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This is just too much!

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sharcerv52408
sharcerv52408

Hello all!

I read on this forum a while back from some of the other women that once you're in menopause that the symptoms that you've experienced during peri menopause get worse. I can now attest to this fact. I haven't had a period since December of 2021, so suffice it to say I am now in full blown menopause. All of the symptoms that I used to get during peri have all kicked it up a notch or ten notches, I should say. Recently, I have been battling with worsening anxiety which causes me to wake up feeling nervous and jittery. I have wobbly feelings in my legs. I feel a nervous feeling in my chest when I go to take a breath. I have this tight feeling under my ribs that sometimes moves to the breastbone area and then to my back which sends my anxiety through the roof. Then I have been having migraines with vertigo for the past couple of days and don't get me started on the heat flashes. I can't take it any more! I had to resign from job because I couldn't deal with these symptoms while working a full time job that was very stressful plus I am still raising two kids at home. I feel like I am losing it sometimes. They say this is supposed to last 10-15 years? This is like being sentenced to a life of misery. I miss the old me when I was happier and felt good. I feel like I'm so old. I am only 49 but I feel like I am 69. Please tell me that it gets better!

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  • trinity03
    trinity03 sharcerv52408

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    I'm so sorry. I can totally relate though. I'm still in PERI menopause and have been for about 7 years. There's always a new weird "inexplicable" symptom and yes, the anxiety is horrible. I hope it does get better for you. You're not alone!

  • vivian72668
    vivian72668 sharcerv52408

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    Hey There, Shar..

    Just to update you on the menopausal terminology, you are in FULL BLOWN post-menopause. Suffice it to say, when any woman has not had a period for twelve months consecutively, she is in the post menopausal stage of her life. Having said that, I, too, am in the post menopausal stage, I am DEEP in the throes of it, and have been for roughly six plus years. I have to say this: When I entered the uncharted waters of post-menopause, my symptoms got worse! I experienced soooo... many HORRIFIC symptoms, I wanted to hide for years until this sugar, honey ice tea ended! Anxiety became my best friend, cravings for sugar were overwhelming, stiff and achy joints were a force to be reckoned with, negative and horrific thoughts were often, my teeth began to hurt and shift, my knees sounded like someone was walking up a flights of stairs that were about to collapse, a bad bout of leg and hip pains were commonplace. Realistically, I had to pull myself together.. mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, and financially, to get through this relentless TSUNAMI!! Each day, I make it my business to be as SANE as I possibly can. Now, I'd be remiss if I didn't mention this VITAL tidbit: Many of the relentless symptoms take a break, and many of them return with a vengeance, so there are days and sometimes even weeks, when you will feel like you are on top of the world, sooo.... BASK in those GOOD TIMES, simply because other HELLISH symptoms are lurking right the around the corner to wreak their havoc! Also, countless women in their late 70s, have told me that menopause accompanies us womenfolk to our graves, how unfortunate is that? The only thing I can suggest to you Shar is to be VERY kind to yourself and drink plenty of H20. You will get through this! And on that note, be well, my menopausal sister!

    • sharcerv52408
      sharcerv52408 vivian72668

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      Thank you for the clarification on the terminology. I can definitely relate to the aches and pains especially in my legs and knees. I was also told by one of my mother's old friends that she still got heat flashes and she was 88 years old at the time. I definitely have a hard time resisting sweets as well. I ate a whole lot healthier ten years ago when I first started getting symptoms. Like you said, this is a time to be kind to ourselves or at least try. Thank you for responding. Take care! Hugs to you, dear!

  • vivian72668
    vivian72668 sharcerv52408

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    Hey Shar...

    You're very welcome. Hugs to you as well, my dear! Make your health and SANITY your number one priorities during these TUMULTUOUS times! Btw: My friends mother said menopause goes to the GRAVE with us womenfolk. Smh! Like you said, IT IS TOO MUCH, wayyyy too much, keeping it 100! That being said, be well, my menopausal sistah!

    • StellaAnn4417
      StellaAnn4417 vivian72668

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      Lol if menopause went to the grave with women, there would be no women left on earth past the age of 55. They would have ended it all.

      And men would take over the planet.

      I see plenty of women in their late 50's, 60's, 70's, and 80's and they seem as happy as kids in a park without a care in the world.

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