Vaginal Repair for Rectocele on February 27th, what should I expect?

So just to give a little background, I am a mommy of a 5 year old and I work at an Amazon warehouse. I am in the US. When I gave birth to my son, he got stuck in the birth canal and the doctor had to cut me and put a suction cup on his head and pull him out while I was pushing. Ever since the birth of my son I have been constipated and my vagina has been very open and loose. It never came close to being normal again after delivery and I had talked to several doctors and other women who had children vaginally and seemed to be the only one having this issue. Finally after 5 years of doctors telling me I was fine and normal and to just do kegals, I finally was diagnosed about 8 months ago with a "very relaxed perineum" and was told I needed to have a procedure called perineoplasty and that it would repair the tissue between my vagina and rectum and that it would help a lot with my bowel movements and tighten up the front of my vagina, but only the front few centimeters. I was very worried that if only the first few centimeters were tightened that my vagina would be like a little creek that led to an ocean, like tight for a second and then gigantic. Then in January I seen a different OBGYN that was switching my Merina (5 year IUD birth control) and I asked him what he thought. He did a vaginal and rectal exam and said my sphincter muscle was very damaged, my perineum needs repaired, and yes of course my vagina is very open. He said the ideal vagina is about a 2 finger size and mine is at least a 4 finger vagina. I am only 20 years old. I want the surgery. I would love to have regular sex and regular bowel movements. I want to be functional again. I worry that by getting this surgery I would have to have a c section if I chose to have any more kids in the future. I only have 1. It would be at least a few years down the road, but if I don't medically have to have a c section, I would rather not. By getting this surgery would I have to have a c section or get this surgery all over again? I am like addicted to getting as much information about the procedure as possible. It will be an outpatient surgery. I go in at noon, surgery starts around 1 and lasts about an hour and as long as everything goes "normal" then I will be released around 3pm. I will have post op check ups and will have to be cleared for things like sex and going back to work, and things like that. What is the normal time frames you were told and when did you feel like you were ready? What should I be asking on my next visit before the surgery? Has anyone else that has gotten this done been this loose or open before surgery? If so, did it really help with that? I mean it is so bad I hardly ever get an orgasm...I dream about them though. I love to have sex but I just feel ruined. Like my bank got robbed or something. I just want to make sure before I get this surgery and wait all this time for it to heal and miss this much work, that it is actually going to fix my problems. I also recently started getting a painful kind of pressure feeling in my rectum when I am sitting down. I am guessing this is a symptom of the rectocele issues? My doctor mentioned words like prolapse, having to put my organs back in place where they should be, putting my muscles back in place, perineoplasty, vaginal repair, and things like that. Will al of this happen in this surgery? How long did your surgery take? Has anyone had more than one vaginal surgery? I was told by my doctor that if I got more than one I would get painful scar tissue. Is this true in most cases? The pain that I will be in after the surgery, does is feel like after giving birth, worse, or not quite as bad? I am trying to get a general idea of what will happen. I have a wonderful boyfriend that is just amazing with my son and really wants to keeo him home with him and take him to preschool/daycare on his normal schedule (we work together but I get him ready in the mornings and walk him in) and then me and my boyfriend go to work. I will be staying at my mother's house for the first week or so until I am independent and comfortable doing a little bit more. (She's a nurse), and also because my boyfriend will still have to go to work. Just trying to plan out as much as I can. Any advice or personal experience you can share would be greatly appreciated. I am so very excited to finally get this surgery, but I am very afraid. My doctor acts like its no big deal and I will be fine in 4-6 weeks and I just don't think it's that simple. Thank you all for reading.

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