Touch inappropriately? Or it’s normal?

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Hi. I just created this page I don’t know how it work but I hope I get some answers. I’m a female 20yeard old, I used to have a female doctor but because of recently moving out of town I got another doctor which is a male doctor. I was inside of the room waiting for the doctor minutes laters he came in into the room, and checked my lungs, and ask me what it was hurting. I told him the I wanted to do a urine exam and only lots of headache. He ask me to lay down, so I did. He then started checking my chest in which at the same time I felt his elbow in my private part. I was nervous. Then he started to press under my belly to see if it hurts. In which I told him no.  He without asking me for permission when and started touching me in my tight right next to my part I could feel his hands he keep like massaging it and on top of my private part putting pressure on it. I was scare I don’t find that normal. Plus when he came in to the room he was not professional well dress, like he had he shirt unbuttoned which is not professional. I don’t know what to do and whom to talk to.  It’s this normal?

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    Hi this sounds a bit dodgy to me and I think women generally know if something is wrong so trust your instincts.  I would make sure next time that there is a female chaperone or change doctors.  Don't take any risks.  x

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    Hi Veky,

    Firstly sorry to hear about you experience.

    When the Dr walked in the room, did he sit down and ask what you had come in to see him about, if so what was your reasons.?. When examining you, did he offer you a chaperone?  And also did he say what and why he was examining the areas he was.?

    Secondly, I think your first port of call should be to write to the practice manager, and explain your concernes and how it made you feel.?

    If you need to go back next time, you have 2 options, 1 if it’s a male Dr you can ask for a caperone, even if it’s a female Dr. Or if you know you might need certain areas examined then you can request to see if a female GP is avalliable.

    Regards 

    Buggsy 

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      Yes hi. He did ask, I replay and told him that it was because of dark yellow urine. And he did not recommend me for a chapero. He never told me why he was touching down there he just went.
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      Hi Veky, if you described those symptoms then i would expect him to examine up around your bottom of the rib cage both sides to see if you have any pain around the kidney area, I would also expect him to press on the lower part of your torso, so say roughly half way between your belly button and your pubic region to press down and again check for pain by pressing on your bladder.

      I can’t see any reason why he would need to touch you in your private parts.

      You are doing the right thing in reporting it to the police but please make your complaint known to the practice directly as well, they may have had similar complaints and need to monitor the Dr or make sure he asks for a chaperone to examine other patients. To stop anyone else feeling like this.

      Best regards Buggsy

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    Hi this may sound wierd but are you sure he was a Dr, secondly if he was instead of asking on here you should be reporting this to the authorities, if it's right then it needs stopping because you probably weren't the first, this is not the place to be discussing something that could end up in court, you need to be really sure it was an assault the way you have described it.

    Don't fret it but talk to your mum

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      Veky

      I was thinking about your problem this morning.

      My Practice used to have three Male GPs and three Female GPs. Five years on we now have four female GPs and two Male GPs. It can be a problem for the Male Population at our Practice as we need to wait longer for an appointment with a male GP. Generally most appointments do not effect the sexuality of my GP although they generally prefer to pass you over to one of the Male Partners when it becomes a male invasive problem.

      One of the female GPs specializes on the basic problems I have with my Disability and it can become problematic if I need an appointment with that female GP.

      The problem many practices have now is the supply of replacement GPs, this is getting worse as patients shuffle on looking for a preferred GP.

      If you feel you need an explanation why the Doctor examined you in a certain suggestive manner contact your Regional Health Authority and ask for that explanation 

      If the problem is a one off, make an appointment with the Practice Manager, She will be able to discuss your concerns

      BOB

       

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      That's appropriate and I truly hope you don't let it dominate your thoughts, just remind yourself that it was not your fault and let others take control, seems pretty horrendous I know but you will come through stronger

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    Veky

    If you are unhappy with a Male GP and the practice does not have a Lady GP, change the practice to one that has women GP s on their list.

    I do not know if your GP was unprofessional when performing Examinations or what the examination was for.

    Sometimes when changing Practice a Doctor may perform a medical checkup, your records may not have been forwarded, or got held up.

    One thing you can do is look on the NHS CHOICES pages, they list GPs at each practice in your area, you are in your rights to change to a practice that has Femail GPs represented on their list.

    You may need to go through some form of examination there as well.

    BOB

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