Trouble getting out of bed

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Its not a physical issue, I'm fine. But when I wake up look at the time I have no desire or energy to get up and stay in bed. It feels like a heavy feeling throughout my body and maybe I get 7 hrs of sleep. I think its cause I'm not working and not having much of a schedule I already feel stuck in a rut. As much as I'm trying to keep positive and not laying around all day, its a s****y feeling. I think its also I live with my parents who don't do much during the day and watch TV. I try to talk about this and my emotions but they clearly show they don't want to talk about it since they don't know what to say. I also feel their in denial of their own depression.

Even when I worked I would look up at the time in bed and dread going to work.

Maybe it would be better if plan my day the night before or exercise as soon as I get up.

Thanks for reading.

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    having a personal set schedule is very healthy especially for mental and emotional health . I know exactly what you mean because I haven’t done much for the past year due to the virus and I became very depressed. I am older than you and I didn’t want to burden my grown kids all the time with how I’m feeling. They are great to me but I know they have their lives to live. So since I couldn’t get out and socialize, I ended up getting virtual online counseling and I’m still doing it weekly! It’s really helpful to talk to somebody who understands and who can help manage all of this. If you’re able to do that give it a shot! I actually look forward to my weekly sessions.

    but when we don’t have a schedule or routine to follow, it’s easy to feel really down in the dumps and depressed. We are so used to getting up and going to work and having a routine. But even if you’re not working you can still have a routine. Set your alarm clock and make yourself get up. Get some good exercise. it relieves anxiety and depression because of the endorphins that are released.

    Not sure if you have a social life now but that’s really important. Physical, mental, emotional, social and spiritual components are very important to feel whole. We have to nurture those. There are some excellent videos on YouTube about determination, and pushing yourself to do what’s best for you. There is an ex Navy seal who grew up in a horrible environment and turned his life around. Boy is he inspirational! david goggins. he’s a no nonsense guy. He inspired me even though there’s no way I could ever do the things he does, but he just got me going.remember, we have to take care of ourselves and put ourselves first sometimes. Nobody else can do it for us. As david goggins says, when you get that little thing in your head that says well I can do it later or I don’t need to do another lap etc. that’s when you push even harder because that’s when it makes a difference! You can apply that to anything in life. Even getting out of bed haha just kidding. Hope this helps! ❤

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      Thanks it does,

      I really don't get much out of it cause I think I just need to be around people and socialize. I never had much of a social life, work was.

      I understand about you wanting to reach out to your family. I'm similar where I want to open up more to my family but feel like a bother. I want to tell my sister things or ask for advice but I always have a fear that what I say will be misinterpreted. It's a very lonely feeling. Hell I open up more to people I have connection with than my own family.

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    hi drewski, i saw your post read it twice and thought that was me. i don't work due to ill health. i do deliver newspapers everyday though, i walk to the shop collect them, walk to houses and deliver them. i do it Monday to Saturday. i try to have things to do everyday, i have health conditions but despite this i have even managed to start a business admin course! i try to build my life around my day. I have learnt to cut down the amount of spare time i have because it means i have less time to think! oh and i have 2 cats who always need fuss, so they help to build routine. is there any chance you could walk a dog or anything each day? it would give you routine that's all!

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      Hi Sam. Thanks for your reply. It really means alot cause when I was really low I walk around with this ignorant mentality thinking I'm the only who feels like this. Makes me feel just a little better knowing that someone shares something similar and makes me feel a little less alone.

      That's great how active you stay. Its funny you ask cause I've been meaning to go to a pet store to get a small pet like a rabbit. Even though a dog would be great in staying active.

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      hi drewski, i am glad i could help. the only problem i have is i do do much that my physical health says no more and stops me in my tracks like it did earlier this week. i had to stop doing EVERYTHING for 2 days! i felt so ugh. however the cats help, they both wanted to lie next to me on the settee!

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    Hi, I think a big part to feeling this way is down to our social surroundings, Doctors like to put it down to a chemical imbalance, which I don't think that's the main reason it obviously is a component but having human interaction is a must for us. As humans we need to have other people around us or we do become depressed the more we are isolated. There is a Ted Talk on you tube about this, you should give it a watch, it really helps you understand what you are feeling and why, it was a real help for me. Have you looked online to see if there is anything going on in your area to get you out and about socialising with other. I don't have many friends so what I am doing at the moment is looking for things I enjoy online and starting classes where I can meet other people and hopefully build some new friendships. I struggle with social anxiety so it's a big thing for me but it can only get easier I suppose. You should think about things you enjoy then go look for some group classes doing those things. I hope this can help you in some way. best of luck!

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      Thanks. Great advice, I'll look for that ted talk. And you are totally right. It is hard also being at home when living with people that are depressed, its contagious. I was thinking of taking some exercise classes at a gym. I've been trying dating sites but its not easy. Similar to you I have social anxiety, which is why I have few friends and spend most of my time alone but I'm more hopeful of my future.

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    you are not alone. I have been battling with getting out of bed for months now. My Dr has tried to help to no avail. It is quite disturbing

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    begin the day with exercise, even if you dont feel like. push yourself into it.

    daily read some books which you love.

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    Hey, it looks like there is very little physical activity in your daily life, regular aerobic exercises can really help you to get out of this kind of condition. Apart from this I would say it would be better if you get some DNA scans that can help you to know any nutritional or vitamin deficiencies in your body. Because these nutrients balance our serotonin hormone which is essential to give us a feel good experience along with good sleep and a good digestive system. There are dozens of brands out there for vitamin recommendations but I know a few ones like Ginihealth, Vitagene or Thorne that can help you with the customised vitamins. There is no harm getting it checked. After all, proper sleep and daily routine is the most important aspect of a healthy lifestyle. Moreover don’t forget to inculcate light aerobic exercises in your daily routine that rejuvenate your life.

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