Too much pain

Hi Arlene

Sorry your feeling so bad. All my symptoms started at 40 im now 48. So been in perimenopause 8 years. How old are you if you dont mind me asking.

Your symptoms could well be hormonal.

Ive had every menopause symptom thet is to have. There are days when im just so overwhelmed!!!! Im not on hrt but did go on an AD in November called mirtazapine. It did help a little. Just keep telling yourself this too shall pass. Hormones can do crazy things to our bodies and minds.

God bless and keep posting on this site it really is a lifesaver. Im sure someone will be able to give you more advice than me. I never knew perimenopause could be this awful but one day at a time. Xxx

hi arlene, you have my sympathy and understanding. I have had a chronic pain problem in most of my body since i was 17yrs, I am now 63!! I started menopause at 57 which is lateish compared to some. It definately increased the intensity of my pain so it must be pretty normal. I am on anti-depressants to help the pain as well as etopan anti inflammatory and codeine etc. side effects are not very good and the etopan is a risk for me as I have angina. However can't do without it, have tried and can hardly move about.  It helps with flexibility. For you the pain will eventually go when the dreaded menopause ends. I still have flushes and hate them. everyone seems to finish and start differently so I can't help you and say when it will go. I am the same as you where lying down is the only cure temporarily. I usually take my pain killers and a cup of tea and relax as much as I can. I take two hot water bottles to put on the worst bits!!! I could do with about 20!! sorry to not give you a real answer but I really know how desperate you feel but you will get through it. take care.

Hi Arlene

It's terrible to have the pains n discomfort isn't it

I've had reduced mobility since February sent home from work 13th dec with back pain n unable move

Got that sorted n then I got excruitiating pain in my knee then my other knee OMG I ? I had something seriously wrong slow but surly but with pain still present I'm getting about better but not how I was previously to getting the pain

I had an aroroscopy to my left knee on Tuesday last week n boy is it painful but I'm hoping it will have helped

Legs feel like jelly at the min as though they won't hold my weight so doing strengthening exercises n taking paracetamol as though there goin out of fashion

Hope you feel better soon yes it drags us down dusnt it like you I just want to feel better x

Hi Arlene, I feel for you. Ive had the full whammy of symptoms including hip and back pain that made me squeel in the morning....splashed out on a good mattress, took brufen and glucosamine and gradually it got better. Still have aches and pains but bearable. Tell your doc how you feel or write it down for her. Ask her about the pros and cons of HRT. Perhaps it worth trying if you feel so bad. Try to find ways of being kind to yourself. Believe me, its not always that easy having a partner as they just dont get it. Im ok on my own but the minute he starts nagging me to go out, visit friends etc I feel like screaming. Im happiest with just my dog, she doesnt ask for much and gives the best cuddles. You might not get physical hugs on this website, but youll get e-hugs in spades. It really is a rotten time of life. My doc said the trigger for offering HRT is when you feel you cant go on. Ive held off so far, but Im on the brink, just waiting for blood results. Keep going back to your gp, keep a diary of how you feel and the meds youre taking. Try to keep active. If all else fails, eat chocolate! Keep in touch and moan as much as you want. We are here for you! X

Hi Arlene

You have my sympathy.  I can't remember the last time I felt "normal".  Things started for me at about 45.  At the time I didn't recognise that it was peri but I do now.  I am now 60 and haven't had a period for a couple of years but I have constant pain.  Lower back, knees, shoulders and most recently wrists.  It's so debilitating.  I take Ibuprofin when it's bad but just keep hoping things will get better.  I am going to see a special doctor in June.  I forget what they are called but they are medical doctors who also incorporate naturopathic remedies.  I am hoping he might be able to give me some answers.  I am also going to try and go on a cleansing diet eliminating sugar and processed foods to see if that helps.  I have been to chiropractors, pysios, oesteos, Bowen therapy, acupuncturists, etc.  must be time for a naturopath 😉. If Someone could just tell me that this eventually gets better I feel I could cope.

Arlene, I know it doesn't help much, but you are not alone. I too have shoulder pain.In fact it seems that every knock and injury I have ever suffered has come back to get me! 

20 years ago I injured my neck and right shoulder in a riding accident. 6 years ago I dislocated the same shoulder. I get terrible pins and needles in my hands (and feet). A 'Specialist' told me I had Carpel Tunnel Syndrom. I said 'if it's in my wrist WHY is it worse when I'm lying down?!'

I have tried many 'natural remedies', non of them worked so I asked the Doc. for HRT. I was on that for a while and felt like my old self - then I started getting bleeds, so I stopped. The night sweats came back, the joint pain (shoulders, neck, hips, back, right ankle, right elbow), I can't sleep and I could whinge for Ireland!

I've gone back on to HRT, (damn it what's a bit of blood?) I am slowly starting to feel human again. Waiting for blood test results then I'm back to Docs. to get a more suitable HRT.

I realise I am very fortunate in having an understanding OH. He is having problems of his own right now and we make a right pair! He recently treated me to a back massage for my birthday. It was FABULOUS, I can really recommend it. She undid so many knots in my back, I felt like I was walking on air (for a while!)

The girls all have some good ideas, hot water bottles (I use microwaveable bean bags), pain killers (a migraine treatment with paracetamol, codine and something that helps with nausea works a treat), be kind to yourself and treat yourself to a massage, a bit of pampering and 'me' time.

Any time you feel the need to vent, we are here for you. As they say around here 'work away' (feel free to do want you want)

Arlene:

This is the place to be negative. 

I finally went back on HRT with the prejesterone.  The pains are much, much better.  I sat with a Pharmasist and went over all the tests and reports done on premerine.  90% of the women with brest cancer have never been on HRT.  We are paying too much attention to the research done on PremPro that showed all the bad news and its off the market.

All of us have different info. and opinons.

Breath..............let us hear from you in a few days and let us know how you are doing.  All of us do care.

kathy

 

Yes I cannot believe hormons can make us feel this way, I started mine at age 41, every year it's something new, this year I have the same , nerve damage on my feet, I've heard this takes a long time to heal my chiropractor keeps telling me, so please hang in there it will go away!!

One more thing , I keep telling myself mind over nerves, it helps little when your mind is busy not focusing on the pain. 

Hi ladies

I want to set us all a little challenge ne included!!!!

What you say is what you get and where the mind goes the man follows.

So lets take a one week challenge and speak only positive things into our situation and life.

No speaking negative only positive words and affirmations.

Lets all try this as hard as it may be.

I would love to hear how we all get on.

Happy thoughts xx

Stay in touch and lets get well together x