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UTI or HSV

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Blackdragon911
Blackdragon911

So me and my girlfriend have been dating for a couple months now. Before entering the relationship I got a full panel STD test and came clean for everything except HSV-1 which makes sense because I got a cold sore one time in middle school and both my mother and my brothers and sisters used to get them. Of course I was freaking out about this after reading up online and seeing that I could potentially give it to my SO. I consulted multiple doctors and pediatritions about this ( transmission risk, shedding, symptoms, antiviral medication) and the concensious was "its no big deal" "everyone's blood shows positive for that" "pretty much everyone has it". So when I asked weather or not I should disclose they all said no I shouldn't and one doctor even said "that would be like disclosing you had a mild cough because you're afraid to get them sick" Still I disclosed anyways and my gf said she didn't care and that I was worth the risk. Months go by and we're sexually active. Last week she begins to feel the urge to go to the bathroom constantly and she says it's uncomfortable to pee and sometimes nothing even comes out. She also has headaches ( which she's been having constantly for a while) lower back pain, shoulder pain , and abdominal pain. She says she's had a UTI before but she didn't have all these symptoms. What is the chance that she contracted my hsv-1? She has no sores that we can tell and she's not in any pain except peeing and even then it's just uncomfortable. If she did catch what I got how do I deal with the guilt? I have severe depression and anything happening to my girl I just know i wouldn't be able to live with myself knowing I ruined her life. Advice?

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  • FelizCastus
    FelizCastus Blackdragon911

    Posted

    A first outbreak of gHSV1 is usually pretty nasty. This sounds more like a UTI or similar. Relax. Also, what your doctors said about HSV1 is correct, but you disclosed anyway and she agreed.
    • Blackdragon911
      Blackdragon911 FelizCastus

      Posted

      Thank you so much. I'm just really nervous I don't want to hurt her and I've taken every precaution possible to make sure she doesn't get it. This thing has given me so much anxiety , especially when it comes to making sure she doesn't get it.

    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus Blackdragon911

      Posted

      So long as you're self-aware, careful and disclose, and your partner agrees, then they take ownership for whatever happens, if anything, so the burden isn't all on you provided you do your part in remaining vigilant. Try thinking about it that way and don't put unnecessary pressure on yourself.

    • Blackdragon911
      Blackdragon911 FelizCastus

      Posted

      I am. But do you believe that this could be her HSV 1 primary outbreak and it's just mild or no? I know you said it's more severe but what symptoms usually occur with primary oubreajs of HSV-1?

    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus Blackdragon911

      Posted

      A first outbreak of gHSV2 can be mild, but a first outbreak of gHSV1 is typically worse involving painful lesions, burning urination (but not more frequent or reduced flow), swollen/tender lymph nodes in the groin, and possible flu-like symptoms (fever rather than headache). Burning urination with increased frequency but reduced flow is typical of a common UTI or other bacterial infection.
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