think my mum understands

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When i was first diagnosed with social anxiety, my mum is the type to get really worried and serious about anything that happens to me but with this she wanted to know more but at the same time it didnt feel like she fully believed she is more of the type that says 'i cant see anything wrong with you, your fine'. But well after a sorta little argument I think she understands it now if i say, I cant go out today or something thankfully. It feels terrible when you think that people thar are close dont believe you mainly because they think 'He LOOKS fine in social situations'. 

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    That is a big problem.Everyone tells me I am fine(doctors too) because outwardly I look very 'together'.They just don't get the fact that I feel dreadful most of the time.

    some people think that I am exaggerating or'moaning',but I genuinely feel ill.

    i go out,but there are manybtimesvthat I turn round and go back home.I am not anti social,I just get panic attacks and gave to leave.

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      Yea i know, i too like going out but I ruin it by overthinking like thinking my friends dont want me there, that i dont belong with them, and stuff than i want to go as soon as possible, i have a panic attack but they dont notice since they are all talking and i try not showing anything though hands start shaking like crazy. Those are the things people dont see and thats why they say you look fine but really im in more pain than they can imagine
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      I am the same here. I take drives all the time on my days off from work or even for a lunch break and never really get out of my car, but I do want to ! but think the same thing you do.. Its sad I dont see my friends as much as I use to before my anxiety took over. My new thing that happens is my whole body stiffening up , fingers crippled looking, my lips squeezed together. My whole body just locked!! I read about a rare syndrome called stiff person syndrome so Im convincing myself , that this is what I now have. I only get like that when my anxiety is over board and lasts more then 30 min. Anyway I think people like us should live in the same subdivision at least we would want to leave the house cause we know we have friends around the corner that understand what its like to feel like this. By The way I do not want to take any medication for anxiety because I think any risk of taking the medicine thats written on the label I will get ! to me the medicine might help a little with the anxiety , but I will just get liver damage or something else from taking it. Why add on another problem.. I wish holistic doctors werent so freaking expensive or I would definatly try a natrual supplement .  Hope you over come your anxiety !!! Have a nice day, Jess 
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    If my Mum & dad sorted me out when i was a child and they did not let me see violence between them and on me my brother and sister  i would have a normal life now..

    My mum and family are the worst culprits to my condition , asking when am i going back to work, they  drive me crazy repeating the same stuff.

    completely ignorant to mental illness.

    and i am a 44 tonne truck driver.

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    At least she is trying to understand. Try not to take it personally. I know it can be sooooo frustrating that people don't understand and you just lose your temper with them! I for one know that, I could quite easily have been jailed for mass murder the amount of people that annoy me cos they seem to think it is non exsistant!

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