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I have been with my girlfriend for two years now. I love her and her daughter who is now 4. There have been many changes in our relationship since we started out. Our major issue is her alcoholism. It has become almost routine where we go 90 days and then relapse. I have tried to get her family involved but no luck. I work nights so its difficult to know but I'm assuming AA meetings 1-3 times a month. I am the wallet and had helped her get a job but that maybe lasts 2 days - 3 weeks and then its a relapse on the job and her getting fired. So I promoted her to stay home and focus on recovery for the past year but its been a continuous cycle. I am tired of it but here are my fears and heartaches. First I am afraid of the relapse that will happen afterwards with no one around but her daughter. Second I am the financial bearer of the family and make the only income. So when it has come to the jumping ship she has to find a place to go and a job which turns these horrible moments into painful days and longer. Third is that I love this woman and I love that little girl but I am the bad guy who cant "accept her disease". This whole ordeal has drained me and I feel guilty for wanting to leave. She is an amazing woman and I don't want to leave but I am done feeling alone in carrying the load. Any advice on how I may be able to approach this and possibly save a friendship?
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