Tight foreskin ruining sex

Oh dear - poor you. And you've waited 30 years.  The sad thing is that when I was at school all pupils were seen by a doctor and this would have been picked up and dealt with.

The simple answer is that you do need a circumcision.  Do not be put off by this it is a comparitively simple and largely painless operation and will solve the problem.  You will then be left with a penis with the glans uncovered all the time. There are those who would tell you that circumcision is a mutilation and I would agree that is the case where it is done - without good cause - to children but you are an adult and can make your own mind up. There may be other proceedures - one is to simply slit the foreskin from tip to base - but this leaves a "flappy" foreskin. Some may tell you that cream can be used to soften the tight ring but if you want a quick and certain outcome I would go for circumcision. You may have difficulty getting it done quickly on NHS but it is not generally particularly expensive privately. Normally done with local anaesthetic.

Best of luck with this

Another thing about the condition [phimosis if I recall] is that it is highly unlikely that unless you have some special technique the area under your foreskin may be unpleasant both for you and any partner.  There is also an [anecdotal?] risk that a partner will be at higher risk of cervical cancer from this.

Thanks for sharing your "stuff" Geoff.

Go and talk to a professionally experienced individual who is going to

give you the right advice on the best way to deal with your situation

A layman can hypothesise for ever and a day and perhaps talk very intelligently

about this, but he or she can only give their opinion based on the level they are

on.......but it wont be a professionals level, and this is what you need.

Irwin.

geoff,

As soon as you can, I would seek medical advice from someone with much experience with the problem you write.  As a young male, you should not be frustrated sexually at your age (any age for that matter).  Your physical problem is hendering your sexual health, as well as mentally and emotionally, not only for you, but for your partner as well.

Probably an operation is in order to correct that which is hendering your love life.

Wish you  well.

You dont necessarily need a circumcision. My current boyfriend had this problem and his doctor prescribed him a cream that he massaged into his foreskin and it loosened it.

Best solution: see what options your doctor gives you.