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My mother suffers from Fibromyalgia and I have watched it destroy her and my fathers life for the past 10 years plus. She has completely given up on life, and basically spends her days sleeping, eating unhealthy, and watching TV. I am not here to debate the pain and difficulty that Fibromyalgia causes, nor am I seeking a cure. I wish to better my understanding of it so that perhaps I can somehow motivate her to improve her life, at least in a capacity that would assist with the hardship it puts on my father. Please understand I mean nothing but respect towards the condition, and those who come here for support.
My mother is about 60 years old and Fibromyalgia is her identity. She speaks of it constantly, and it somehow gets brought up in every conversation. Again, I do not doubt her pain, nor the difficulty of living with it. However, each day we hear about survivor stories, and people that go on to live full-rich lives and achieve great things while struggling through their respective disease. She appears to have given up. She has always struggled with weight loss for example, and I feel like additional weight on her bones and muscles most likely make it difficult to function in addition with Fibromyalgia. She also suffers from depression, which makes it difficult to discuss serious issues like this with her.
Just to be clear, I am not wishing for her to function as a normal, disease free individual. I just want her to reach her potential, and not be as self-defeating. My sister and I want to have a conversation with her, one that will bring change in her life but need to know if we are completely off base.
What could we say to motivate her without hurting her and giving her the impression that we are un-sympathetic to the disease? We highly respect the condition, but do believe that some level of activity is possible. I’m not sure what else to say at this point so I will turn the conversation over to you. Any input you have is appreciated.
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