rush to loo about 4 too took to push mowing my back lawn whilst still have the weather an low and behold handle of it came off again and there is no way have strength to put back in place was in tears because everytime I want to get my two lawns cut thus keeps happening breathing terrible too on phone to my father to gave to come and put back together and finish the little left to do then took it away to see if could put nut and bolt as a remedy to this very poor designed sovendus argos mower of course even with two pairs of gardening gloves hands agony tonight t time tonight gave my toilet a thorough clean and prayed that I could get up from the kneeler put down to get round the back and done two lots if washing the lady lot put on without a riel liquid in so will be put on again and hung first lot out sitting catching up with fibro friends now but in absolute agony what I am running on cannot say given disturbed and unrestfull sleep stomach size of a house and never hungry had easy tea as boys with dad today and he cooks for them today just basically reductions at morrisons but smell of food turns my stomach anyway.  Make sure you rest and try and take things easier from here on in.  Back to work tomorrow for me in my private hire vehicle for special needs school run then meeting with Pluss to see what additional work can put this failing body thru how I manage to keep driving is something take a day at a time certainly will know when to surrender my keys and rely on my disabled bus pass but find bus journeys uncomfortable and stressful take care I can't do paving either it's a case of push thru as much as I can as sitting down then any movement thereafter crippling me

    rest up julia

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    Oh Bron, we are all wise after  the event.   How about next time  you delegate certain tasks to certain family members. Even if it is only preparing veg or making gravy. It will just take the edge off for you.  Trouble is our families expect us to be wonderwoman. Hark at me -  I am just the same overdoing things just because it is expected of me. Wish I could take my own advice!!!!redface  Thank goodness for the folk on here.

    Take it easy as soon as you can.

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      Thanks Maggers....you put it EXACTLY....just don't know how to ask???  I have never been that type of person, and I guess it 's "this" type of personality that brings us to suffer from Fibro....xxBron
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      Yep, I know it doesn't come naturally does it. Perhaps do what I did with the kids.  Give them the option which would you rather do for me - empty the dishwasher or put the washing in the washing machine. That way they get a choice but can't refuse!  It does get easier because I found the kids would jump to do the one they preferred before being asked.
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      yes that used to work when they were all living at home, they did  have their chores, but as all are "offically" living out of home now, I think they thought of themselves as guests????  The two older girls, when they came today, didn't expect to be waited on, so was a little easier, even with my "lethargy and soreness very pronounced" today...ah well will have the house back to myself after Wednesday, and will then be complaining that's it't toooo quiet....just can't satisfy me, hey?    thanks, Bron....rolleyes
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      Oh Bron:

      U know we all have the right 2 change our minds. Its Ok girl, we all do the same, but our different is our bodies don't do how or when we want it to...We R All hear to listen, vent & give one another our support.

      Wednesday will be here before U know it !!!

      Smiles & Giggles,

      Valerie826

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    Wow Bron, what an amazing person you are, I don't know how you keep going. Your family are so lucky to have such a caring mum as are we to have such a caring member on this forum. I do hope you had a refreshing sleep and that today is a less hectic day. I like the sound of the word delegate, have used that strategy myself and it does work. 

    All the very best

    Meg

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      Thanks Meg, and all; I didn't really expect any replies, but you gals are making me cry....I really do appreciate the replies and caring words...I guess It was one of those times when I just needed to vent, and as we all know this is the place to do it, as feel that everyone understands, and no-one takes offence.....Thankyou, all  ...Bron
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