Traumatised after watch grandmother pass

I am so sorry for your loss. Sadly death is often like this...a slow departure from this world. I too experienced this last year. It is true thankfully they don’t usually suffer as much as the relatives looking on. Their senses diminish...the last to go is hearing and touch so it is wonderful that you were there for her. Take comfort in the knowledge that she would have been aware of your presence etc. I did a lot of research myself to try and understand what to expect. As someone told me ‘dying is hard work’. 

Please please rake comfort from the fact that you were there for her. It is true time heals but it does hurt for a while. Xx💕

I am sorry for your loss a Grandmother is very special.

Grief affects different people in different ways. Was your Grandmother in a Nursing home or care home?

I'm very surprised you were not given advice on her condition and support after her passing. My husband is in a Nursing home, I am given support every day I'm with him. He is not just left to pass away, the carers are doing so much for him in his last days. I sit and hold his hand, he sleeps 90% of the time. I used to nurse dementia patients in a hodpital.

It all depends on how you view death, if you are very religious then the soul will go to where ever your beliefs dictate.

It was wonderful you were with your Grandmother when she passed. You have to realise she is no longer lost or suffering, she is at peace, you might even think she is an angel now.

I know what you're going through, I was at my Dad's bedside in a hospital when he passed away. Now I sit beside my dear husband's bedside as he slips away. The carers in the Nursing home are wonderful, they not only do everything for him but support me too.

Please do go

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Please see your Dr who could send you to see a councillor, he/she is the best person to help you.

Please talk about your granny to friends and family, remember the wonderful or funny things she did. This helps too.

Take care, remember no two people will grieve in the same way. Grief takes many forms and can take years to get through, other people get over a loss easier, it's not that they don't care, it's the way they perceive life and death.

Good luck

You have my deepest sympathy.  I too was with my Grandma holding her hand as she passed away. 

She had Alzheimer’s too.  I would like to share my story with you. At the time of her passing, my Grandma lived in Florida and I was in Pennsylvania.  Through the years We were very close. One Sunday in Church I was praying for her.  In my mind, I heard a voice, loud and clear, say one word ... GO!  The next day I caught a flight

to Florida.  That next night around midnight I was holding her hand, and the Lord allowed me to be there with her

as she peacefully passed.  I am so grateful that I was there with her. My Grandma was a strong, beautiful, dignified Lady.  Now I can tell you this JJ, that your Grandmother would tell you that she was glad you were with

her holding her hand.  She would also tell you, that she does not want you to be Traumatized, because she would never want to cause you that pain. So it is not easy and there is no time frame for our hearts to heal.

We simply have to take it one day at a time.  Think about Good memories of your Grandmother. Listen to your

Heart, You know what she would tell you.  Most of all, it is so important to talk about this, with family, friends,

or even a therapist who knows how to help us through this grief which is painful and difficult.  So let your emotions flow freely.  In time, you will get through this, and just know that your Grandma is always in your

Heart.  Take Care (((((((huggs)))))))   ~   Faith

Hello i have completed 22 round of sun.

Oho! god give peace to her soul.