Unwittingly Had Protected Sex with HSV2

Yes, I am American. She is not on any suppressive therapy. I was not aware that it condoms only provided 30%

Yup... That's what they fail to tell everyone. I think the governments theory js, if they tell them that condoms don't completely protect against HPV and herpes, then people will be less likely to using them. Stop stressing. You totally didn't get it. I found out yrs later that I slept w someone that had genital herpes and I didn't use protection and I did not get it. Hope you paid attention to the percentages. It's not as contagious as you're thinking.

Wow... That's a terrible way to look at it. I'm sorry about your situation, but herpes is not the end of the world. 85-90% of people are asymptomatic w herpes and don't even have all the horror stories you hear about. The stuff on the internet is worst case scenario and for a very tiny percentage. The small percentage who do display syotkms, very rarely do and for short periods.

It is harder to pass the virus from a woman to a man. If you all abstain from sex during symptoms, I believe you have like a 6-10% chance of getting it a year. If you use condoms and abstain during symptoms, you have about 6-8% chance of transmission. If you abstain from sex during symptoms, use condoms and she take daily suppressive therapy, you have like a 2-4% chance a yr of contracting it. Your odds of dying in a car accident are just under 1% a yr... Don't see anyone running scares of driving w that risk do you?

If she is a good person and someone you really enjoy, why not take the risk? You never know if she ends up being soneone for the rest of your life.

Your friend is an idiot BTW.. I had symptoms in less than 24hrs of exposure.. Durning when I pee was the first sign.. Two days later, I had my first sores pop up. Tell your friend to go kick rocks. You wouldn't believe how ignorant and uneducated the medical community is on herpes. Believe me, you should listen to some of the stories of the docs on here. You wonder how they're even allowed to practice medicine

Thanks for the feedback.

This lady is telling me that she has had 2 other partners that had unprotected sex and they were neg. Basically my girlfriend is saying there is like no chance Im going to get it....etc. On the other end I get the RN 100%. I dont know whats true. 

Those statistics seem very promising to be honest. Like I said Im new to this. Im trying to understand it because I have been exposed to it. There seems to be lots of contrary data and really understanding this disease and how its transmitted seems elusive. They say skin-to-skin.....we did lots of me using a vibrater where my hands were exposed but I always washed up like a doctor, about to do surgery. 

Youll probably laugh at me, but I just cant "come" with a condom so I rarely was "in" and when I was I had underwear protecting more of my genitals. Hopefully, this will reduce my risks. She rubbed him out when I would get close to ejaculation. 

I told all of this to my RN friend and she still says my chances are about 50/50 at best. She also says that its is very very very contageous and anything that touches the genitals is like sure fact that I got it. Having said that, she is an RN nurse for a high volume emergency room. She hears the stories on a weekly basis and gave me a few. I dont know, I guess I will know soon enough.

Also you got symptoms in 1 day man? She is saying that it might be months before I get an outbreak. 

 

She's totally full of cr@p. I have spent yrs researching this disease . I'm talking downloading PDF docs to read medical literature, not these bogus sites. If that were the case, then just about everyone would have genital herpes. 1 in 4 women have it and 1 on 8 men. I have one gf who has had it for over 8 yrs and has had over 5 partners and has never passed it. They do not use condoms, have oral sex (unheard of really for hsv 2 to transit to the mouth. ) and she takes daily meds. I have 3 friends who are married and have not passed bit to their husbands and one friend who has been married twice now and has not passed it to either husband. So... Arw you going to believe someone who only sees I'll people or someone who has real life statistics as examaples in your life. You are jot going to get hsv 2 on your hands, but so not touch your eyes w out washing. Hsv 1 is the most versatile of the two strains and goes both areas, face, eyes, body and also known as heroes whitlow on your finger. Hsv 2 doesn't do that. Your friend seems almost like she's trying to sabotage you and this girl... It's very strange. I know a catty b*itch when I see one, believe. Don't confide in her anymore. She doesn't know jack

Thank you broken. After reading your post I realise something. The RN is a friend, but she is also single and we have been out for drinks a few times. She wanted more and I wanted to see how things went with my current, before making my mind up. Either way, since we are friends, cool, and knows more than I do about it....I went to her before a Doctor. I can see how both of thier motives are pulling out polar oposites. Also the RN has HVS1, which she admitted to me last night over coffee after pouring my heart out about all this. 

At this stage I just dont care. If I have it, I wish I could just get an outbreak and start a lifetime of Valtrax ... perscriptions. The fear is a bit paralising, but Im starting to see that even if I get it/ have it non-symptomatic, its a cold sore on crack. Either way, Im done dating for now and after this post let them both know Im just not ready...cause Im obviously not.

I would really like to read some of the literature you researched. I was recently diagnosed, and I just went out on a limb and told this new guy I'm dating. He responded rather well, but he really wants to protect himself against it. I've heard stories of people getting heroes from Oral sex. I am on suppressive therapy, but of course I don't want to be on that forever.