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Unprotected sex between outbreaks

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haz83342
haz83342

I am a man who was recently diagnosed to have genital herpes. I told my partner that I got it from a one night relationship. 

I read that the chance of transmission of the virus to my partner is low in between out breaks. I know there is still a chance of transmission. 

I just want to hear from you all about your experience in that issue. 

Did any one try unprotected sex in between out breaks?? Did any one use condom??Did it go safely?? Did you use suppressive therapy all the time??

Thank you

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  • Guest
    Guest haz83342

    Posted

    Hi, how do you know you got it from the one night stand?  Did you test negative prior then positive after the one night stand?

    My ex was diagnosed with herpes 1?& 2 but the doctor didn’t put her on any medication. We did have sex but used condonms. I’m still post exposure so I’m waiting to be tested & hope to be negative.

    You can use suppressive medication & I recommend condoms at all times to prevent transmission but that’ll be up to the two of you.

    All the best

    • haz83342
      haz83342 Guest

      Posted

      Actually yes. You are right. I turned to have Ig M positive. And was negative before. And my gf is negative all through. 

      Waiting to hear about your results if you dont mind.  I really care to know about it. 

      I still did not decide what to do. Suppressive therapy is not cheap. And im afraid condom alone wont be optimal. 

      Thank you !!

  • mark50520
    mark50520 haz83342

    Posted

    Hello haz

    I caught genital HSV2 despite using a condom. Condoms only reduce the transmission rate by about 30%. You've done the right thing by having the discussion with your girlfriend.  The main risk is having a mild outreak that you dont notice and infecting your girlfirend that way. So you need to check yourself before you have sex. Get used to what you look like.  If anything looks or feels suspicious, just tell your girlfriend and dont have sex.   If you do this you are pretty safe between outbreaks. I've had sex many times with my girlfriend wihtout passing it to her despite not using a condom. However I've refused sex a few times too when I've felt like there might be an outbreak coming.

    Best of luck to you.

    • haz83342
      haz83342 mark50520

      Posted

      Do you use any precautions to reduce virus shedding like using suppressive therapy or other agents? I mean to reduce chance of virus transmission during sex. 

      Anyway, you made me feel comfortable as you used to deal naturally if you are sure you are normal between outbreaks. 

      I need your advice if you use an effective measure to reduce recurrent outbreaks. 

      I am welcoming any advice from your side as I have no experience. 

      Thank you for valuable words. 

    • mark50520
      mark50520 haz83342

      Posted

      Hi haz

      I don't take anything to suppress viral shedding, though I do understand aciclovir for example can help. I don't take it because my outbreaks are only a couple of times per year and very mild. My approach is to have a high level of vigilance.  I do spend a lot of time staring at my penis though lol.

      It might be worth you taking aciclovir if you have frequent outbreaks or if your outbreaks are severe.

    • haz83342
      haz83342 mark50520

      Posted

      Thank you for informative reply. 

      But my main concern is about how to manage sex in between outbreaks to reduce chance of transmission to my partner. 

      Can you tell me what precautions you take before sex? Condom? Anything else?!

      Thank you

    • mark50520
      mark50520 haz83342

      Posted

      All of my precautions are about the decision whether it's safe to have sex on that day. I check and if I don't have an outbreak i don't use any other precautions . I just go ahead.

      On the other hand if I have an out break or I'm not sure and maybe i can feel an outbreak starting then I assume I'm very infectious. I don't have any form of sex at all. Not vaginal, not oral, not even by hand.

      Condoms are very good for preventing many types of STIs but I don't trust them when it comes to Herpes.

    • haz83342
      haz83342 mark50520

      Posted

      It is very interesting it works good with you. You gave me great hope. 

      I hope i will as smart as you. 

      Thank you very much

    • paris83892
      paris83892 mark50520

      Posted

      Hi Haz , I totally agree with Mark .

      I’m not currently sexually actively but when I was I personally use Valtrex daily so it reduces my outbreaks and my partner didn’t get the virus at all . You have to learn yourself Know what triggers you getting an OB , learn how your area look with and without it , learn the feeling of getting one etc & Defintely stay away from sex with an outbreak . As far as oral I have no clue about that one . 

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