This all calms down, right ?????

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I am so glad I found this group. I have been fighting the good fight for years now, but am at my wits end. Every day feels like my main goal in life has become just getting through the day. Waking up with weird new symptoms while trying to manage the old ones. I honestly don’t know how much more of this I can take before I have a complete breakdown. I’ve had a complicated relationship with hormones my whole life, so am not surprised that my menopause journey would be an extension of that but…wow 😞 Nobody told me it could be this bad. The daily headaches, changes to vision, visual snow, dizziness, insomnia, brain fog, aches, pains, zaps, jolts, breast pain, ear noises, anxiety, allergies, hot flashes …the list goes on, and on. I am trying so hard to be strong for my kids and myself but I honestly feel like I’m losing this fight somehow. There are so many things I want to be doing and experiencing right now but managing these symptoms has become a full time job. My Doctor also has the “all women experience this, it’s no big deal” attitude, but she is wrong. This is a huge deal. Someone tell me it gets better 😩

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    Hi,

    I have a lot of the same symptoms as you ( daily headaches, changes to vision, visual snow, brain fog, aches, pains, ear noises, anxiety and mild hot flashes ) I also suffer with constipation and weight gain. The one symptom I no longer get is ocular migraine🙏. I'm 55 and 2 years post menopause and my symptoms started getting worse about 2 years before my period stopped and then once my period stopped, my symptoms got even worse. But I have friends and relatives who no longer have any symptoms, maybe just weight gain , so I think its just a matter of time before the symptoms resolve. Are you post or peri ?

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      Thank you for your reply ! So glad to hear your ocular migraines are gone! I get those every once in awhile too! I am 64 days today without a period, so this is the longest stretch of time without one for me yet, so peri. I should be having my period right now so this is usually when things get weird for me then somewhat subside, but everything seems to be lingering a little longer. From what I am reading it really is woman to woman as far as how long this could go on for. I hope you get relief soon !

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    Hello Kristin...

    I hate to be the BEARER OF BADDDD NEWS, yet I must be soooo... brutally honest with you, regarding menopause; suffice it to say, it gets WORSE before it gets better! Several years ago, my friend's mom told me, it goes to the grave with us womenfolk! As scary as that sounds, I believe her. I am in FULL blown menopause, and it is absolutely horrible; my symptoms got WORSE, once my period ceased! Now, I will say this, there will be some great days, when you feel like you can conquer the world, when you have those days, BASK in them! Having said that, the HORRIFIC days tend to outnumber the great ones! Anyhoo, be well, my menopausal sistah!

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      Thank you for your honesty! It really is woman to woman though, I can only pray at this point that my experience goes a little smoother ❤❤❤❤

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      Hey Kristin...

      I totally understand. I, too, hope your menopausal experience is MUCH better than mine.

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    I feel your pain, and I understand you completely. You have my deepest sympathy. I have struggled through the most horrendous symptoms, both physical and mental, for close to five years. Now, I am finally seeing some genuine progress. In the last few months, I have been well, better than well, 80% of the time. I feel confident, energized, optimistic, and SO appreciative of everything in my life. It does get better, and it will get better for you. This isn't a life sentence, even though it feels like one. I turn 54 this year, and my periods are spacing out by over 110 days. You will recover; I promise. In the meantime, do whatever you can to lessen your struggle. Explain to your loved ones what you are going through; it helps.

    Reach out to my anytime; I will always respond:)

    Hugs,

    Bev xo

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      you have me in tears, thank you ! I can't tell you how much I appreciate your response! I am so glad you are feeling better. I have been absolutely blind sided by this. Never was I told or did I learn that it could be this bad! I really just needed to hear that it is possible to feel somewhat like yourself again, and you have done that for me. I am eternally grateful, thank you ❤

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      I'm so glad that my response helped:)

      If you go back and read my posts over the years, you will see the level of struggle that I went through; it was beyond horrendous. There were countless times that I just didn't want to go on, and I didn't want to be here; the suffering was that intense!

      Not only will you be well, but you will be your best self, and you will be so proud of the strength that you harnessed to survive the tsunami of perimenopause.

      xo

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      You are an Angel. Thank you! Deep down I know what you say to be true, I just needed to hear it. You have renewed my hope, Thank You! XO

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      I began this journey about 5yrs ago. I don't even know if it is full menopause/perimenopause. my thyroid also went crazy, I went hyperthyroid then now hypothyroid. my levels have not been stable in years.. Dx with a sleep disorder "idiopathic hypersomnia" I have been On NUMEROUS antidepressants, none of them work. no period in 5mths. daily headaches, severe brain fog spaced out feeling, scared to leave my house....this one I don't understand!! panic attacks, depression. Health anxiety through the roof. live and breath how I feel daily. the list goes on. I fear I will NEVER feel good again or the Dr's are missing something! this is horrible, no quality of life.

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    No matter how awful the struggle...hope remains. It will get better. I promise you.

    Big hugs,

    Bev xo

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