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Hi all, it's been a while since I've posted, I got a bit dispondant by so many people saying it is pretty impossible to 'cut down' and I saw comments like we were kidding ourselves and that substaining is the only way!

Well this is my opinion, maybe I haven't got as serious problem as I thought and that as I have previously thought before that I have had an awful habit , or that I have succeeded (so far) where people say I would've failed...

It's been 2 months since I woke up from a big session and decide to sort my life out and so far I am still doing amazingly, I'm still socialising just as much as I did but I have totally changed my concept of drinking

I drink slower I taste my wine and I walk home happily after having a few, I remember everything and my life had changed dramatically!

Will I stay on here when I feel I'm getting negativity ? I'm not sure, but it kick started me and I'm ever grateful for that

I'm also grateful for the special few that supported me in the first few weeks

Paul you are fantastic

Good luck everyone, stay strong

Much love

Rachel xx

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    Hi Rachel

    I didn't see your previous messages as I'm quite new to this Alcohol Consumption board but I think it's good if you have it under control. I imagine a line in which once crossed, you can't really go backwards, but I feel it's hard to know where that line is and whether or not you've crossed it in some circumstances. From the sounds of it, it sounds like you know where you stand and you're doing well so congratulations and I hope you continue to do well smile


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    Stay strong Rachael, everyone's opinnion is different and everyone's circumstances are different. Only you know you best !! If you can socialise and keep it to a few then good on you. I done that after two hospital detoxes and over time drank more and more until I was back at the start again . I have been detoxed again last month and I am now on Disulfram which gives you no choice, you simply can't drink whilst you are taking it. I have a twelve month course, which means no drink. I miss the socialising and going out, I don't think there is a easy answer. I hope you find the best way for you to move forward ! Be positive and good luck !!!
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    Hi Rachel, it's so lovely to hear from you and hear that you are happy. 

    I am in pretty much the same place as you.  I haven't stopped drinking, but I have it much more under control now.  I am drinking far less, and enjoying what I do drink.  Sometimes I need to drink  a little more, but I easily get back to a reasonable amount. 

    I am so sad to hear that you felt  negativity on here, I haven't felt that, but I understand how that would upset you and keep you from being a part of this forum. I hope you will re-think, I hope you will keep posting because you were a big part of my renewed drinking habits.  I also agree that Paul is fantastic, what would we do without him??!! rolleyes

    I would love it if you would keep posting, you would be supportive of the people like you and me. 

    Please stay Rachel.

    Love and hugs from a soul mate,


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      Ahh thank you Patricia, you are more than enough to restore my faith, sorry because now I feel selfish, we never realise the impact we have on other peoples lives, you too helped me 😃

      Well done and keep up the good work, I promise to keep you updated, please do the same xx

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      Oh bless you, I am so glad you saw my reply.  No, no, no, don't feel selfish, you were not selfish.  We are people who feel things deeply.  I cannot tell you how pleased I was to see you back on here because I had identified with you so much.  And every post you made was so helpful to so many people...especially me.

      Thank you Rachel.

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      And thanks for another lovely comment, Pat smile

      I should explain, I make my living from treating people with alcohol problems privately. I feel quite guilty that I can't afford to do it for free so I come here to give some back for nothing, and also for the pleasure I get from helping people smile

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    So pleased for you Rachel smile The truth is that the vast majority of people with alcohol problems find it impossible to cut down and then keep their drinking under control without the help of Nalmefene but there are exceptions and you are doing really well.

    Thanks for the lovely comment smile

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      There are so many good comments on here and having yourself to help people regardless of your professional practice - is fantastic biggrin

      Thanks again Paul.

      As far as the Nalmefene is concerned, there are basically no medical personnel here in Canada that know anything about it.

      If I could try it, I'd be so much more confident with my situation.

      I basically have no social life without alcohol as everyone  in my life drink. Time will tell.


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      Your social situation is hard, Tim, but I have a feeling that you are a determined and strong person, I am sure you will find a solution to your problem.  Keep searching and believe in yourself.

      Pat xxx

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      Thx Pat, the social thing just got more frustrating with friends argueing, etc.

      Crap. Puts me in a position I don't want to be in and I'm pretty sure others on here have an idea of what's that like.

      Will have a bite to eat and feel full, then don't feel like drinking anymore. Well this is me, others do the opposite and drink more.

      I'll take it cool tonight and re-avaluate tomorrow.

      Sorry guys, sh*t happens, I'll be OK!  Had to get this off my chest.

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    Well done Rachel

    I have also a similar story to tell and over the same period of time too . I drink every night but I cannot remeber the last time I had  bottle . Normally its two glasses then I get bored of it and want a cup of green tea or food !!!

    we are all different but it appears we are the same Rachel

    Well done smile xx

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    Sounds like you're making great progress, Rachel. When I was drinking heavily, I felt like crap. And people told me that if I worried about being an alcoholic then I probably was an alcoholic. If I sat down to enjoy a glass of wine I knew well and surely that I'd be p*ssed by evenings end! I could not have just one or two and drink socially. Been sober now 15 years and my life has been so marvellous with family, friends, work, etc. wouldn't take another drop for anything!! Keep up the good work. Seems like it's working for you!! 😊
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