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Thoughts and feelings

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donna27148
donna27148

Hi Ladies any of you ever experience bad thoghts and horrible feelings that just come out the blue xx

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  • sabrina1971
    sabrina1971 donna27148

    Posted

    Yes! They either arrive in the form of fear and complete doom, or anger and rage. All out of the blue, and horrible! My partner is having trouble dealing with them and I don't blame him. He used to be able to just shut up and let me rant but lately he argues back so it turns into rows that last hours and hours. rolleyes
  • donna27148
    donna27148

    Posted

    I just keep thinking what the hells up with me now everytime it happens then it leaves me feeling so anxious for abit slowly learning to snap myself out of it but so hard and draining xx
  • Cee49
    Cee49 donna27148

    Posted

    Heyyy ladies, I feel you girls in this one. Just out of the blue these thoughts of fear, try to invade my mind but I cast them out with prayer. I do find that it calms me to the point of peacefulness. Throughout this perimenopause journey of 8 years now, my husband and young adults son and daughter, often tell me I'm so calm in these past 3 years. I don't argue or get irritable anymore.. And I tell them its the power of prayer!! I was a HOT MESS before, no pun intended. Meditate girls, make time for yourself, rest, walk, eat balanced, sleep when you have to and hydrate often. You only have one of you and you're that SPECIAL!!!
    • michelle50768
      michelle50768 Cee49

      Posted

      Hi cee

      Wow I could have written your post word for word!!!

      I too pray and read my bible and I also have been in perimenopause eight years.

      Sometimes I must admit I lose the battle with the anxiety and depression buit I haven lost the fight.

      I tell myself I can do all things through christ who strengthen me.

      This site is a real blessing for all us ladies.

      At least we know we are not alone.

      Praying for all you ladies for better days ahead xx

  • Carolmayhew6
    Carolmayhew6 donna27148

    Posted

    Yes Donna

    I've had this n it's terrible

    I get worked up & what ever I'm thinking about feels 100 times worse & the feeling lasts for hours at a time then I try n forget n calm meself down but it's very difficult sad

  • susan21149
    susan21149 donna27148

    Posted

    Yes all the time when ever i have these palpitations of mine i get an feeling of butterflys in my stomach and i feel like there is something really wrong with me and my heart palpitations come when i am walking around when i am sitting or lying down it in the middle of my chest not to the left where the heart is so what do you ladies think it is because i had an EKG last Friday on the 19th nothing showed up on the EKG but the nurse asked if i have COPD and i said no because i do not smoke so do you ladies think its the Gerd doing this to me I just started taking 40mg of Pepcid(generic Famotidine) because i have been diagnose with Gerd Acid Reflux and i have read that people with Gerd get the fast heart rate and palptations and anxieties with it. Also i know that gerd can make you wheeze like you have asthma or COPD which i don't 

    Wish i new but i don't just feel like screaming and cryingsad

    • michelle50768
      michelle50768 susan21149

      Posted

      I too have gerd and every symtom you mentioned. Yes you can get oalps and shortness of breath with gerd.

      I stopped all caffeine I used to drink three cups of tea a day and the palpitations have reduced significantly.

      Hope this helps x

    • susan21149
      susan21149 michelle50768

      Posted

      one thing is i do not drink caffiene i do drink ginger ale to help settle down stomach issues but no caffiene no chocolate i am cutting down on sweets not going to eat any thing sweet just eat baked or broiled chicken or fish and a little bit of noddles or bland potatoes no spices or salt either i stay away from them have to eat bland foods or my IBS symptoms occur 

      i even stay away from fried foods and cheese the only time i have milk is if it is in my cereal and its the almond milk 

      pepcid should be helping today i have a really bad headache so i am taking it easy 

  • zoomie
    zoomie donna27148

    Posted

    This web site makes me feel soooo normal. yes i get this as well. Very hard to shake off.
  • kathy46259
    kathy46259 donna27148

    Posted

    my thoughts come out in the middle of the night, so I can say they come out of the dark.  I know that a positive attitude is a strong factorl, I see it at work in my friends, thay purposely put their minds into a positive pattern.  i have yet to learn how they do this.

    My thoughts seem to surround some type of fear.

    Is this open for discussion?

    kathy

    • michelle50768
      michelle50768 kathy46259

      Posted

      Yes kathy it is very hard to keep your mind on positive things. Ive been in perimenopause eight long years now and have battled every symptom there is to have.

      But it really does help to quote scripture or positive affirmations in your head.

      Im on a low dose AD mirtazapine but on the really bad days they dont help.

      Ive duffered debilitating anxiety and depression during this time.

      Even to the point of feeling like I wadnt really here almost like id lost myself. Very weird I know. This site helps so much hearing other ladies experience. Makes you feel less alone.who woukd have thought peri could cause so much problems.

      Stay strong x

  • Madmarilyn
    Madmarilyn donna27148

    Posted

    Hello Girls! 

    I'm with Kathy, positive thinking if you can! 

    If not, the  anxiety can sometimes be rationalised by just reminding yourself that though you are feeling these things, it is all part of the peri and menopausal merry go round. It won't make the thoughts go away, but it might help you accept them for being irrational, if that makes sense.

    I sometimes get overwhelmed with anxiety, even though I know it's stupid, but try to reassure myself with the fact that even though I'm having these feelings. I know they'll pass and there is no real reason for them. Hope that helps some.

    It may sound a bit crazy, but getting outside, hearing birdsong and looking for the changing of the seasons can put our own small part in this world into perspective, if all else fails - it makes you less introspective at least! Keep smiling, and get some sunshine! 

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